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My name is Wang Bi @ Wang Bi and Lao Princess, I am 40 years old this year, and now I am married to a beautiful 20-year-old daughter-in-law in Laos. The reason why I got married so late was not because no woman favored me before, on the contrary, I had too many peach blossom luck and peach blossom luck in the past.
At the age of 20, I had a total of 6 relationships, 5 of which were scarred and breathless. My first love failed me, and he married me into a village, my ex-wife cuckolded me under my nose, and the blind date beat our flesh and blood for 100,000 yuan......
Later, I successfully found my girlfriend in Laos, but her family first tricked me into building a house, and then asked for a bride price of 80 million Lao coins. I was deterred and tried to run away, and people wanted to sue me. In desperation, she had to take her for four years, but she deliberately beat her two pregnancies, and later became a veritable drunkard. Eventually, I sent her away for 30 million Lao coins.
After going through too much emotional trauma, I thought it would be difficult to find someone I really love in this life. Until I was 40 years old, my true love came belatedly, and she was my current Lao daughter-in-law, Delai.
(Me and my Laotian daughter-in-law, who is 20 years younger, Delai)
Forty years ago, I was born in a rural village in Ya'an, Sichuan Province. When I was a child, my family was very poor, and my parents had to go out to borrow even the tuition fees for school.
My grandparents died before my father was four years old, leaving the family very poor, and my father married my mother when he was thirty. Because the family conditions were too poor to have more children, they only gave birth to me.
After graduating from junior high school, I first worked as a dishwasher in a restaurant in Ya'an, and then I worked everywhere. First worked in a rolling mill in Chengdu, and later went to Shanghai, Jiangsu and other provinces and cities, and entered injection molding factories and stamping die factories.
When I was in my hometown, I had a girlfriend. But then we went from place to place to work, and we had very little contact. Because 20 years ago, mobile phones were not yet popular, and I couldn't afford to buy a mobile phone as a poor boy, and I couldn't communicate with my girlfriend while working outside.
At the end of one year, I returned to my hometown from Jiangsu because of tuberculosis. After more than half a year of treatment, when I felt about the same, I was ready to contact my first girlfriend, but I heard that she was about to get married. And the marriage partner is still from the same village as me.
It was very traumatic to me, and if I lived at home and watched them go in and out every day, my heart would bleed. So, as soon as I got better, I went out to work again, and I wasn't in the mood to talk to anyone for many years because of this.
(Me and my friends 15 years ago, I was in the middle)
I went to work on the construction site, because I had a brother who was working on a tunnel project, and he said that the wages at the construction site were much better than when I entered the factory. I didn't do hard work on the construction site, but learned technical work such as electric welding and operating machinery, which laid the foundation for me to contract the project later.
In 2007, a Fujian boss saw that I was really good and tech-savvy, so he asked me to find a group of people to help him work, and I entered the contracting industry. I thought that I could make a lot of money by being a contractor, but it backfired and it was not good for me to become a teacher.
At that time, I led eighty or ninety workers to build a highway in Xiushui County, Jiujiang, Jiangxi Province, because of a mistake by a technician, the left and right holes of the highway were reversed, so the project money was gone, and I was trained as a grandson by the above.
But this matter is the responsibility of the technician, it has nothing to do with other workers, and I have to pay them their hard-earned money. The wages of dozens of people are more than 100,000 yuan, and I can't afford it, so I can only give a little first, and write IOUs to others for the rest.
In order to pay off my debts, I went to Shenzhen to work. At first, he worked as a chorre in a restaurant, and later worked at Foxconn. It took two years of hard work to pay off the money owed to the workers.
(When I was young, I liked to travel in the mountains and rivers)
In 2009, my parents urged me to come back on a blind date, and later I was introduced to a girl from one of our counties and successfully got married. At that time, due to a lot of miscellaneous matters, I happened to contract another construction site after I got married, so I didn't bother to get a marriage certificate.
