Someone said: "I used to think that the death of a loved one was a rainstorm, but it was actually a long wet time." ”
When a loved one dies, especially suddenly, we are often so sad that we can't help ourselves, and we may cry so much that we can't breathe, or even we are confused and overwhelmed.
But those who are alive must always cheer up and handle the aftermath well, and if the old man dies, the son and daughter will help their parents to make a big show.
Even if most people don't have the financial means, they will want to be decent, and they will notify their relatives and friends at home to send their relatives one last time.
This is not only human nature, but also a traditional custom for thousands of years.
But a young man in Minhang District, Shanghai, violated such traditional customs:
After his father committed suicide due to depression, he forgot to report his funeral to his aunt!
My aunt knew from other relatives that after her brother died, she went to the funeral home to see her brother off for the last time, but she didn't expect her nephew to beat her and break her ribs!
Such a strange thing is really incomprehensible.
When my father passed away and my nephew didn't inform my aunt, did I forget it, or did I do it on purpose?
Is this a distortion of human nature, or is it a moral degradation?
01. The father and the old man died, and the son forgot to inform his aunt
Uncle Wang, a 68-year-old native of Shanghai's Minhang District, has somehow suffered from major depression in recent years.
On June 3 of this year, he could not bear the torture and committed suicide at home.
His son, Mr. Wang, was very sad and sad for a while, but he still cheered up to help his father with the funeral.
He informed his relatives of the news of his father's unfortunate death, and asked everyone to attend his father's funeral and see him off for the last time.
When notifying relatives and friends, I don't know what happened, Mr. Wang just didn't inform his aunt Aunt Wang.
Such a situation is really incomprehensible.
It stands to reason that my aunt is the closest relative in the family, even if my nephew is not close to my aunt, but my aunt is my father's sister, and my father and my aunt will still have dealings.
Generally, when a family member dies, the first wave of relatives who are reported to be mourned are basically close relatives, such as aunts, parents-in-law, and brothers and sisters.
But Mr. Wang's other relatives have notified, but his aunt has not been notified, and his relatives and friends who helped him with his funeral seem to have forgotten about it.
In this way, on the day Mr. Wang was sent to the funeral home for cremation, my aunt still knew the news of my brother's death.
She learned the news of her brother's death from other relatives, and before she had time to grieve, she found that her nephew had not told her, and that her brother was about to be cremated.
My aunt hurried to the funeral home, thinking about sending her brother on her last journey, and seeing her nephew's behavior at the scene made her very cold.
Sad, sad, and angry, she also wanted to ask her nephew: Why didn't you inform me when my brother passed away?
Maybe the aunt was too sad and blamed the nephew loudly.
Mr. Wang couldn't stand his aunt's scolding, he was uncomfortable when his father died, and now his aunt, who is an elder, accused him on the spot.
Especially at the cremation site, the relatives and friends around me are looking at me, at this time, my aunt came to stir up trouble, is it intentional? Is it embarrassing for yourself?
The nephew, Mr. Wang, couldn't stand his aunt's provocation regardless of the occasion, and in the process of pushing and shoving with his aunt, he impulsively started to move on his aunt.
The result of impulsiveness, sadness and anger was that Mr. Wang broke two of his aunt Wang's ribs, resulting in crushed fractures of the ribs.
At this moment, the cremation scene became even more chaotic, and Mr. Wang's funeral had to be hastily ended, and the whole family was in a bad mood.
02. The aunt took her nephew to court
After her brother's funeral, the more Aunt Wang thought about it, the more sad she became, and then she thought of her nephew's actions, and she was even more sad.
After being discharged from the hospital, Aunt Wang was furious and wanted to take her nephew to court.
Indeed, legally speaking, Aunt Wang can win the lawsuit.
First, the nephew broke two of her ribs, which already constituted intentional injury. If Aunt Wang's injuries are evaluated and the level of a crime is reached, Aunt Wang's nephew will be punished by public security or sentenced to fixed-term imprisonment.
Secondly, Mr. Wang did not notify his aunt to come to the funeral, and also infringed on his aunt Wang's right to mourn.
The Civil Code of the mainland stipulates that the right to pay tribute is a kind of personality right.
The content of the right to commemorate is very rich, including: the right to meet at the end, the right to dispose of the body, the right to engrave the tombstone, the right to choose the tomb, the right to decide on funeral matters, etc., the right to notify the death information, the right to participate in the memorial activities, and so on.
Obviously, as the sister of the deceased, Aunt Wang enjoyed the above right of worship, but her nephew deprived her of the right.
Therefore, if Aunt Wang really goes to sue her nephew, there is a high probability that she will succeed.
However, at the suggestion of the mediator, Aunt Wang finally turned the conflict with her nephew.
It turned out that the mediator told Aunt Wang that you can win this lawsuit, but winning means completely tearing your face with your nephew and losing your family affection.
Aunt Wang finally chose to forgive her nephew, in addition to asking her nephew to compensate for her hospitalization expenses, etc., she also asked her nephew to apologize.
At first, Mr. Wang was reluctant to reconcile with Aunt Wang.
He thought he had just forgotten to inform his aunt, and he didn't mean to.
My aunt blamed herself at the scene of her father's cremation, deliberately provoking trouble and being dissatisfied with herself.
After many mediations and repeated communication and negotiation with Mr. Wang, Mr. Wang finally agreed to settle with his aunt and paid for his aunt's treatment.
03. How to choose between love and law?
Netizens have different opinions on this matter.
Some netizens accused my aunt of not having the tolerance that elders should have.
Mr. Wang was so grief-stricken that he forgot to inform his aunt. As an elder, the aunt should be considerate of the nephew, and should not make a fuss in front of the brother's funeral hall regardless of the occasion, so that other relatives and friends can see the joke.
Some netizens also think that even if Mr. Wang forgot to notify his aunt, why didn't his relatives around him remind him? His mother, wife, cousins, siblings, or other relatives and friends should have reminded him? Did they do it on purpose?
Some netizens said that since this is the case, Mr. Wang's whole family or other relatives who participated in the funeral did not notify his aunt, is it because the relationship between the two families has not been good?
But most netizens said they didn't understand Mr. Wang's approach.
Some said that their aunt was the closest relative, their father's sister, and their closest relative, and it was understandable that others did not notify them, but it was really incomprehensible that my aunt did not notify them.
Some people also said that if they encountered such a thing, they would slap their nephew a few times
Indeed, such a major event as the death of my father was not notified to my aunt, and it is not justified by the sentence "I forgot to notify".
Many people are chilled by their nephew's approach, thinking that such a nephew is not as good as a stranger, and the aunt should continue to sue him.
Mr. Wang passed away, whether it was his son Mr. Wang or his sister Aunt Wang, they were undoubtedly sad and sad.
As the relatives of Mr. Wang, in the face of the departure of his family, they should have put away their grief and give the old man a ride, but they did not care about the occasion and made a very embarrassing scene, which really shouldn't be.
What do you think about this?
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