Song Ningfeng's previous marriage experience can be described as ups and downs, and he has tasted both the sweetness and the pain of breakdown. In 2012, Song Ningfeng and actress Qi Xi met during the filming of "The Mystery of the Floating City", and the two quickly entered into marriage.
Unfortunately, the good times did not last long, and it ended in divorce only 7 years later.
As an actor, Qi Xi has a successful career and global attention, while Song Ningfeng's popularity is inferior to her. This significant phenomenon of strong women and weak men may be the micro factors that prompted the two to finally break up.
However, Song Ningfeng has paid a lot for this relationship. Shortly before the divorce, he also changed his name to "Song Ningfeng", hoping to save this relationship through the homonym with Qi "Xi".
But in the end, the path of life diverged.
After the divorce, Song Ningfeng was still in a trough at first. At this time, a woman named Zhang Wanting took the initiative to enter his life.
Zhang Wanting was deeply attracted by Song Ningfeng's bookish gentleness and elegance, and she volunteered to support Song Ningfeng through this difficult period. At first, Song Ningfeng was not optimistic about this relationship, but gradually accepted it under Zhang Wanting's enthusiastic pursuit.
After the two quickly confirmed their relationship, Zhang Wanting became pregnant with Song Ningfeng's child. It seemed like a wonderful new beginning for her.
Zhang Wanting was full of infinite longing and beautiful yearning for Song Ningfeng, and she even became pregnant with their child not long after establishing a relationship with Song Ningfeng. However, the reality of life is often much bleaker than ideal.
For the two people who are not well off materially, this undoubtedly adds a lot of pressure.
They did not hold any lavish and solemn weddings, but did not register their marriage until after the birth of their daughter. The various trivial matters during this period undoubtedly made Zhang Wanting feel a lot less satisfied with this relationship.
For example, when it comes to buying wedding rings, Song Ningfeng has no savings to cope with such expenses. In the end, it was Zhang Wanting who worked hard to pay off the mortgage and accumulated 12 months of savings before she barely bought a wedding ring that symbolized eternal marriage.
This made her have some complaints about Song Ningfeng.
In her married life, Zhang Wanting often complained that Song Ningfeng was not considerate enough in family life, revealing her dissatisfaction with her family role between words. And this also became the fuse for frequent quarrels in the future.
Song Ningfeng himself was more reserved and silent, and rarely shared his thoughts with Zhang Wanting. This will undoubtedly exacerbate the latter's insecurity, making her feel that she is not understood and trusted by Song Ningfeng from the bottom of her heart.
So all kinds of suspicion and desire for control also sprouted.
The unsatisfactory life after marriage and various dissatisfaction with Song Ningfeng prompted Zhang Wanting to decide to participate in a marriage observation reality show called "Goodbye Lover" with her.
She hopes to take this opportunity to change Song Ningfeng and create a perfect husband image. However, Zhang Wanting's various behaviors eventually backfired and caused great controversy in public opinion.
In the early days of the recording of the show, Zhang Wanting began to make negative remarks about Song Ningfeng's career. She thinks that Song Ningfeng has been in the entertainment industry for many years but has almost no achievements, and as an actor, it can be said that he is quite a failure.
Therefore, she hopes that Song Ningfeng can change his career and no longer be obsessed with his untalented profession. Song Ningfeng, who was denied his career, could not hide his disappointment, and he tried to defend a few words, but was interrupted by Zhang Wanting sharply.
This undoubtedly embarrassed the other guests at the scene.
In the follow-up recording process, Zhang Wanting frequently mentioned Song Ningfeng's two former well-known actresses. She seems to be quite sensitive and nostalgic about this, and she also hopes to show that Song Ningfeng's feelings for her are not as deep as the previous two paragraphs.
This made the atmosphere very weird, and everyone was persuading Zhang Wanting not to mention these pasts again. Song Ningfeng himself seemed at a loss, he didn't want to analyze his emotional world in public.
Zhang Wanting's various actions made her the focus of the entire show, and she alone supported 90% of the popularity and topicality of the show. It's just that the pressure of public opinion is also very huge, and many netizens bluntly said "it's terrible" and "suffocating".
But perhaps we should examine her inner vision and motivation, which may have the vulnerability and expectations of ordinary women.
Zhang Wanting's extreme words and deeds in the show made many viewers complain about her. She was so controlling and open-mouthed that she almost looked like a madman.
However, if we start from her inner world, we may be able to find a plausible explanation behind these seemingly crazy behaviors.
Zhang Wanting is an ordinary woman who desperately wants to be loved. She chose Song Ningfeng, a weeping willow that was at a low point at the time, in fact, she wanted to find an object that could be easily controlled.
Gaining emotional dependence by satisfying the material needs of the other party is how Zhang Wanting seeks a sense of stability. So when she found out that Song Ningfeng's inner world was much more complicated than she imagined, Zhang Wanting sincerely felt panic and unease.
She was afraid that Song Ningfeng still loved his ex-wife, and she was afraid that she was just one of these exes and would not be treated in the slightest. This intense sense of insecurity prompted her to find a way to control Song Ningfeng and force the latter to act according to her wishes.
For example, asking him to cut off contact with his ex-wife is due to this inner anxiety. Zhang Wanting is actually not as strong as she seems, she also has the fragility of ordinary women and the desire to be treated gently.
It's just that her expression is not good, and it is easy to cause others to dislike it.
Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng's marriage was still in jeopardy at the end of the recording of the "Goodbye Lover" program. The various contradictions between the two have not been effectively resolved in front of the stage, and many of the cruxes that have been pickled in their hearts have not been resolved through communication.
Therefore, there is still a big unknown whether the couple will be able to continue to write a happy ending.
The first problem is that the two Achilles' heels of Zhang Wanting's desire to control and Song Ningfeng's low emotional intelligence have not changed in the slightest. Zhang Wanting still goes her own way, and Song Ningfeng still has a 100-compliant attitude.
This tragic configuration doomed the problems between the two to be unsolvable through compromise between the two parties. Without the intervention and adjustment of external forces, their marriage is very likely to end in failure.
Of course, we can't completely deny the existence of the emotional basis of this newlywed. After all, living together for several years has a different taste in my heart. Perhaps what awaits them is a normal thing - gradually grinding off the edges and corners of trivial life and finding a way to live in harmony with each other.
It will take time, and it will also require more support and encouragement from the outside world.
No matter what the outcome is, Zhang Wanting's marriage to Song Ningfeng is worth pondering. As parties, we must learn to think from the other party's point of view; As bystanders, we should also look at the imperfections of others with tolerance and understanding.
These are all necessary elements to maintain a relationship and go through the ups and downs of life.