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My name is Li Mei, I am 38 years old and I have been married for 10 years. My husband's name is Zhang Qiang, he works in sales for a foreign company, and we have a 5-year-old son, Xiaobao. I'm an elementary school teacher, and I'm very busy at work, so I finally had a weekend, and I wanted to take a good break. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law Liu Suyingfei said that she would come to our house to live for a while, so I had to agree.
The mother-in-law took a sip of water and said with a smile: "Mei'er, your family environment is really good, with me in the future, you and Qiangqiang can work with peace of mind and don't have to worry about family affairs." I'll help you take care of Xiaobao and do the housework, which is more than enough. ”
I hurriedly said, "Mom, you're joking, you're a guest, how can you worry about this." With me and Qiangqiang, you can have a good rest. ”
"What a break, what a break!" The mother-in-law immediately put on an unhappy face, "I can still work, if you don't let me do it, you just look down on me! ”
I hurriedly smiled and persuaded my mother-in-law to persuade her. It's only been a day, and I'm already a little tired of my mother-in-law's weird temper.
When I heard this, I almost didn't hold the plate in my hand. I was surprised and said, "Mom, what are you talking about! You are the elder of our family, how can you ask us for living expenses!"
The mother-in-law was immediately unhappy: "I am your parent, so I can't ask for payment? I help you with housework every day.
The mother-in-law was immediately unhappy: "I am your parent, so I can't ask for payment? I help you with housework and take care of your children every day, this is helping you share the work, and you deserve to be paid." Give me 1,000 yuan a month for living expenses, isn't it too much?"
I was very angry when I heard this, but I still tried to say as calmly as possible: "Mom, we are a family, how can I bargain with you? I don't do these things for money, just to be filial to you." ”
"Filial piety is filial piety, money still has to be separated!" The mother-in-law didn't give up, "I'm this age, if you don't give me living expenses, do you want me to work?"
"Mom, you are in our house just like your own home, you can use whatever you want, where do you need living expenses. I am still persuading, "We are together as a family, and the most important thing is affection." ”
"Isn't it true that relationships are maintained by money?" The mother-in-law sneered, "An unfilial daughter-in-law like you can only talk about it, so I don't believe it." 1,000 yuan a month, can't you afford it?"
When I heard my mother-in-law say this, I felt very sad. I've always tried my best to take care of her, but I didn't expect her to look at me like this.
At this time, my husband came back, and when he saw that the two of us had wrong faces, he hurriedly asked what was going on. I told my husband about my mother-in-law's living expenses and asked him to persuade my mother-in-law.
The husband hurriedly said to his mother-in-law: "Mom, Mei'er has always been filial to you, how can you say that she is not filial? ”
The mother-in-law snorted: "I know that you husband and wife are the same, and you don't take me as an old man in your eyes!"
With that, she shook her hand and went back to her room. My husband and I looked at each other, and we both felt that my mother-in-law was too unreasonable.
At dinner, my mother-in-law didn't say a word and ate alone. I felt very bad and had no appetite to eat.
After dinner, my husband pulled me and said, "Don't be like my mother, just let her, I give her 1,000 yuan a month for living expenses, which is not too much." ”
When I heard my husband say this, my heart was even more sad, and tears came out. I said, "Why are you on my mother-in-law's side? I was so good to her, and she said that I was not filial, that I was bullying me!"
My husband hurriedly persuaded me: "Don't be angry, my mother is old, you just let her." We just have to bear the money, don't follow
My husband hurriedly persuaded me: "Don't be angry, my mother is old, you just let her." We can bear the money as a husband and wife, don't be like her. ”
When I listened to my husband's words, I felt even more sad, and said with tears in my eyes: "I am so good to my mother-in-law, not only does she not appreciate it, but also says that I am not filial, how can I bear this? You even help my mother-in-law speak, what is the relationship between our husband and wife?"
Seeing me so sad, my husband also became anxious: "Meimei, don't be angry first, I will definitely stand on your side, I must talk to my mother and tell her not to mention the living expenses." ”
"It's not you who let her come and go!" I said with red eyes, "I'm not going to give in this time, I'm not going to give her a penny!"
After saying that, I shook my hand and went back to the bedroom, slammed the door shut, and had a big fight with my husband.
The mother-in-law heard the movement in the living room, snorted and said, "I know that your daughter-in-law is an unreasonable master, and she has to get along with me!"
When I heard my mother-in-law gossiping about me outside, my heart was even more angry.
My husband begged me to open the door, but I just ignored him. In the end, my husband also got angry and said, "Meimei, I know you have paid a lot for this family, but it is difficult for me to do it, you can't be so willful, let's calm down and talk about it." ”
I heard my husband say that I was willful, and I thought he was simply unreasonable. We are all victims, how can he attack me?
"Okay, you say I'm willful, then I'll show you willful!" I packed my bags in my room with red eyes and decided to run away from home and go to a hotel.
My husband saw that I was starting to pack my luggage, and anxiously knocked on the door: "Meimei, you open the door, let's have a good talk!"
I ignored it, packed my bags and opened the door to leave. My husband stopped at the door and didn't let me go: "Meimei, calm down, what's the use of going out to stay in a hotel? Let's talk about it, don't be like this!"
"Get out of the way!" I said with red eyes, "I'm so angry now, I can't help but see you and my mother-in-law again!"
"Meimei, don't be like this, the child is still young, we can't be separated!" The husband pleaded.
"I'm just running away from home temporarily, not divorcing you. I said coldly, "You think about how to solve this problem, I'll go out for a few days." ”
"Meimei, don't go, our family has just been reunited, are you going to leave?" My husband took my hand and begged me.
