The ancients said: "People have the ambition to soar to the sky, but they can't pass through themselves without luck." ”
Success needs the blessing of luck, and changing fate needs the help of nobles.
These noble people are not your best friends, nor are they necessarily family members who get along day and night, but those who have vision, wisdom, and positive energy.
In the new year, the following three kinds of people are the nobles on the road of your life, and you must firmly grasp them when you encounter them!
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When you achieve something, criticize your people
"Xunzi Self-cultivation" has a saying: "Those who are not me, my teacher, and those who flatter me, I am also a thief." ”
The one who pointed out my shortcomings and gave criticism and advice was my teacher, and the one who flattered me was the thief who harmed me.
Some people are flattering and only say three points to you, and they will not throw away all their hearts, but some people will risk offending you and tell you the truth and really do good for you.
Such a person is a mentor and friend in life, and a noble person in life.
Cao Yu, a master of drama, wrote "Thunderstorm" at the age of 23, "Sunrise" at the age of 25, and "The Field" at the age of 26.
He is a genius in the history of modern drama, and is known as "China's Shakespeare." ”
In his later years, he was still creating, but his works were not as good as one, and others did not dare to say much because of his name, only his friend Huang Yongyu bluntly pointed out:
"I don't like the play after your liberation, I don't like any of them, your heart is not in the play at all, you are now mistaken by the situation. ”
A letter from Huang Yongyu sobered Cao Yu up, and from then on he no longer had distractions in his creation.
True criticism is always more valuable than false praise. Those who dare to tell you the truth and criticize you are the ones who are really good to you.
Good medicine is good for disease, and good advice is good for action.
Only a true friend will speak out about your flaws and blind spots, allowing you to keep improving and getting better.
I've heard a quote like this:
Those who criticize you are today's enemies and tomorrow's friends, and those who praise you are today's friends and tomorrow's enemies.
Cherish the people who criticize you, they are the noble people of your life.
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Someone who helps you when you are in trouble
Mr. Yang Jiang once said: "Only when you are in a humble position can you have the best chance to see the truth of the world's human feelings." ”
A true noble person is someone who helps you without asking for anything in return, and someone who is willing to be by your side wholeheartedly when you have nothing.
Before the famous writer Shen Congwen became famous, he fell into a long period of low times.
When I first arrived in Beijing, I couldn't find any work, so I had to rely on odd jobs to survive, and every manuscript I worked so hard to send out was lost in the sea.
In the cold winter wax moon, there is no cotton clothes to remove the cold, and even eating has become a problem.
Before he was on the verge of death, he wrote to ask for help, but was politely refused, and just as he was about to give up, his friend Yu Dafu hurried over.
First take him to a restaurant for a full meal, at work, recommend him to the editor of the newspaper through others, and give him all the money in his pocket before leaving.
With the help of Yu Dafu, Shen Congwen kept writing, and finally became popular in the literary world with the book Border City.
There is no doubt that Yu Dafu is the noble person in his life, helping him through the darkest moments of his life and allowing his talents to be brought into play.
Throughout the ages, it is easy to add icing on the cake, but it is difficult to send charcoal in the snow.
The greatest luck in life is to meet someone who is willing to pull you when you are at a low point.
During this period, some people will be hypocritical and tell you that people's hearts are unpredictable, and some people will accompany you and tell you that there is true love in the world.
In times of adversity and poverty, those who are willing to lend a helping hand must be remembered.
It is precisely because of their bridges and paving the way that our lives can be turned into disasters again and again.
03
When you are lost and confused, encourage your people
The writer Han Yu wrote in "Ma Shuo": "Maxima often exists, but Bole does not often have." ”
The best Maxima in the world needs Bole to exert its power, and the same is true for people, with the guidance of masters, the potential can be fully tapped.
Once upon a time, there was a young man in a poor mountain village.
He studied Xi and studied hard, but fate made people go, and he failed to achieve anything when he took the exam three times.
The family persuaded him to continue to work hard, maybe he would be admitted next time, but the neighbor mockingly said that it was not a material for reading at all, and it was better to marry a wife and plant crops as soon as possible.
When he was confused and helpless, there was only one friend who took the trouble to come to him, analyze the wrong questions with him, guide him to the direction of the Xi, and assist him to keep moving forward.
In this way, under the guidance of his friends, he was admitted to the ideal university and walked out of the mountains that his ancestors had not been able to get out of.
The famous writer Han Han once said: "How good a person is depends on who he has to guide him." ”
Such a person is your noble person, who can guide you when you are confused and stuck, support you when you are frustrated, and solve problems.
He can remind you of your shortcomings, appreciate your strengths, and make you a better version of yourself.
On the long road of life, the road is opened by the predecessors, the walk depends on the individual, and the guide depends on the nobles.
Walking in the world, having such noble people can make our lives go to the next level.
04
Be the noble person of your own life
In the Analects, it is said: "The gentleman seeks for himself, and the villain seeks for others." ”
In fact, the first noble person on the road of life is ourselves.
The story of "Dumpling Queen" Zang Jianhe is well known, born in poverty, and finally married a husband with a prominent family.
Her husband mysteriously disappeared and married someone else, and she divorced and returned to her hometown in anger, but was coldly looked at by relatives and friends.
She takes care of her children alone, works as a handyman during the day, a nurse at night, and goes to Wan Chai Pier to sell dumplings when she has time.
With her superb craftsmanship, more and more people ate her dumplings, and the business became bigger and bigger, and finally the brand "Wan Chai Pier" was established.
In the Book of Changes, it is said: "Since God blesses it, there is no disadvantage." ”
If you work hard, God will help us, which is what people often say is that God helps others.
Instead of counting on others, it is better to rely on your own hands and win everything.
Wind and rain in life, hold your own umbrella, in order to take your destiny into your own hands.
Live yourself as the sun, and you don't need the light of others to illuminate the path under your feet.
The best people in the world are those who rely on themselves, and the most powerful noble person in the world is called himself!
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Li Bai wrote in "Difficult to Walk": "It is difficult to walk, it is difficult to walk, there are many divergent roads, and I am here today." ”
On the road of life, there will always be various difficulties and dangers.
The person who is the first blow in your scenery makes you sober and re-examine yourself;
The person who pulls you when you are at a low point gives you warmth and kindness and encourages you to stand up;
Guiding people when you are confused makes you reflect and grow and become a better person.
They are all people who come to cross you in this life, and they are all noble people on the road of life.
In 2023, let us thank them for their appearance, with the complementarity of noble people, our life can be stable and far-reaching.
The new year has arrived, and we must not forget to thank the most precious person in our lives, that is, ourselves!
In 2024, thank yourself for never giving up easily, the new year will definitely get better and better, and all the good things will come as scheduled!