There is a question on the Internet:
What would a woman live like if she didn't have money?
Someone in the message area told a story, and I felt embarrassed after reading it.
He said that he had a classmate when he was in college, and at that time, the teacher asked the freshman to register his mobile phone number, but she did not have it.
Because the family is poor and can't afford to buy a mobile phone, let alone pay the phone bill.
She became the only person in the entire profession who didn't have a cell phone.
She was admitted from a small place, and she worked hard to study Xi, working part-time to support her family, while working day and night in the library, and her grades were not bad.
Everyone thinks that if she continues like this, at least she can find a satisfactory job after graduation.
Who knows, in the second semester of her freshman year, she fell in love.
I found a restaurant side dish on the Internet who I didn't know where.
The reason is also very simple, the other party bought her a mobile phone, and everyone else paid 10 yuan or 10 yuan, and this man paid her 50 yuan or 50 yuan.
She thinks that the person who can treat her like this must be sincere.
So he jumped into love without reservation.
Later, the man came to the school to look for her, and she did not return that night.
When I came back the next day, I was carrying two bags in my hand:
There were sneakers in a bag, which she cherished, saying that it was the first time she had worn such good shoes;
The other bag contained a bucket of instant noodles and a few bottles of drinks, as well as a half-uneaten bucket for the whole family.
While tearing open the lid of the instant noodles, she said with a smile on her face: The instant noodles in the bucket are really more fragrant than the bagged ones.
She said a lot that day, and everyone realized how poor and poor her life was in the past, and she was even so old that she didn't even drink a drink.
is also because of the poor growth environment in the past, which made her mistakenly think that the man who can charge her 50 yuan and buy her a family bucket without hesitation is really good to her.
In this way, they got better until they graduated from college.
I heard that she originally wanted to continue her education after graduation, but in her junior year, her belly grew bigger.
And the man who charged her phone bills and took her to eat and drink well had nothing but a lot of foreign debts.
She was in a dilemma.
But her inherent cognition could not make her make any decisions that were beneficial to her.
There was no way, she had to live with the man.
I'm sad after reading it.
A girl, the best youth, should be used the most time to improve herself, and it is wasted like this.
What is the impact of poverty on a woman?
A high praise replied:
It will make her narrow-minded, not understand love, and be moved by low-cost pay.
Oh, yes.
A girl who has never been wrapped in love since she was a child, how can she tell what love is and what is acting on the spot?
How can a girl who has not grown up on a sufficient material basis not be captured by a candy and a hug?
No wonder people say:
Life is the most tragic for this kind of girl.
It is to let them meet love at an age when they should not have love, and go astray when they should forge ahead the most.
didn't know that all the gifts given by fate had been secretly marked with a price.
That's why too many people have come to advise young girls:
When you have no money and your family's economic conditions are not very good, your first choice must not be to find a man.
Why?
Because whether it is for love or for money to contaminate a man, you have no way out.
When you are poor, your energy field is weak, and in the words of the Law of Attraction, it is difficult for you to meet people who are much better than you.
You know, no man will love you because you are poor, and naturally he will not cherish you because you are weak.
In addition, when you are poor, there is a high probability that you have no vision, and it is difficult for you to judge whether the people you meet are good or bad.
To sum up, you can think for yourself, what kind of people will you meet at this time?
You have nothing, you can only use the little youth and flesh you have left in exchange for this man's so-called kindness and commitment.
If you meet a good person, maybe you will grow up together, and one day you will be equal;
But if you meet someone who just wants to have fun, then the consequences of this incident may not be able to bear after you wake up in the future.
So what should we do at this time?
The answer is simple:
The first thing you should do is always to read.
There is a story on Zhihu about the growth of a girl.
She said she grew up in a very remote area, where the preference for sons is generally preference, and girls basically have to go out to work when they reach the age of 16.
After earning money for a few years, come back and get married and have children.
This was true of my ancestors.
But her family is different.
Although my mother had only attended literacy classes for a few years, she had always felt that girls should study more and go out for a long time.
Her sisters, even if they did not Xi well in school, their mother insisted that they finish high school and go out to work when they are older.
As for her, because she was diligent and studious, her mother supported her until she graduated from graduate school.
One year she went home to go through the formalities and looked at the girls in her former class.
Some married early and had children, lived at home, and continued to repeat the days when their ancestors faced the loess with their backs to the sky;
Someone hastily married someone, the object has no ability, but he is very active in beating his wife, and as a result, he is wronged all day long.
And herself, although she is not worry-free about food and clothing in the big city, at least she can buy the clothes she likes, eat the things she likes, and she doesn't have to look at people's faces when she spends money.
Instead of waiting for a sense of security, you can find someone who has a common topic to be with.
