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My name is Li Jing, an ordinary housewife who lives in an old neighborhood in Beijing. My husband, Zhang Wei, is a middle manager in a company who is busy with work but has an unshirkable sense of responsibility for his family. We have a five-year-old son, Xiaobao, who is a lively and lovely child. My mother-in-law, Aunt Wang, lives in a small villa in the suburbs and comes to our house every few months for a while.
It all started on that autumn morning. My mother-in-law has just come to our house and plans to stay for a week to help take care of Xiaobao. I thought it would be a quiet weekend, but I didn't expect the conflict to happen quietly.
The first quarrel was on the second day after my mother-in-law arrived. I got up in the morning to make breakfast for Xiaobao, but my mother-in-law insisted on making it, saying that the breakfast I made was not nutritionally balanced. I was upset, but I gave in. However, when she started criticizing me for not knowing even the most basic cooking skills, I couldn't help but retort, and the atmosphere suddenly became tense.
"Jingjing, you see that these eggs are all burnt, how can you do it? My mother-in-law sighed and brought the spatula next to me.
"Mom, I think it's okay, Xiaobao also likes to eat. I tried my best to remain calm, but there was inevitably displeasure in my tone.
"Hey, I'm doing this for Xiaobao's good, don't take it to heart. The mother-in-law's tone was a little helpless.
This kind of small friction happens almost every day. The mother-in-law has opinions about Xiaobao's education methods, eating habits, and even dressing Xi dress. I tried to be patient, but the pressure and dissatisfaction in my heart started to build.
On the third day, we had an argument over Xiaobao's schedule. My mother-in-law insisted that Xiaobao go to bed early and wake up early, and I thought it would be okay to sleep a little later once in a while.
"Jingjing, why are you so ignorant? "The mother-in-law was obviously a little angry.
"Mom, I know you're for Xiaobao's good, but it's okay to be late once in a while, you don't have to be so strict. I tried to explain.
"I'm from here, and you're right to listen to me. The mother-in-law's words were full of confidence.
When Zhang Wei goes home every night, he can feel the tension at home. He tried to mediate, but it often backfired. He was a gentle man, and he seemed a little powerless in the face of the conflict between my mother-in-law and me.
"Jingjing, mom is also for our good, so don't be like her. Zhang Zhong was caught in the middle and persuaded me.
"I know, but ......" I have so much to say, but I don't know where to start.
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During this time, the atmosphere at home became more and more tense. Whenever I had an argument with my mother-in-law, Zhang Wei was always in a dilemma, but more often than not, he would choose to side with his mother. I felt like an outsider, unable to fit into what was supposed to be a warm family.
On the evening of the fourth day, things took a turn for the worse. My mother-in-law was busy preparing dinner in the kitchen, and I watched TV with Xiaobao in the living room. At this time, the doorbell rang, I went to open the door, and it turned out to be my mother.
"Jingjing, I heard that you have been feeling bad lately, so I came to see you. My mom said with a look of concern.
My mother's surprise visit was a bit of a surprise, but it was also a little gratifying. My mother-in-law heard the sound and walked out of the kitchen, her face showing a hint of embarrassment.
"Oh, isn't this Aunt Zhang, why are you here?" the mother-in-law greeted politely.
"I'm here to see Jing Jing and Xiaobao, and I can help by the way. My mom replied with a smile.
The atmosphere at dinner that night was a bit awkward. My mother-in-law and my mom sat together and talked to each other, but the topic was always deliberately avoiding sensitive issues in the family. Zhang Wei also seemed to breathe a sigh of relief, seeing that the two mothers could live in peace.
On the fifth day, the problem arose again. My mother offered to take Xiaobao to the park to play, but my mother-in-law insisted that the weather was bad today and it was not suitable to go out. The two old men disagreed, and the atmosphere was tense again.
"Mom, I think the weather is okay, it's good to take Xiaobao out for a walk. "I tried to support my mom's proposal.
"But it's windy outside, and Xiaobao is prone to colds. "My mother-in-law is still stubborn.
