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My husband and I have been married for 5 years, it can be said that I am a childhood sweetheart, I have been in love since high school, and I entered the palace of marriage after graduating from college. Married life should have been sweet, but I didn't expect my husband to work under pressure and often socialize, and our relationship gradually faded.
I still remember when I was married for 3 years, my husband worked overtime to get a promotion and a salary increase, and our lives did get better, but he was away from home all the year round, and I was alone at home in a daze at the TV series. One night, the doorbell rang suddenly, and I opened the door to see a strange woman dressed stylishly, who claimed to be my husband's colleague Xiaofang.
I was a little surprised that my husband rarely mentioned his colleagues at work, let alone brought them to his home. Xiao Fangjing sat down and said to me with a smile: "I have a good relationship with your husband, I came to see you, and the three of us can communicate often in the future." I was a little embarrassed and smiled perfunctorily, but I vaguely felt that something was not quite right.
After that, my husband worked overtime more and more frequently, and sometimes he didn't go home at night. I knew something was wrong. One day, I couldn't help it anymore and called my husband to ask where he was, and there was loud music on the other end of the phone, and my husband said that he was socializing. I knew he was lying, and my heart was like a knife, and I couldn't help but cry.
The rift in my married life grew wider, and I often ate alone and slept alone. My husband doesn't hurt me as much as he used to, and we haven't spoken properly for a long time. I was in great pain, and finally, I decided to divorce my husband.
My husband rarely came home early that day, and I mustered up the courage to say to him: "Husband, I want to divorce you, our relationship has come to an end, and I really can't bear your betrayal." ”
The husband looked surprised and was silent for a long time. It took a long time for him to speak, "If it's your decision, I respect you." I know I'm not treating you well during this time, and if divorce makes you happy, leave it. ”
I didn't expect my husband's reaction to be so calm, even a little indifferent. We simply came to an agreement and prepared for a divorce.
"Knock knock", in the dead of night, I heard my husband knock lightly on the door and walked in. He stood
He stood in front of the bed and said in an apologetic tone, "I'm sorry that I've been so devoted to my work all these years that I've neglected your feelings. I know you must be in pain and grievance, I'm really sorry. ”
I was silent, my heart mixed up.
My husband continued: "The pressure of work has been too great in the past few years, and I shouldn't use work to escape from my family. I thought about it all night and decided to quit my current job and we immigrate to New Zealand to start a new life, is that okay?"
I looked at my husband in amazement, his face full of exhaustion and remorse. I said, "But we've decided to get a divorce, and it's good for both of us." ”
Looking at my husband's pleading appearance, my heart softened. All these years of pain were comforted in this moment, and I nodded and said, "Okay, let's not get divorced, let's go to New Zealand and try." ”
My husband hugged me excitedly and kept saying "thank you". This hug made me feel warm for the first time in a long time, and I also hugged my husband tightly. And just like that, we canceled the divorce plan.
My husband got a light job and would have dinner with me on time every day when he came home from work. We would go for walks, watch movies, do housework together, and our relationship would grow stronger day by day. Once, when we went to the beach to watch the sunset, my husband suddenly knelt down and proposed to me again, and I excitedly agreed.
Just when I thought life was perfect, a phone call broke it all. On the other end of the phone was a strange woman who claimed to be her husband's ex, Xiaofang. My heart went to my throat at once. Xiaofang cried and thought that her husband couldn't sleep, so that her husband changed his mind. My hands trembled, and tears blurred my vision again.
When my husband saw my reaction, he immediately grabbed the phone and said, "Xiaofang, don't contact me again in the future, I have started my life again, please don't bother us again." Then he hung up, looked at me and said, "I'm sorry, it's my responsibility, I'll cut off contact with her." You believe me, okay?"
I nodded, and my husband hugged me and said, "The past is gone, we want to be together."
My husband hugged me and said, "The past is gone, and we have to face the future together." I will prove myself with my actions and will never let you get hurt again. ”
I wiped away my tears and decided to give my husband a chance. Since then, my husband has been more considerate of me, we will go for walks, do chores, prepare dinner together, and he will also take me to yoga classes and then pick me up. I could feel that he was really trying to make amends.
In this way, in the beautiful New Zealand, our relationship is slowly repairing. Until one day, my husband excitedly said to me: "I have good news for you, the company has decided to let me go back to China to take over a big project, this is a good opportunity for promotion!"
My heart sank: "But we live well here, do you really want to go back to China to work?"
Seeing my worried expression, my husband came over and held my hand and said, "I know what you're worried about, but trust me, I won't repeat the same mistakes this time." I will take care of the balance and never delay the family. ”
After thinking about it, I agreed to let him return to China to work. After all, people always have to progress, and I can't limit my husband's development. My husband was very excited and immediately began to be busy preparing everything for his return home.
After returning to China, my husband threw himself into work. He would regularly video with me and share with me the bits and pieces of his work. Sometimes I work late and ask the driver to deliver flowers to me. I saw that my husband was really trying to balance family and work, and I gradually became relieved.
"Why are you here?" I asked in surprise.
Xiaofang cried and said: "Alin didn't come home for a month on a business trip and didn't answer my calls, I really couldn't help but come to you." We've all been lied to by him!"
