Text/Flying Fish
Marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also a relationship between two families.
Therefore, as parents, when they know that their children want to get married, when they understand each other's families, and the two families sit together to talk about marriage, then as parents, we must dare to ask each other's families for their children.
In fact, as parents, they all want their children's marriages to be happy, but marriage is not a simple thing, only by understanding each other and communicating some things can the marriage be smoother.
For the happiness of marriage, as a parent, no matter who you are in-laws with, before getting married, it is a foresight to take the initiative to ask the other party for these three things.
1. Sincerity.
No matter who you are in-laws with, ask the other party to be sincere.
Sincerity is the most touching thing, honesty is not about how much dowry, the most important thing is to look at the other party's family's attitude towards marriage, if the other party can't even give the wedding, even the basic things such as wine, then there is no sincerity.
Who would be willing to let their daughter pack her things and go to the man's house?
They all hope to see their daughters get married in a beautiful way, even if the wedding is not very gorgeous, but they must also have, at least decent, so that their daughters can also be looked down upon and not pointed at behind their backs.
No parent wants their daughter to be wronged, so in the matter of marriage, you must look at the sincerity of the other party. Take the initiative to ask the other party's family's attitude and ideas about marriage, see their sincerity to the wedding, and also tell the other party their actual situation, and then see how the other party arranges, as long as it is decent, then parents will rest assured that their children will get married.
Pity the hearts of parents all over the world, everyone wants their children to be happy and respected, so sincerity is very important.
2. Respect.
When a child gets married, no matter how thin-skinned the parents are, they should also ask the other party to have an attitude, that is, respect for the child, respect for the marriage, and respect for the wedding.
I believe that many places actually have their own customs, and the parents' intention is actually to marry according to the tradition, and the other party's family can respect the tradition of their own side and agree to do so, so it can be seen that they understand the etiquette, not denial, nor avoidance, and do not respect the tradition at all.
In the eyes of the elderly, tradition is actually very important, not excessive tradition, and should be respected, because parents raise their children to adulthood, but also want their children to remember some inherited things, remember the etiquette.
Because these things like marriage are, in the final analysis, a kind of human sophistication.
For example, my sister is about to get married, but my sister comes to the door and my brother and sister are not married, so she is a cross brother and sister, and when she gets married, the man has to seal a big red envelope for his brother and sister, and he has to buy clothes for his brother.
There are also some unmarried brothers and sisters with the same surname in the village, and they should also properly seal a red envelope to them, which is a custom and a courtesy.
As a parent, when you encounter such a situation, you have to say it, so that the man knows, and then let them respect the tradition here.
Only mutual respect can make this wedding go smoothly.
3. Responsibility.
Marriage is not child's play, it is not a joke.
Since you have chosen to get married, it means that you have to be responsible for your family, because after getting married, you are not just alone, but a family.
Before the parents get married, they should ask the other party about their attitude towards marriage, to see if the other party can really take on the responsibility of the family, if the other party is unreliable and hangs on the child, then which parent can rest assured that the child is married?
Before becoming an in-law, both parties should understand their responsibilities and obligations, take responsibility, be responsible for their lovers, be responsible for their families, put away their playfulness, work hard, and work hard to make money, in order to run their own small family well.
Therefore, no matter who you are with, you must ask each other for three things: sincerity, respect and responsibility, which is the foresight.
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