That day, I had a special sports experience with my family. We chose to climb the mountain, and we embarked on this journey together as a family. My father and I walked side by side, and my mother and sister walked behind us. Along the way, we laughed and encouraged each other, and felt the warmth and unity between our families.
When we climbed to the top of the mountain, we enjoyed the magnificent scenery and felt the joy of body and mind. This sports experience has made me cherish and appreciate my family even more, and I am willing to spend more time with them and create more beautiful memories together.
Back home, we celebrated this unforgettable sporting experience. After dinner, my father suddenly announced that he was going to marry a 55-year-old wife. This news surprised us, but what was even more unexpected was that the uncle asked the wife to agree to his three requests on the night he received the certificate, uncle: "You think beautiful." ”
"You think it's beautiful!" said the uncle firmly.
The three requirements put forward by the uncle were: first, to wake him up every morning, second, to make breakfast every day and prepare a glass of warm milk, and third, to massage him every night before going to bed. The wife was at a loss, but nodded in agreement.
The uncle smiled proudly, and did not forget to add: "The beauty you think!"
My wife smiled awkwardly, and we couldn't help but laugh along. This scene is really a bit unbelievable, it seems to be a sketch cross talk.
In the following days, the wife did as the uncle requested. Every morning, she would wake up the uncle and prepare breakfast and hot milk for him. In the evening, she will also massage the uncle, so that he feels meticulous care.
However, the uncle did not respond to her offer. He was not grateful for this, but a little proud and proud. The wife is becoming more and more depressed, and we see it in our eyes and feel distressed in our hearts. This kind of marriage doesn't seem to be what we expected.
At this time, I realized that marriage is not just a matter of giving and accommodating, but should be built on the basis of equality and respect. The care and love between family members should be a two-way street, not a one-sided effort. I decided to discuss this issue with my family, hoping to help my wife improve her relationship with my uncle.
After discussing it with my family, we decided to find a chance to talk to my uncle. My sister and I discussed the plan and decided to raise the issue with my uncle after dinner one weekend.
That evening, our family sat around the dinner table. After the dinner prepared by his wife, I opened my mouth and said to him, "Uncle, we want to talk to you. ”
Uncle looked at us, nodded and motioned for us to continue.
I raised our doubts about the promise we made to our wife, and I told him that in marriage, both parties are equal, and that the wife should not be all the burden of the housework, and that the responsibilities and care of the family should not be borne by only one party. After listening to my words, the uncle's face was a little solemn, and he did not open his mouth to refute, but fell silent.
After being silent for a while, the uncle finally spoke: "You are right, I have gone too far. ”
When the wife heard this, a trace of relief flashed in her eyes, she didn't blame the uncle, but just silently endured the grievances of these years. Our family decided to work together to repair the relationship between the uncle and his wife.
However, new contradictory events have also emerged. Although the relationship between the uncle and his wife has improved on the surface, the communication between them has not been smoother. The uncle is always alone drinking tea in the living room in a daze, while his wife is busy in the kitchen. There is a lack of communication between them and no common topics.
This situation worries me. I know that for a family to be truly harmonious, it is not only necessary to solve superficial problems, but also to improve the way family members get along and communicate. I decided to discuss it again with my family, hoping to help my uncle and his wife find a way to truly live together.
After the uncle married his new wife, the atmosphere in the house became a little tense. The wife was stressed by the uncle's demands, and the daily massage and breakfast consumed a lot of her time and energy, and she became more and more tired and irritable.
This situation has gradually led to conflicts in the family. The wife began to complain about the uncle's actions, thinking that he was too selfish and domineering, and only cared about his own feelings and did not consider the feelings of others. The uncle thinks that his wife should meet his requirements, after all, it is his wife's duty. The atmosphere at home also became tense, and my sister and I formed two factions, one group supported his wife, and the other group was more inclined to the uncle.
This kind of family conflict makes me feel very anxious and troubled. I know this is a serious problem for families and we can't let it get worse. I decided to find an appropriate time to sit down with my family and have a good talk about this together.
In such a state of marriage, the atmosphere at home becomes more and more dull. The wife always silently bears the uncle's difficulties and coldness, but the uncle is becoming more and more domineering and willful.
Once, the uncle lost his temper because the food at home was unsatisfactory, and he threw all the food out, which made his wife feel aggrieved and lost. Our mother and daughter were distressed and angry.
I decided to talk to my parents about this, I think this kind of marriage is not healthy, the wife gives a lot, and she should be respected and cared for. I hope that together we can persuade him to realize the harm his actions have caused to his wife.
Parents actually know the uncle's problem in their hearts, but they feel that as an elder, he is now close to old age and should take a step back. But I insisted that my wife couldn't keep her anger like this, and it was a devastation to her mental health and dignity.
We raised this issue with the uncle at the dinner table, but the uncle angrily accused us of overstepping our responsibilities and causing trouble for no reason. He stressed that his orders were the rules of the family, and his words were even somewhat provocative.
After this incident, the atmosphere became even more tense. The uncle seemed to be much colder to us, and the wife became more and more depressed and silent. The conflicts in the family have become more and more acute, and it seems that a critical turning point has been ushered in.
Soon, a new conflict arose in our family. The eldest aunt was dissatisfied with the uncle's harsh demands on her. She didn't understand why the uncle thought that these chores were her duty. She was fed up with the daily morning rush and evening massage, which made her feel more like a maid than a partner. We can also see that she is dissatisfied and more anxious.
But the uncle did not understand the eldest aunt's thoughts, and felt that he had the right to ask her to serve him. He believed that this was the duty of the eldest aunt, and that the status of the eldest man in the family was unquestionable. He began to become irritable and irritable, and the relationship became more strained.
In the face of such family conflicts, we all feel that we can't stay out of it. I knew that family harmony was important to everyone, so I decided to find an opportunity to talk to my aunt and uncle, hoping that they would look at the problem objectively and find a solution.
Soon, new problems arose in the family. In order to show his "demeanor", the uncle often drinks and chats with friends outside, and he is very impatient when he returns home. The wife began to feel lonely and helpless, and sometimes even cried alone. We all see it in our eyes and feel distressed in our hearts. In this family, small conflicts seem to be starting to build up into an insurmountable wall.
By chance, my father and I were alone. I mentioned these issues lightly, hoping that he would think more about his wife. However, the father behaved disapprovingly, and even a little angry. He felt that he had done enough, and that he should not pay too much attention to some small things for his wife. I tried to communicate with him, but he refused my communication again.
Looking at his back, I felt a little disappointed. Perhaps, the family and affection I expect do not exist in this world. However, I don't want to give up easily. I decided to sit down with my family again and have a sincere conversation about the problems in the family, hoping to find a solution.