What's more, she can also take her mother to her place of work, and in this way, she changes the fate of three generations of her family.
She writes under her story:
"The conditions are poor and the study is hard, but it is only ten years.
But if you can't survive these ten years, you will suffer for a lifetime. ”
Yes, why did Principal Zhang Guimei establish a girls' school, and why did people persuade poor girls to study more?
Because they've all been there, they know:
That's the only way you can grasp when you're young, and it's the way you can change your destiny on your own without having to look at people's eyes.
At this time, if you work hard to move forward, you will really be able to stop repeating the life of your mother, and you will really be able to have more choices.
Yang Jiang once said:
Studying is not to get a diploma or make a fortune, but to become a warm, interesting, and thinking person.
The books you have read, the people you have met, and the things you have carried have made up the pattern of your life.
Reading may not change your destiny, but it will certainly broaden your horizons and give you more opportunities to choose.
Therefore, when a woman is poor, never try to change her fate through marriage.
What you have to do is not to rely on one person with all your might.
Instead, they did their best to get themselves out of such a quagmire.
This is never a sentence of chicken soup.
Of course, reading a book doesn't mean reading a dead book.
On the premise of knowledge, the mind is more flexible and flexible.
If you want to study hard before graduating from college, then what you need to do after graduating from college is:
Find ways to make more money.
I've seen some bloggers share their experiences, she is the kind of person who has a good family background since she was a child.
Her parents have always taught her to study hard, get into a university, and find a good job.
But she was never taught to earn money.
So after she graduated from college, she was a little "ashamed of making money".
You may even feel that it is a shame and shame to ask for a bride price when you get married.
After giving birth, she simply became a stay-at-home mother like most women.
"Because I want to give my children the best companionship and care, I want to be hands-on in everything. ”
In the 3 years she took care of the child, she had no income herself, she had always been the breadwinner of her husband, and she had never taken care of the family's financial expenses.
It wasn't until later, when her child went to kindergarten and she re-entered the workforce and began to earn money to support her family, that she realized:
It's terrible to have no money.
Because of the three-year blank period, it is difficult for her to make any breakthroughs in her career, so she wants to spend money to improve herself.
But her husband thinks she is wasting money and is going to be cut leeks.
During that time, they kept arguing over money.
"In the end, he didn't lend me a penny, remember, he didn't lend me anything. ”
This incident was like a cold slap in the face, and it woke her up all at once.
Only then did I understand my own naivety when I was young.
In the year of her establishment, standing at the crossroads of her life, she woke up:
It turns out that what can give you confidence in this world has always been the deposit balance on your bank card.
Regardless of whether you used to be a top student or a leader, having no ability to earn money is the biggest blow and insult to you.
Now she has already let go of the "shame of making money" and started to work hard.
She also doesn't think about "I can take a break" anymore, because she knows she can't stop at all.
Finally, she also advises girls like her:
Before getting married, you must make full preparations, talk about money boldly, and avoid falling in love.
At the same time, you must have your own savings, and you must also give yourself the ability to make money constantly.
Because, only if you have a certain amount of savings, can you have the opportunity to stand on a bigger platform and improve your vision and career.
The more you know, the more you can really learn to recognize people, and you will be more aware of what you want.
And then there is true physical and mental freedom.
Looking back at their stories, I am reminded of a sentence I once read:
The poorer a woman, the more she must recognize reality.
It's best not to watch the story of Cinderella becoming a wealthy family, and don't fantasize that one day Ba will step on colorful auspicious clouds to save you.
And to be clear and down-to-earth, understand the importance of relying on yourself to change your destiny.
To sum up, it is nothing more than the following two points.
1. Read more when you're young.
Because reading books can build your body of knowledge.
And knowledge is really capable of changing fate.
Even today.
When you have a complete knowledge system, you have a brain armed with knowledge.
When you know that when you encounter a problem, instead of blindly thinking and venting your emotions, you have used your knowledge to find a solution, and you have already jumped out of the shackles of your original family.
Reading is the fastest way to let others "see you" and "look up to you".
2. Make more money when you grow up.
Although money is cheesy, it can keep you from wronging yourself for some small things, and it can allow you to achieve true freedom.
Women don't necessarily make money to support their families.
But if you have a house of your own, you will never have to worry about the landlord going to increase the price, and you don't have to worry about your boyfriend arguing and breaking up and telling you to "get out".
Love is fleeting, marriage is fragile.
That's why it's all the more important to work day and night, pursuing material and spiritual independence.
Reading and making money is really a woman's lifelong practice.
At this point in the article, I also want to ask you, how did you get out of your original life trough?
If you could do it all over again, what would you most like to do when you were younger?
I hope that your experience can give encouragement to more girls in distress, and I hope that every girl can do her best and have her own life.