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My name is Li Mei, I am 28 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Zhang Qiang for 3 years. We were college classmates, and we got married after a year of love. Married life is plain but happy, and we are very affectionate. Zhang Qiang has a stable job and is very good to me. This year I was also ready to work, so we decided to have a baby, and just as I was about to stop contraception, something happened that was hard for me to accept.
I have a mediocre relationship with my parents-in-law because I don't like some old feudal etiquette. I think men and women are equal, and they should keep themselves after they get married. But Zhang Qiang's parents attach great importance to these rituals, believing that they are traditional Chinese culture. Zhang Qiang and I often have some arguments about this, but we have a deep relationship, so it's not a problem.
I immediately felt very uncomfortable and said firmly: "Mother-in-law, I do not approve of this kind of ritual. Zhang Qiang will not agree either. Zhang Qiang looked at me and then at his mother, looking very embarrassed. My mother-in-law's face changed immediately, and she insisted that Zhang Qiang kneel down now, and I would also participate. I strongly objected, but my mother-in-law did not listen and ordered Zhang Qiang to kneel down quickly. I couldn't stand it, so I snatched the teacup from my mother-in-law's hand and fell to the ground in anger!
When my mother-in-law saw me smashing the teacup, her face instantly turned red, and she yelled at me in a sharp voice: "Li Mei, how dare you, a woman who doesn't know the rules, be so rude!"
I also got angry, and immediately replied: "Mother-in-law, I just don't approve of these old customs, how can you force me to participate in these rituals?"
My mother-in-law pointed at me and said in an even more agitated tone: "Our family has been like this for generations, this is a tradition! Get down on my knees!"
I fought back my anger and said as calmly as I could, "No, mother-in-law, I can't accept such an unreasonable ritual. This is no longer an ancient society, you can't force me!"
Just when we were arguing, he said publicly: "Meimei, you are not sensible! You must abide by the rules of our family, otherwise you will be unfilial." Hurry up and compensate my wife for the teacup, and then kneel down and apologize to us!"
I was almost angry, and immediately replied: "Father-in-law, I respect you, but I will never participate in such a ceremony as kneeling." I won't compensate for the teacups, my mother-in-law forced me!"
When my mother-in-law heard me say this, she pointed at my nose angrily and said, "You woman who doesn't know what to do, this teacup is our family heirloom, you must compensate for it!
I couldn't bear it anymore, so I yelled back at my mother-in-law: "Okay, what do you want?
When my mother-in-law heard me say this, she was so angry that she picked up the teapot and threw it at me! Fortunately, she was stopped by Zhang Qiang. I saw that Zhang Qiang finally stood up, thinking that he would speak fairly, but who knew that he just advised us to calm down, with an ambiguous attitude, and did not support me at all.
I was very disappointed and said directly to Zhang Qiang: "You have this attitude? Your parents bullied me, and you don't care?"
Zhang Qiang looked very embarrassed, he said cautiously: "Wife, I understand your feelings, but your parents are elders after all, so you can't directly confront them." Why don't you apologize to them first, everyone give in, and this matter is over. ”
I was almost angry, and immediately replied: "Zhang Qiang, how can you be so irresponsible? Don't you speak for my wife? Do you also agree with your parents' ridiculous demands?"
Zhang Qiang hurriedly explained: "No, wife, I support you, but we also have to take care of the faces of our parents." This matter can't be made big, otherwise it will not be good for the family. ”
I sneered: "Family, what family? Your parents are so vexatious, does our family still exist? Zhang Qiang, who are you on today?"
A trace of unhappiness flashed on Zhang Qiang's face, but he still gently persuaded me: "Wife, calm down, I understand your feelings, let's go home and talk about it." It's not good to quarrel here. ”
I saw that Zhang Qiang's attitude was ambiguous, and his heart was like a knife, so I yelled at him directly: "What kind of home are you going back to? Zhang Qiang, I see that you don't take me seriously at all! In that case, let's break up!"
After saying that, I grabbed my bag and walked out. Seeing this, Zhang Qiang hurriedly chased me out and pulled me, and wanted to coax me back. I shook off his hand, got into a taxi without looking back, and went straight to my parents' house.
When I got to my parents' house, I told my mother everything that had happened. The mother was very angry and immediately called to rebuke Zhang Qiang: "Zhang Qiang, why are you so disrespectful? My daughter has a deep affection for you, how can you not support her? You hurry up and pick up Meimei home, don't let me down again!"
Zhang Qiang had no choice but to persuade me softly: "Wife, I was wrong, you go home, I will talk to my parents." ”
I said coldly, "It's useless, I won't go back." As long as your parents are still so domineering, we can't do it. ”
Zhang Qiang said anxiously: "Wife, if you listen to my explanation, I will definitely solve it, give me a chance!"
I turned around and ignored Zhang Qiang's pleas. At this time, my mother also advised me not to be too ruthless. But I have made up my mind, and I will never be able to face Zhang Qiang's parents again.
After staying at my mother's house for a day, Zhang Qiang came to me again, still pleading.
He knelt down in front of me and said, "Wife, go home, I really know that I am wrong." Give me a chance to make amends, and I'll protect you. ”
I said coldly: "Zhang Qiang, I have made it very clear to you, if your parents' attitude does not change, we will not be possible." You don't have to come to me again. ”
Zhang Qiang said with red eyes: "Wife, you listen to me after I finish speaking, I have already talked to my parents, and they agreed to cancel the ceremony of kneeling for tea, and they will not embarrass you again in the future." Please go home!"
