Happy growing up
Chunxia grows up in a typical rural village in the south of the Yangtze River, where there are green rice paddies and in the summer the ridges are covered with pink lotus flowers. She is the only daughter in the extended family, has two older brothers, and has been a pearl to her parents and grandparents since she was a child.
As long as Chunxia shows her affection for clothes or toys, her parents will definitely fulfill her wishes.
Chunxia still remembers that when she was 6 years old, when she saw the colorful plastic garland on the head of the girl in the next village, her eyes stared straight at it, and she muttered "beautiful garland" in her mouth.
The next day, her grandfather brought her back a pink plastic garland, and Chunxia was very happy.
Her cousin is Chunxia's confidant, she braids Chunxia's beautiful hairstyle and sews cute dresses for her with fabric.
After going to school, Chunxia's brothers also took good care of this beautiful and intelligent sister. In order to let Chunxia use beautiful little bamboo sticks in the class to learn Xi, the eldest brother and second brother even spent a day making 30 small bamboo sticks for her.
Chunxia, who has always been favored, is not spoiled, her personality is gentle and lovely, and she is deeply loved by her friends and neighborhood aunts. She grew up happily like a fish in water and spent a carefree childhood.
Marrying into a wealthy family is a surprise and sorrowful
At the age of 23, Chunxia married her cousin Sanshun through the introduction of her cousin and became the daughter-in-law of the Sanshun family. Sanshun's family conditions are good, his father is the principal of a local middle school, and his two elder brothers have already started a family, and Sanshun is the third in the family.
At the beginning of the marriage, Chunxia was full of fantasies about the future, thinking that she would live a rich and comfortable life.
Soon after getting married, Chunxia found that the family was not as happy as she imagined. My father-in-law can receive a pension of more than 1,000 yuan per month, but Sanshun and his brothers live a leisurely life, have no proper occupation, and do not want to go out to make a living, so they hang out and play cards all day long.
Chunxia found that Sanshun's brothers often found excuses to ask her mother-in-law for money, and her mother-in-law often opened her purse to support them.
An uncomfortable feeling slowly rose in Chunxia's heart, and she realized that Sanshun and his brothers were too dependent on their parents and did not have the ability to live independently and responsibly.
Maybe it was a misunderstanding of her when she married into this family. Chunxia changed her initial vision, and this kind of life made her feel bleak and worried.
At this moment, Chunxia found out that she was pregnant. A new sense of responsibility lingered in her heart, and she made up her mind that after giving birth to a child, she must let Sanshun change the status quo, find a skill to support herself, and not rely on her parents for life.
Decisively left home and fell in love
Chunxia gave birth to a son as she wished. With the encouragement of her mother's family, she decisively asked Sanshun to go out to earn a living. At first, Sanshun was reluctant to leave a comfortable life, but under Chunxia's repeated urging, he still followed his eldest brother to Beijing to work.
At the beginning, Chunxia took care of the baby alone, and had to take care of the household and farm work, and her life was hard. Fortunately, the child is very well-behaved and has also received help from her in-laws and parents, so she does not feel particularly difficult.
In contrast, she is more worried about whether Sanshun, who is far away in Beijing, will be able to adapt to his new life.
During the day, Chunxia is busy with housework, while wondering whether Beijing's Sanshun is Xi to the rhythm of work and life. At night, after holding the child to sleep, she will look through the photos sent by Sanshun in her mobile phone to see if he has dark circles or lost weight.
In the dead of night, Chunxia looked into the distance, silently hoping that Sanshun would Xi a new life as soon as possible, and then feed this family with her own hands.
Three years later, Chunxia proposed the idea of separating from her in-laws, which caused an uproar. Relatives and friends didn't understand her decision, but Chunxia couldn't return, and she believed that she was right.
After patiently explaining, her parents finally expressed their support, and Chunxia decisively separated from her in-laws.
After the separation, Chunxia was busier at work and often worked overtime to make money. The time for Sanshun to go home is uncertain, and sometimes he can't go back once in half a year. The husband and wife are separated, Chunxia often looks at the photos of Sanshun, although life is hard, but she firmly believes that as long as the two places are lovesick, the days will eventually become more and more prosperous.
The results of children's education are obvious
Time flies, and Chunxia's son gradually grows up. Chunxia, who worked hard, did not dot on her son because of his wealthy family, but strictly required him to study Xi diligently.
In order to accompany her children to grow up, she always tutors her son's homework in her spare time.
Chunxia often said that knowledge changes fate, and learning Xi achieves life. She told her son to go to the pinnacle of life through his own efforts, and not to repeat his father's old path of relying on his elders to get by.
The son is smart and sensible, and under the careful teaching of Chunxia, he was admitted to the provincial key middle school in high school.
Unlike Chunxia, Sanshun's brothers dot on their children and never ask them about their Xi. As a result, the nephews' grades were mediocre, and the idea of messing around was deeply ingrained. Chunxia saw it in her eyes, and secretly congratulated herself that she had a vision and did not let her son follow in their footsteps.
Eventually, Chunxia's education came to fruition – her son was admitted to university and found a decent and stable job. And Sanshun's nephews, one is an ordinary worker, and the other has a junior high school education, and they all live a poor life.
Her son's achievements are Chunxia's best reward for life. Realizing her dream of her child's education also made her feel fulfilled in life.
The old brother is miserable, she is lucky
The years are not forgiving, and Chunxia's hair has been dyed white. My father-in-law also passed away 6 years ago, and Sanshun's brothers lost their financial resources. They begin to realize that the laziness and inaction of their youth can make life difficult in their later years, but it is too late.
In their 50s, they had to go out to work, but because they were unskilled, they had to do manual labor. The eldest brother works as a security guard in Shanghai, and his legs are often pantothenic during surveillance videos; The second brother worked as a warehouse manager in a garment factory, and he had back pain from carrying goods all day long.
They live on a meager income, and their son has no hope of starting a family, so he and his daughter-in-law can only live in a crowded and dilapidated village house.
And Chunxia's son has already started a family, and he has a car and a house without worry. 6 years ago, Chunxia and Sanshun also specially provided their son with a down payment for the house, and now they rely on their son to repay the mortgage every month.
After retirement, Chunxia and Sanshun no longer need to work, leisurely at home to take care of flowers and plants, and tease their grandchildren.
Looking at the tragic situation of the eldest brother and the second brother, Chunxia was full of emotion. When you are young, you decisively decide the direction of your family life, so that your children and old age will not suffer from life. She is glad that she has the foresight and does not repeat the mistakes of her in-laws and eldest brother.
As the saying goes, only when you have to endure hardships can you become a superior person; Today we have to endure hardships, and tomorrow we will suffer bitterly.
Perception and reflection
Chunxia's life experience has given us many inspirations. First of all, have a vision and don't be fooled by the comfort in front of you. Secondly, we must be diligent and self-reliant, and create a happy life with our own hands.
Thirdly, we should pay attention to children's education, so that they can have correct cognition and positive spirit. Finally, be decisive in the face of life's problems and make choices according to your own judgment.
Chunxia's story also serves as a warning not to repeat the mistakes of her in-laws and brothers. Relying on others to support oneself for a long time will inevitably lead to a worrying life when you are old. So, while you're young, work hard and save for your old age.
On the road of life, attitude determines fate. We must maintain a positive and optimistic attitude of Chunxia, and persist in working hard in order to live a happy and beautiful life.
Looking to the future and full of hope, we will be able to make each of us the masters of our own destiny.