After getting married, I brought my wife to the construction site, and I was worried about the construction site every day, and finally made money by contracting the project. But blessings and misfortunes always coexist, I only care about things on the construction site every day, and I don't have time to accompany my wife, she is very bored to stay alone in the construction site dormitory, and she actually seeks stimulation on her mobile phone.
One night, I came back from tea with my friends and found that my wife was not home. After waiting for a long time and not coming back, I became suspicious of her. But in order not to startle her, I didn't call her to ask.
When she came back the next day, I didn't ask her why she didn't come home at night. But behind the scenes, I checked her phone while she wasn't looking.
At that time, mobile phones were not popular with fingerprints, passwords and other lock functions, so I could easily see the social software on her mobile phone at a glance. unexpectedly found that she was chatting ambiguously with a strange man, and this person was still the "nearby person" she took the initiative to add in the emptiness.
(When working on a construction site)
I suspected that she must have had a private meeting with the man when she didn't return home at night, so the two quarreled frequently, and finally the relationship broke down. In addition, she didn't conceive a child after being married for several months, so I simply broke up with her. Anyway, I didn't get a marriage certificate, so I broke up like this.
Because the contractor made a lot of money. In 2012, at the age of 30, I went on a blind date again, and the partner was still 10 years younger than me. We lived together before we got married, and when she got pregnant, she talked to me about getting married. Her parents directly asked for a bride price of 100,000 yuan, but I didn't have much savings at that time, and the project money above hadn't come down, so I didn't even have the money I embezzled.
But her parents were very tough, saying that it would not be possible to lose a child in 100,000. I thought: Anyway, your daughter is pregnant, I can't get so much dowry, do you love to marry or not. Who knew that this girl had no backbone, so she listened to her parents and ruthlessly beat the child out. And just like that, I was emotionally traumatized for the third time.
During that time, I was very depressed, had no intention of working, and was either drinking or playing games all day long, like a walking corpse. Until one morning, a slight earthquake struck us in Ya'an, Sichuan, which woke me up from my bed and awakened my soul.
I understand the fragility and preciousness of life, and I also understand that the meaning of life is not limited to love and love, and I cannot sink because of emotional wounds in my limited life.
(I used to be sluggish in China)
Since then, I have been working hard to earn money. In March 2018, I didn't have any work to do in China, and I happened to have a friend who contracted a project in Laos, so I came to work on it for a year, and then returned to China at the end of the year. It was my first time in Laos, just to work, and I didn't plan to find a wife, but I was deeply impressed by the simple folk customs of Laos.
At the beginning of 2019, I returned to China for a period of time without a suitable project, so I came to Mengwa County in Laos for the second time, and unexpectedly met a Laotian girl and formed a bad relationship with her.
This Laotian girl is from the Lao Teng tribe and is called Ali. Our construction site is near their village, and I often go to the shop near the village to buy snacks and beer after work, and I met Ali by chance.
Because every family in rural Laos is very poor, it would be good to be able to solve the basic food and clothing, so when I gave some melon seeds, ham sausages and so on to Ali, she was very happy and accepted it.
(First girlfriend in Laos: Ali)
At that time, I didn't speak Lao, mainly with a translator and body language. After a few small favors, I expressed my intention to pursue her, and she agreed, and then took me to meet her parents.
I have lived in her house for more than a month, and I usually take the initiative to buy vegetables and meat. Her father saw that I was very sincere, so he agreed to me to have a relationship with his daughter, but he also made a request - to help his family repair the house, and he agreed to my marriage with Ali.
Rural Laos generally has the kind of stilted buildings made of bamboo, which are ventilated on all sides. Many Chinese sons-in-law will build a few cement and brick houses for their father-in-law's family here, as if forming a kind of atmosphere.
I don't want to let my children catch the wolf, how can anyone want to marry a daughter-in-law without spending money. Besides, it only costs three or four thousand yuan to build two rooms in Laos, which is just a drizzle compared to domestic girls who ask for a car and a house and a dowry.
But after the house was built, although her parents did not object to our relationship, they did not mention marriage. I don't think I can eat hot tofu in a hurry, I can't rush it, try to express myself, and cultivate a relationship with Ali!