My brain "buzzed", and I felt that the world was spinning, and it turned out that my husband still hadn't changed, and he still chose cheating and betrayal!
"You go, I'll take care of this matter. I said to Xiaofang resolutely. Xiao Fang wiped away her tears, nodded, and turned to leave.
I called my husband several times, but all of them went unanswered. Finally, I couldn't bear it anymore and decided to go to my husband to confront me personally. I booked a plane ticket to fly to the city where my husband was on a business trip, and I blocked him at the door of the hotel where he was staying.
When my husband saw me, his face changed suddenly, but he still pretended to be calm and said, "Why are you here?" I am really busy on this business trip, so I didn't contact you in time, I'm sorry. ”
I said with a calm face: "Don't lie to me anymore, Xiaofang has already told me everything, you didn't travel at all, just with her!"
I burst into tears, my husband also had red eyes, he choked up and said, "I'm sorry, I'm really sorry, I know I did something wrong, but I really love you, it's just an impulse, please give me one last chance!"
I shook my head and said firmly, "No way, I can't trust anything you say anymore." After all, there is an unbridgeable chasm between us. I agreed to come to New Zealand to give our marriage a chance to be born again, but now it seems that it is dead. ”
When my husband heard my words, tears welled up in his eyes: "Don't be like this, I will regret it for the rest of my life if you leave! Divorce is not good for us, the children are still young, please think about it again!"
After saying that, I turned around and was about to leave, but my husband hugged my leg and cried "don't go". I took a deep breath and pushed him away.
On the way home, my heart couldn't calm down for a long time. Ending a relationship is inherently painful, and I need time to accept and heal.
Next, I hired a lawyer and negotiated with my husband many times, and finally reached an agreement and went through the divorce procedures. I moved back to my hometown on my own and started a new life.
My husband would call me from time to time and say that he missed me and the children. But I will never believe his lies again. A relationship requires both parties to manage it with their hearts, and I have given all my sincerity, but what I have received is betrayal again and again.
What I want to do now is to love myself, take good care of my children, and start a new life.
I put all my heart and soul into my work and my children's education. At work, I strive to be the best I can be, and gradually I am recognized by my colleagues and boss. The children also thrive under my careful care.
Just when I thought I was able to live independently and happily, fate gave me a big surprise.
It was a weekend and I took my kids to the playground. The child was sitting on the merry-go-round and I was watching, when suddenly a ball rolled at my feet. A man came up to me and said, "I'm sorry, can you pick up the ball for me?"
I nodded, and he continued, "But you look like I'm reminded of an old friend, I wonder if you recognize my former college roommate Arin?"
It turned out that he was my husband's college classmate! I told him that I was Arin's ex-wife. Xiaojie was very surprised, and he said that he had already advised Alin to cherish me. We talked very speculatively, and we talked like this until the evening.
Since then, Jay and I have been dating frequently. He was very nice to me and would be attentive to my feelings. When I was with my husband, I often had to take care of his emotions, and now I feel how good it feels to be cared for.
I also gradually developed a liking for Xiaojie. Just as we were getting closer and closer, my husband suddenly came back to me and said that he had never been able to forget me and the child, and that we had to get back together.
I calmly said to my husband, "I already have a new life, please don't bother me anymore." You can come and see your children every month, but there is no possibility between us. ”
My husband begged me to give him another chance with red eyes, but I firmly refused. I've found someone who really suits me and won't be bothered by my ex-husband anymore.
I told Jay all of this, and he understood and respected my choice.
Xiaojie said: "I understand your difficulty, if you still need time, we can keep our distance for the time being." Your happiness and that of your children is my primary concern. ”
I was moved by Xiaojie's thoughtfulness and said to him firmly: "There is no need to keep a distance for a while, I have made up my mind to be with you." I'm sure you won't repeat the mistakes of your ex-husband. ”
Xiaojie hugged me happily. We started dating officially, and I told my kids about it. At first, the child was a little resistant, but after seeing Xiaojie's careful care of our mother and son, he gradually accepted him.
My life with Xiaojie is very happy. One day, Xiaojie invited me to his house. He elaborately prepared a candlelit dinner and set red roses on the table.
We opened a bottle of champagne and Jay suddenly got down on one knee and proposed to me. I said excitedly, and we decided to have a wedding the following year.
I started preparing for the wedding and inviting friends and family to it. Unexpectedly, at this time, my husband suddenly appeared and asked for remarriage.
I resolutely said to my husband, "Please stop pestering me." I'm already in love with Xiaojie, and we'll get married. ”
I was stunned by my husband's words, I didn't expect him to be so shameless, obviously he did something wrong in the first place, and now he is still obstructing my new life.
Seeing this, Xiaojie also came to my side, and he calmly said to his husband: "I understand your feelings as a father of children, but we really love each other, and I hope you can bless us." You can still visit your child regularly, and we will not refuse it. ”
The husband was moved by Xiaojie's rationality and fell silent. After a long time, my husband finally nodded and said, "I respect your choice and wish you happiness." I'll leave the child to you to raise. ”
Xiaojie and I breathed a sigh of relief and thanked my husband for finally understanding.
The wedding date is approaching, and Xiaojie and I are preparing everything and looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together.