Sun Xiaoguo's case is suffocating, because he lacked responsibility education and restraint since he was a child, he embarked on the road of no return to crime. Even though his mother took care of him, he still couldn't turn back.
In contrast, Director Wei Shusheng taught that properly allowing children to take on household chores is of great help in cultivating their sense of responsibility. Indeed, there are few words that could not be more realistic.
At the same time as Sun Xiaoguo, there is also a mother named Ying Caier. Her education for her son, Jasper, can be described as strict. In order to develop good living Xi, she has set various rules, such as not being picky eaters and wasteful, and not taking the priority of dining.
For a time, there was a lot of discussion in the public opinion circles, either praising or belittling. I think that Ying Caier's actions are basically correct, and she is cultivating children's sense of responsibility with practical actions. If all parents can carry out this kind of education consistently and imperceptibly, our society will become more civilized and orderly.
Yes, a sense of responsibility is the rock on the road of a boy's growth. It enables boys to take responsibility not only for themselves, but also for their families and society. Many parents don't realize it.
They mistakenly believe that it is a burden to have high expectations and demands on their children. As everyone knows, the appropriate "burden" is the nutrient for a child to thrive. Parents need to learn to instill a sense of responsibility in their boys through life, in which the father takes on the role of role model, and the mother should take a step back and let the son take care of the household affairs independently.
Over time, a boy will develop a sense of responsibility towards others and society, which will enable him to move steadily in life.
Sun Xiaoguo went astray because of his lack of awareness of rules, and his mother's doting also hurt him. In contrast, Ying Caier strictly requires her son to abide by the rules of the table. It seems that the importance of a sense of rules to the development of boys is unquestionable.
It is the basic law of society where boys are based, and parents must be strict from an early age in order to build a sense of rules in boys.
Specifically, parents need to establish enough authority before the boy is 6 years old, so that the boy has a certain reverence for his parents, and let the boy develop the Xi of following the rules in the details of life.
Although the child will not be convinced immediately, after day after day, year after year, the sense of rules will eventually become a part of the boy's bones. When a boy grows up and steps into society, this spirit of self-discipline and obedience can help him to succeed.
Of course, rules are not constraints, and parents still need to master the scale. Give boys the right amount of rebellious space when necessary to satisfy their healthy desire to explore. Only by finding a balance between love and discipline can boys grow up healthy and happy.
All in all, a sense of rules is the cornerstone of a boy's foothold in society, and parents must nurture it from an early age and keep it in mind at all times.
Ying Caier said that upbringing determines how far a person can go, and I agree with this. It is true that people who are cultured and polite tend to have an easier foothold in society, and cultured and polite must be grasped from the baby.
As parents, we have the responsibility to cultivate the quality of the boy's upbringing from the subtleties, such as strictly requiring him to abide by dining etiquette, not being picky eaters or wasting food, and learning to be grateful and respectful; Pay attention to your demeanor when you go out and don't make loud noises; Take the initiative to say hello to elders and lend a helping hand to those in difficulty.
These seemingly insignificant gestures are the basis of the boys' social pass. They contain the virtues of professionalism and trustworthiness that will make boys feel at home in social interactions.
Innate appearance or family background does not determine a person's superiority, but the reputation of honesty and trustworthiness, humility and courtesy can make a generation of celebrities.
Therefore, as parents, we must start with the little things of boys and cultivate their virtues of honesty and trustworthiness, respect for the old and love for the young. This requires parents to lead by example and actively create opportunities for boys to practice in their lives.
Only in this way can these polite qualities be integrated into the boys' blood and become a natural part of their loyal and kind character. Desire to explore is an indispensable and important nutrient for boys' growth.
Many parents mistakenly believe that the best love for their children is to overpamper and protect them. As everyone knows, satisfying boys' natural curiosity and desire to explore, and allowing them to take moderate risks and play, can just cultivate boys' independent and courageous character of exploration.
As a famous writer said, "If you don't stop your child from playing, he will grow into a genius." So how can we, as parents, satisfy this instinct of boys?
In my opinion, the main points are as follows: first, boys are allowed to be outdoors, climb trees and wade in water appropriately, and be exposed to danger to varying degrees; Secondly, prepare a variety of assembly toys for the boys to inspire them to operate and use their imagination. Finally, the boy is trained in a wide range of hobbies, such as painting, making, and so on.
While boys have fun with these games and explorations, they also inadvertently develop tenacity and bravery. This kind of character will make them like tall pine trees in a wheat field in their future life journeys, fearless of wind and rain, with deep roots and leaves.
Due to the relative lag in physical development, boys' emotional control ability is relatively weak, and they need guidance from their parents. In the face of the boy's tantrum and other emotions, parents must not be in a hurry to scold, let alone respond to violence with violence.
Instead, the boy should be given warm support to help him vent and manage his emotions through heuristic methods.
Specifically, we can choose the way of storytelling, telling the boy some far-reaching picture book stories to inspire him to think about the emotions of the characters; It is also possible to put a sandbag in the room and let the boy hit the sandbag when he needs to vent; We can also communicate directly with the boy, listen to his true thoughts, and express our understanding and support.
In addition, when a boy is depressed or aggrieved, a warm hug can also be a great comforting effect.
These methods can help boys to actively face and manage their emotions on the road to growth, and self-control and rationality are important qualities for boys to succeed.
Therefore, as parents, it is necessary for us to guide patiently and help boys build up the ability to control their emotions and remain rational. This will also be an important lesson for him to become a man who stands up to the sky.