(Me when I was dating Ali)
Later, I took her out on a motorbike and got into an accident. Although she was not seriously injured, she broke her skin and received stitches. I took care of her in the hospital, and I spent thousands of dollars on medical expenses alone.
Ali's parents thought I was a reliable man, so they decided to give us a "tethered" engagement ceremony. I was so excited that I thought I would be able to get married soon. Unexpectedly, her parents found a translator and told me that I had to give a bride price of 80 million Lao yuan. At the exchange rate at the time, 80 million Lao Yuan was equivalent to more than 60,000 RMB.
Although the bride price is not too much, I did not agree. Because I think they tricked me into repairing the house first, but now they don't keep their promises, and they have to pay a bride price, who knows what they will want in the future?
But when I wanted to leave, Ali's dad got on me. He said he was going to sue me if I didn't pay me and asked the police to arrest me. For my own safety, I lied that I hadn't gotten my wages yet. It dragged on until the work on the construction site was finished, and I still prevaricated and didn't settle the bill. Ali's father asked Ali to follow me, wherever she went.
(My current Lao daughter-in-law, Delai)
I thought: maybe if I am pregnant and have a child, the problem of bride price will be solved. So, when I went to work at the Luang Prabang hydropower station, I took her with me.
I'm in Luang Prabang as a manager with a boss I used to know, and when I'm on the construction site, Ali is playing in the rental house.
In the process of living together, Ali's various problems were gradually exposed. She loves to drink and gets drunk when she does. When drunk, he fell asleep like a puddle of mud. Whether the bed and the floor are covered in filth that she vomits, it is really disgusting.
Her personality is still very suspicious, and she has a strong desire to control. I can't leave her sight when I get back from work, otherwise she will chase after the wind and suspect that I have gone out to mess with flowers and grass. Then the phone calls came one after another, and when I came back, I was vexatious and arguing, which made me upset all day.
(On the Nam Song River in Luang Prabang)
But in the end, the reason why I ended this relationship was that she had two pregnancies and miscarriages. Moreover, my Chinese friends thought that she had deliberately killed the child. I also think that her miscarriage was intentional, and she refused to give birth to me without asking for a high bride price.
One time I took her to a friend's house, and she was so drunk that she threw up all over the house. I later used this incident to quarrel with her and propose to break up. Of course, she has been with me for three or four years, and I can't treat others badly, so I gave her a breakup fee of 30 million Lao Yuan (about 13,000 yuan).
She didn't bother anymore, and left when she got the money. Later, I heard that she was married less than two months after we broke up. It can be seen that she was in Cao Ying's heart in Han before, and she even had an affair a long time ago.
I was going to return home after finishing the project, but I met Lao Xu from Henan, China in Laos, which allowed me to enter the self-media industry again. Lao Xu married a Laotian daughter-in-law and did a live broadcast of the song and dance troupe. He came over and asked me to do self-media together, and I thought the prospects of this industry should be good, so I agreed to cooperate.
(Lao Xia Night Suburb)
In the process of doing self-media, I pursued a dancing Laotian girl in the live broadcast team, but I touched a gray nose, and I had an unpleasant quarrel with Lao Xu because of it. Later, because of the difference with Lao Xu's business philosophy, the two of us parted ways again.
But I didn't find a wife and was unwilling to go back, others could get rid of the single in Laos, and I believe that I could too. So I went to find a very good Lao colleague from my former construction site.
His name is Ye Tong, and although he is Laotian, he studied in China for four years and speaks Chinese. The reason why we have a good relationship is because he borrowed all his relatives when he got married, and there was still a gap of 40 million Lao dollars to make up the bride price, and I did not hesitate to lend him the money, so that he could complete the marriage smoothly.
He returned the money to me after the wedding, but he is still grateful that I solved his urgent needs, so he has a deep friendship with me. When I approached him and explained his intentions, he said yes. I asked him to help me find a Miao girl, because the Lao Miao are actually descendants of the Chinese, and the women are very hardworking.