In the end, we still didn't go out. My mom was a little disappointed, and my mother-in-law was a little proud. This delicate family balance is upset.
On the sixth day, Zhang Wei's younger brother, Zhang Qiang, also came to our house. Zhang Qiang is a humorous and cheerful person, and he can always use his jokes to ease the tense atmosphere. But this time, even his jokes couldn't lighten up the atmosphere at home.
"Brother, what's going on with your family lately? It's all so dull. Zhang Qiang said half-jokingly.
"Hey, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. Zhang Wei responded with a wry smile.
That night, the atmosphere in the house reached a climax. My mother and mother-in-law had a heated argument over Xiaobao's education. Zhang Wei and I both tried to persuade him, but it seemed that the more he intervened, the more complicated things became.
"What are you doing here, why can't you live in peace?" Zhang Qiang said in a loud voice.
But both my mother and my mother-in-law are stubborn,
Didn't listen. The argument went on for a while, and finally ended with everyone exhausted.
On the seventh day, the atmosphere was still tense. I felt an unprecedented pressure, as if everyone in the family was expressing their dissatisfaction and protest in their own way. In the morning, when I was preparing breakfast in the kitchen, my mother-in-law and my mother were there, and the atmosphere was awkward and silent.
Zhang Wei looked at all this before going to work, looking extremely helpless. "You ...... Can you try to communicate?" he suggested cautiously.
But his words didn't seem to get anyone heeded. My mother-in-law and my mom are both strong women who are hard to change once they have decided.
At noon, Xiaobao came back from kindergarten and looked a little scared when he saw the atmosphere at home. My heart ached, realizing that our contradictions had even affected him.
In the afternoon, I decided to have a frank conversation with my mother-in-law and my mother. I asked Zhang Qiang to take Xiaobao out to play so that the house could be quieter.
"Mom, Auntie, can we sit down and have a good talk?" I asked.
At first, the two old men still insisted on their own words, but as the conversation deepened, the atmosphere slowly eased.
"I know you're all for Xiaobao's good, but we need to find a way for everyone to live comfortably together. "I tried my best to stay calm.
"I ...... I might be a little stubborn. The mother-in-law finally relented.
"Me too, sometimes it's too direct. My mom softened her tone, too.
We finally started talking about some practical solutions, such as Xiaobao's education and daily schedule, and how we could better work together instead of contradicting each other.
That night, when Zhang Wei came back, he saw the three of us busy in the kitchen together, with a long-lost smile on his face.
"That's right, home should be the warmest place. He said with emotion.
However, the good times were short-lived. On the eighth day, I accidentally overheard the conversation between my mother-in-law and Zhang Wei. My mother-in-law was complaining about me, saying that I was not doing my duty as a daughter-in-law, and even implied that I did not respect her enough.
The anger in my heart was rekindled. This time, I didn't have patience and went straight to Zhang Wei.
"Did your mother always speak ill of me behind your back?" I asked bluntly.
Zhang Wei looked a little embarrassed, "Be quiet, Mom is also angry for a while......"
"Do you know how hurtful it hurts me?" I almost yelled.
Zhang Wei was silent. At that moment, I realized that this situation was no longer a simple communication problem, but a deep-seated problem in our family relationship.
That night, I decided to have an in-depth conversation with Zhang Wei about our family relationship and how to deal with us
between the issues. We sat in the living room, surrounded by silence and only the ticking of the clock.
"Zhang Wei, I think we need to talk about it seriously. I got straight to the point.
"I know, quietly, I feel these problems too. Zhang Wei's voice carried a hint of exhaustion.
I told him that I felt that in this home, I always seemed to be marginalized and my opinions were rarely heard. I mentioned my mother-in-law's attitude and also mentioned the way he handled these things.
"I know Mom sometimes talks a little harshly, but she also cares. Zhang Wei tried to explain.
"It's one thing to care, but that doesn't mean it's okay to ignore my feelings. I said firmly.
