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Preface
When I asked her if she had any troubles marrying far away, she said that her neighbors had repeatedly ridiculed her for marrying in China as if she was not as good as Laos!
When Xiao Luo Yuan married to China, she was really outgoing and outgoing, often sharing her recent situation on social platforms, and the prosperous Chinese attractions fell in the eyes of her relatives and friends, who stubbornly believed that China was a poor country and looked down on Xiao Luo Yuan to marry.
Not to mention that in a marriage, only the parties know whether they are happy or not, with the name of "one of the least developed countries", why do you think that Xiao Luo will suffer here?
Xi of life
As early as the last century, China and Laos have promoted economic development and cultural exchanges between the two countries by virtue of their friendly diplomatic relations, and China has a far-reaching influence on the investment of Lao people.
Especially in the context of the "Belt and Road" era, the cooperation between the two countries is closer, and various trade cooperation and people-to-people exchanges have invisibly led to the gradual formation of a harmonious and prosperous relationship between the two countries.
Xiao Luo chose to set foot on this land during the period when the two countries were friendly and China was developing rapidly, and wanted to break out in China, so she came to China alone despite the opposition of her family.
Laos is a country with a slow development rate, Xiao Luo's life has been very difficult since he was a child, and the neighbors who are used to living poor days and have a bitter face around him, whether it is out of fear that Xiao Luo will not achieve anything and finally return to China, or he can't see Xiao Luo go out and make some achievements.
These inconsequential people under the banner of "good for her" have more than once openly and secretly hoped that Xiao Luo would not come to China, thinking that a woman would eventually return to her family to teach her husband and children and make money to support her family, so why bother to go to a poor country to develop?
Xiao Luo, who has known and loved Chinese culture since he was a child, has thought more than once that he will come to China, a peaceful and happy country in the future, even if he has no savings, Xiao Luo still came here with a lonely heart.
At first, she worked in various fields of work, earning money to support her daily expenses, and at the same time playing around in her free time, she was optimistic, strong, and experienced and made many friends.
Here she met her husband, who had the same adventurous spirit and loved to travel, and the two had similar views and attitudes towards life, and they became confidants and friends at a moment's notice, and then entered the marriage hall from a couple.
Her husband, who grew up in China, took her to various places to experience the cultural customs, working hard while working hard and working hard to spend money on travel, such a lifestyle may be seen by others as passable and unplanned, but the couple enjoyed it.
When she was newly married, her husband took her back to her rural home, and her husband's family welcomed and loved her very much, and she was very friendly to her, which made her feel the warmth of family affection like never before.
Although this is a rural area, the streets are still bustling with traffic, food stalls are full of fireworks, and the streets are brightly lit shops, and people mostly gather in groups to enjoy the good nightlife.
After returning home, Xiao Luo couldn't help but be frightened by the scene of her husband's house, a total of 5 floors of the house decoration is simple and generous, the location is in the center of the city but not too noisy, as if in a villa.
These are rare things to find in Laos, where the economy is slower than other countries, so there are few cars and people in the middle of the night, and most of the people from wealthy families still move through the city.
She casually uploaded the photos of this "paradise" in her heart to her social account, wanting her family to feel this happiness and telling everyone that she is very satisfied with her current life.
But what she didn't know was that when she learned that she was married to rural China, the people around her were only left with cold words and ridicule, and when she saw the photos of the countryside, she was even more determined to think that Xiao Luo had a bad life.
At this point, Xiao Luo is very open, she thinks that life is her own, she does not regret coming to China, and her life with her husband is also very happy and comfortable, China is no longer a poor and backward country in their mouths.
Marital relationship
When it comes to Laos, most people's first impression is that it is a relatively backward country, and its presence is very low compared to other countries in the world.
In Laos, an ethnic group called Akha, people's living Xi habits and thinking concepts are stuck in the ancient feudal era.
Women here have endless daily jobs to farm and sell crops that can be harvested to the market, using the money to finance a family's expenses.
"Your feet can't touch the ground" at the end of the day, but in the eyes of most people, a marriage relationship needs two people to run together, and both parties strive to maintain an ideal state of getting along.
But the man in this relationship is not asked to do anything, more often than not, he is like a leader, holding the right to speak in the family, and seeing his wife busy and indifferent.
Most of the local women have been instilled with this concept from birth, and they have been taught since childhood to listen to the man after marrying, and they cannot fight back in the face of beatings and scolding, and they are forced to accept this idea of rebelliousness.
After Xiao Luo got married, she found that China's marriage relationship is unusually harmonious and equal, although in ancient times in the mainland, women's social status was generally lower than that of men, but with the development of the times, people's thinking has improved, more and more people have emphasized the equality of men and women.
In terms of marital relationship, when both parties want to establish a legal relationship, they should ask the opinions of the family members step by step, and the two families should sit together to discuss the marriage.
Couples can discuss who should focus more on the family, and if they have enough financial resources, they can also choose to have one person stay at home full-time with the children and take care of the family.
Husbands and wives will not have a situation where only one party has the right to speak because of the income gap or social status, and if they get married with the consent of both parties, their married life should also be led by both of them.
Cultural differences
Laotians like to eat light and simple food, mostly seasoned with various spices, common sour and spicy food, love glutinous rice, roast chicken, papaya shreds and other delicacies.
When most Laotians invite friends and family to their homes, they will give the fish or chicken heads on their plates to the guests from afar, which is a form of respect and friendliness for the guests.
When the hospitable host is in high spirits, he will also bring out the mellow and rich wine made from various fresh fruits and spices in his home, and the guests need to drink as much as possible to express their gratitude when they take the glass.
In the process of eating, Chinese who pay attention to health preservation pay more attention to the "freshness" of food, and will try to choose foods that are good for the body, and like to eat various hot dishes that are cooked and fried through steaming.
As a big country of food, people pay more and more attention to nutrition, taste and price in the process of tasting food, and when they want to chat with friends or go out to socialize, most of them will choose to go to various restaurants to cultivate feelings and talk freely.
Most people in Laos also eat with their hands, and later more and more people use spoons, Xiao Luo can only eat with spoons when she first comes to China, and after tasting a lot of food, she also began to try to use chopsticks, and now she is more and more handy.
With the help of her husband, Xiao Luo gradually became familiar with China and felt the difference of this country, and Xiao Luo also brought her parents to China for a period of time.
Parents who originally had the same idea as many neighbors found that the pace of life here is fast, the quality of the people is high, and the standard of living is enough for their daughter to live a happy life, and the second elder is completely relieved.
epilogue
Each couple has their own rhythm of life, China's rural areas are not too poor and backward as the public imagines, even if the material level is not high, husband and wife can enjoy a simple and comfortable married life, welcome people from all over the world to come to experience China's cultural Xi, people's way of life.
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