I shook my head and said, "I don't believe it." Zhang Qiang, the problem is not whether to kneel for tea, but your parents' feudal Xi. If their minds don't change, we will face more unreasonable demands. ”
Zhang Qiang begged bitterly: "Wife, give me a chance to prove myself, I swear to protect you." We can't just get divorced, I'll talk to my parents, please trust me!"
I saw Zhang Qiang's embarrassed appearance, and I felt very sad, but I still said firmly: "I'm sorry, Zhang Qiang, I can't do it." I can't face your parents anymore and I've lost faith in you. It's over, it's all good for us. ”
Zhang Qiang saw that I was resolute and knew that I really had the idea of divorce. He knelt on the ground with red eyes and said, "Wife, you can't make such a decision, it will ruin our family! The child is still in your belly, how can you not consider him!"
I was stunned and blurted out, "What child? I'm not pregnant?"
Zhang Qiang smiled bitterly and said, "You don't know yet, I received your physical examination report yesterday, and you are already one month pregnant." We're going to have a baby, you can't decide to divorce so hastily!"
I heard a buzz in the back of my head, pregnant? I was really at a loss, and I didn't know how to react for a while.
My mother advised me: "Meimei, you are pregnant now, you can't be impulsive." Give Zhang Qiang another chance, and you can discuss it. ”
My mind was in a mess, and I could only say to Zhang Qiang, "Give me some time to think about it." ”
Zhang Qiang finally saw a glimmer of hope, and hurriedly said, "Okay wife, you think about it." I will always wait for you, and I will try to convince my parents. We're going to fix this, you have to trust me!"
My mind was in turmoil and my mood was complicated. A new life has crept in, what should I do?
Seeing my hesitation, my mother persuaded me again: "Meimei, now that you are pregnant, you should think about it calmly." For the sake of the baby, you should at least give Zhang Qiang a chance. ”
I sighed and said, "Mom, I understand what you mean, but this is not something that a child can solve." I'm really fed up with Zhang Qiang's parents' troubles. ”
I listened quietly and began to wonder if I was too excited.
Seeing that I was finally shaken, my mother continued to persuade me: "You should give yourself and Zhang Qiang a chance." No one is perfect, and feelings need to be cultivated slowly. Your baby is also worth trying. ”
I finally nodded and said to Zhang Qiang, "Okay, for the sake of the baby, I agree to go home and try." But the premise is that you must make it clear to your parents that they can no longer embarrass me. ”
Zhang Qiang excitedly shook my hand and said, "Wife, I will definitely do it!" I promise that my parents will not mention these old rituals in the future. Thank you for giving me a chance!"
Although I still had doubts, I thought of the new life in my belly and made up my mind to work hard to maintain this family.
The mother-in-law first said: "I didn't expect you to have the courage to come back, I think you owe a lesson!"
I was about to have a seizure, but Zhang Qiang stopped me and said to my parents solemnly: "Father, mother, I have something to say." Mei Mei is now pregnant, and she is the flesh and blood of our Zhang family. I hope you will respect her and stop embarrassing her. As sons, I ask you to change those stereotypes Xi and give our family a fresh start. ”
When the mother-in-law heard this, her face was ugly, but she didn't say anything anymore. The father-in-law pondered for a moment and said, "Since Meimei is pregnant, we should also think about the baby." But Mei Mei will also learn to respect her elders and know our good intentions in the future. ”
Although I was still a little dissatisfied, for the sake of the baby, I also nodded and said, "Father-in-law, mother-in-law, I will." Let's start over. ”
Although the attitude of the in-laws is still a little raw, they have reached a reconciliation for the time being. At this moment, I finally breathed a sigh of relief. Maybe give yourself a chance, give the other person a chance
After that, Zhang Qiang and I reached a temporary reconciliation, but I still had a pimple in my heart. In order to reassure me, Zhang Qiang took the initiative to reduce contact with his parents and accompanied me as much as possible.
One day, we went to the hospital for a prenatal checkup. Zhang Qiang happily said to me: "Wife, we are going to be parents! This must be a gift from God." ”
I smiled reluctantly and said, "yes, but I'm always worried about your parents." ”
Zhang Qiang held my hand and said seriously: "Wife, I promise you that they will never embarrass you again." We will have a warm home, and the baby will be very happy. ”
I nodded, deciding to trust Zhang Qiang for once. In the days that followed, he took care of me with all his heart and made me feel very warm.
In this way, the pregnancy passed smoothly and the baby was getting bigger and bigger. One day, Zhang Qiang said that his parents wanted to come and see me and the baby. I'm a little hesitant, but it's not good to say no outright.
When my mother-in-law saw that my belly was so big, she couldn't help but say, "Meimei, you are so aggressive, and you don't want to think about the baby." ”
I was about to reply, but Zhang Qiang hurriedly said: "Mother, Meimei's body is important now, don't excite her." ”
The mother-in-law didn't say anything more, but her face was ugly. I know she's still upset.
In this way, under Zhang Qiang's care, I finally gave birth to a lovely baby daughter. Holding my daughter, I only have a full sense of happiness in my heart.
Zhang Qiang was very happy and immediately notified his parents to come to the hospital to see the baby. The mother-in-law hugged her granddaughter, and although her face was still wary, she also showed some joy.
For my daughter's sake, I took the initiative to say to my mother-in-law, "Thank you for coming to see the baby, let's start over for her." ”
The mother-in-law was silent for a while, and finally nodded and said, "Since we have a baby, we shouldn't worry about it anymore." I promise you that I will try to accept you. ”
Zhang Qiang held my hand and said excitedly: "Wife, you see, the parents' hearts have arrived, and we will be happy!"
Holding my daughter, I also nodded, and I couldn't help but cry. Perhaps, give each other a chance, give yourself a chance, and love and understanding will eventually come. I believe that the future will be better!