Our conversation lasted for a long time and discussed many issues in the family, including how we deal with family conflicts together as husband and wife, and how we balance the feelings and needs of our respective family members.
That night, we didn't find solutions to all our problems, but this in-depth exchange undoubtedly brought us closer and made us realize that our family can only be harmonious if we work together.
On the ninth day, I decided to communicate with my mother-in-law again. I found a suitable moment, my mother-in-law was watering the flowers on the balcony and I walked over.
"Mom, I think there are some misunderstandings between us that need to be clarified. "I try to keep my tone as calm as I can.
My mother-in-law stopped what she was doing and turned to look at me. "Say it. ”
I expressed my feelings to her, including my discomfort with some of her words and actions, and my wish she would understand my position more.
The mother-in-law was silent for a while, and then said slowly, "I may be really a little too stubborn. As a mother-in-law, I always want to do everything to the best of my ability, but I ignore your feelings. ”
Our conversation went more smoothly than I expected, and my mother-in-law even offered to try to change some of her behavior to reduce friction between us.
Over the next few days, the atmosphere in the home improved significantly. My mother-in-law began to respect some of my decisions, and I tried to understand her good intentions. Zhang Wei also worked harder to play the role of mediator between us.
However, family harmony does not happen overnight. We are all aware that building a harmonious family environment requires everyone's hard work and constant communication.
On the fourteenth day, my mother-in-law was ready to go back to her home. Before she left, the three of us sat in the living room and had a very sincere exchange.
"I have learned a lot during this time, and thank you for your tolerance. The mother-in-law said sincerely.
"We've learned a lot, Mom. Zhang Wei held his mother-in-law's hand.
"I believe that as long as we are all willing to work hard, our home can be a better place. I added.
The moment my mother-in-law left, we all had a sense of relief.
This ease is not only because the source of friction is temporarily gone, but more importantly, we are all aware that family harmony requires joint effort and understanding.
In the days that followed, the atmosphere at home became noticeably more warm and harmonious. Zhang Wei began to become more actively involved in family affairs, and he was no longer just a bystander or mediator, but an active participant. Together, we have established family rules, respecting everyone's opinions, and striving to create a family environment where everyone can feel comfortable and satisfied.
My mom has also changed. She began to try to understand her mother-in-law's position, rather than blindly opposing it. She even offered to communicate more with her mother-in-law to reduce misunderstandings and conflicts.
Xiaobao also felt the changes in the family. He became happier and more lively, smiling every day when he came home from school. I realized that family harmony has an immeasurable impact on a child's development.
I've learned a lot in the process myself. I learned how to better express my feelings, how to find a balance between different opinions, and how to work with my family to solve problems. I've started to appreciate the time I spend with my family more and stop letting trivial things get in the way of our relationship.
As time went on, my mother-in-law came to our house again, and this time, her attitude became noticeably softer and more accommodating. She began to respect my decision and stopped giving an opinion on every little thing. Our relationship became more harmonious, and we were even able to agree on some things.
I also started to try to understand the problem from my mother-in-law's point of view and was no longer so stubborn. The dialogue between us has become deeper and more sincere, no longer superficial politeness or arguments.
Zhang Wei always had a satisfied smile on his face when he saw all this. "I'm really happy to see our family become like this. He said.
The changes in our family have also affected the people around us. Neighbors began to notice the harmonious atmosphere in our home and sometimes even came to us for advice on how to deal with problems in their own family.
This year, our family held a large family gathering during the Chinese New Year. Invited our relatives and friends, including my mother-in-law and my mom's friends. At the party, everyone gathered together in a warm and happy atmosphere.
At the climax of the meeting, I proposed that everyone sit in a circle and talk about how they have felt and changed over the past year. When it was her mother-in-law's turn, her eyes glistened with tears.
"This year, I learned a lot, especially about understanding and inclusion. I'm so happy to see how harmonious our family has become. She said with emotion.
My mom also said, "This experience made me realize that family is not only a gathering of blood relations, but also a gathering of understanding and love. ”
Zhang Wei held my hand and said warmly, "Thank you, Jing."
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