I happened to come to Ye Tong's house once and saw a beautiful Laotian girl learning to make clothes with his wife, and I was immediately fascinated.
(Pretty Delai)
It was not only the girl's beauty that attracted me, but also her qualities. Because I have been in Laos for four years, I can already tell which girls can be wives.
A girl like the one who often drinks in a bar and will gladly accept a conversation with any man is definitely not to be wanted. And this kind of honest learning craft is suitable for being a wife and is passing by.
Ye Tong told me that this Laotian girl, named Delai, is 20 years old, lives in Sai Song Province, and currently lives with her sister, learning a trade from Ye Tong's wife.
Although I knew that I was 20 years older than others, and it might be difficult to pursue her, I still mustered up the courage to try. What's more, with the help of Ye Tong and his wife, he will be able to get twice the result with half the effort. So I went to Ye Tong's house twice in three days to get close to Delai.
At that time, I already spoke Lao, and it was very easy to communicate with her. After a few contacts, I felt that she had a good impression of me. So I struck while the iron was hot, let Ye Tong's wife match, and said a lot of good words, and the result was as I wished, and it came naturally.
(Delai is beautiful and in good shape, and hardworking and capable)
Then I went to my future mother-in-law's house with Delai, her sister, and Ye Tong and his wife, and her father was gone, leaving only her mother. After a meal, my future mother-in-law did not object to me dating her daughter.
After that, I moved in with Delai. Three months later, she became pregnant, and I was so overjoyed that I immediately started worrying about getting a marriage certificate.
So, I went back to China, got my single certificate, no criminal record certificate, property certificate and other relevant documents, and then returned to Laos non-stop. I hired a car, prepared gifts, and asked Ye Tong and his wife to take them to Delai's house to propose.
Because when discussing marriage in Laos, it does not mean that the woman's parents can agree, but also with the permission of other elders in their family. I thought that my rice and I were cooked and loved, and it should be easy to talk about marriage, but I didn't expect that I would still have to pass the high bride price.
(Good time with Delai)
I didn't want to be a person who shorted the white wolf, and I sincerely said that I was willing to take 100 million Lao yuan (equivalent to 32,500 yuan at that time) as a bride price. But the elders of her family still had to raise the price, and the two sides talked for a whole night, but they still didn't give an inch.
I'm in a hurry. Because the two of us are in a transnational marriage, the marriage procedures alone cost more than 10,000 yuan, plus the travel expenses between the two countries, as well as getting married and having children, there are too many places to spend money, so I must spend money in a planned way. And in rural Laos, the bride price of 100 million Lao dollars is already the sky.
It may be that Delai later expressed her attitude to her people, and the next day at noon we went over to talk about financial gifts, and they finally agreed that 100 million Lao yuan could be used to get a marriage certificate.
In order to be safe, I first gave 50 million Lao dollars, and after the marriage certificate was issued, I made up the remaining 50 million. At present, all the formalities for both of us have been submitted, but it will be nine months before the marriage certificate is issued.
(Spending 100 million Lao coins to marry Delai, I think it's worth it)
Although I also gave a lot of bride price when I married Delai, I felt that it was worth it. Because Delai is much more beautiful than Ali, and in terms of character, she is also a few streets behind Ali. The most important thing is that she will not play abortion games with me for the bride price after she is pregnant, but sincerely wants to live with me.
Because it would take nine months for the marriage certificate to be issued, and my wife had just given birth at that time, I planned to temporarily open a shop in my mother-in-law's village, so that my wife could have a relatively easy thing to do and a stable income. I'm still working here to make my wife and children have a better life in the future. When the children are older, they will consider returning to China.
Looking back on the wrestles and pits I have fallen on the road of marriage and love, I feel that fate is destined. As the saying goes, "There are times in life when you have to have it, and there are times in life when you don't have to ask for it." ”
People who don't belong to you, even if they once had them, will eventually leave you. And the one who belongs to you, maybe she came too late, but she is destined for you to meet. Moreover, holding hands will be a lifetime.
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[Dictation: Wang Bi]
[Editor: Chen Ping]
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