I shook off my husband's hand and left the house with my suitcase without looking back.
When I got out of the house, I went straight to the gate of the community to wait for the bus, very sad and angry. My husband chased me out, stopped me at the gate of the community, and begged me with tears in his eyes: "Meimei, don't go, let's go home and have a good talk." Divorce is not good for us and our children, please think again!"
I said coldly: "I didn't say that I want a divorce, I just ran away from home for a while, so that you can think about how to solve this problem." ”
"Tell me, then, what do you want?" My husband asked with red eyes.
"Unless your mother apologizes and promises not to mention living expenses again, I will never go back. I said firmly.
"Meimei, I know it's unfair to you. The husband choked up and said, "But for the sake of the family, please give in this time." I'll talk to my mom about it. ”
"No!" I shook my head and said, "This time she has to say something, or she'll be vexatious in the future." I'm not going back, you can figure it out yourself. ”
After saying that, I turned around and got into the taxi, leaving my husband standing alone at the entrance of the community.
I drove straight to a hotel in the city center and opened a standard room. Once in the room, I threw my luggage away, threw myself on the bed and cried.
It took a long time for my tears to stop. When I took out my mobile phone, my husband sent a bunch of messages and made several calls. But I didn't want to go back, so I just pressed the mute button.
I called my best friend Linnie and told her everything that had happened, and I vomited the grievances in my heart. Lin Ni comforted me and said, "It's right for you to do this, you must let your mother-in-law retreat, otherwise she will embarrass you in the future." Your husband also has to find a way not to always be on his mother's side. ”
"I really regret marrying him now, his mother was so difficult, it was a mistake!" I wiped my tears and said to Linnie.
"Don't say that, in fact, Zhang Qiang is very good to you, but he is a little blind to his mother. You communicate well, and it will always be solved. Lynnie advised me.
After talking to Linny on the phone, I felt a little better. I sent a message to my husband: "I'm alone and quiet, and I don't want to contact me for the time being. Think about how to solve this problem yourself, and I will wait for your good news. ”
I didn't reply to him, just put my phone on silent mode and cut off contact with the outside world.
When I was alone in the hotel, I thought about it over and over again.
On the one hand, I understand my husband's difficulties, and he is also very difficult in the face of his mother's unreasonable troubles. But on the other hand, I can't tolerate being bullied like this by my mother-in-law. If I give in like this, my mother-in-law will only be even more lawless in the future.
I stayed in the hotel for two days, and my husband didn't contact me again, I don't know what the situation is on his side. I was a little worried, but I didn't feel like I could reach out to him.
I opened the door to see that it was my husband, and I was a little surprised, but I still asked with a calm face, "What are you doing here?"
My husband said apologetically: "Meimei, I'm sorry, I've wronged you in the past two days." I figured it out, we can't let my mother-in-law's vexatious messing ruin the family. ”
I said coldly, "You've figured it out, so how can your mother solve it?"
My husband sighed and said, "I had a big fight with my mother, but she didn't accept it and said that we were not filial." But I was very resolute, saying that if she mentioned the matter of living expenses again, she would have to find another way out and would not be able to continue to live in our house. ”
When I heard my husband say this, I was excited for a while, but I still asked, "What did my mother-in-law say?"
She angrily went back to her room to pack her belongings and said that she wanted to go back to her hometown. "I know it's hard for her, but we have to defend our bottom line." Meimei, I really know that I was wrong, no matter what happens in the future, I will always be on your side. Can you forgive me?"
I looked at my husband's sincere eyes, and the ice in my heart finally melted. I whispered, "What about my mother-in-law's stay?"
"I'll find a way to talk to her again, she's still my mom after all. My husband held my hand and said, "But the premise is that our bottom line cannot be backed." Don't worry, I won't let you be wronged again. ”
I nodded, tears rolling in my eyes: "Then let's go home." ”
My husband was ecstatic and hugged me in his arms. We decided to face this problem and work together to find a solution.
When I got home, my mother-in-law was still angry and went back to the room without coming out. My husband and I looked at each other and knew that there was still a long way to go, but as long as we had a consensus in our hearts, there was no problem that could not be solved.
When I got home, my mother-in-law was still angry and went back to the room without coming out. My husband and I looked at each other and knew that there was still a long way to go, but as long as we had a consensus in our hearts, there was no problem that could not be solved.
When Xiaobao saw me coming back, he happily ran over and hugged my legs: "Mom, you're finally back! You haven't been here these days, Dad and Grandma quarrel every day, I'm so scared." ”
I picked up Xiaobao in distress and comforted him softly: "Mom is back, there will be no more quarrels in the future." Our family wants to be harmonious, okay?"
Xiaobao nodded and buried his little head in my arms.
My husband also came over to help coax the children, and we decided not to clash with my mother-in-law head-on, but to wait for the opportunity to talk slowly.
In the evening, our family of three ate around the dining table, but my mother-in-law still closed the door and did not come out. I left food for my mother-in-law in the microwave and waited for her to heat it herself.
After dinner, my husband put Xiaobao to sleep. We sat down in the living room and had a heart-to-heart conversation.
I nodded: "I understand that as a son, it is also difficult for you to choose between a mother and a wife. But we have to defend our bottom line. If my mother-in-law is so unreasonable, we can only cut off relations with her, and I can accept her to go back to her hometown to live. ”
"You're right. My husband sighed, "I will find another way to talk to my mother, so that we can still get along, but we can't back down on principle." This time it taught her a lesson, and maybe she will understand. ”
"Well, I believe you. I squeezed my husband's hand, "As long as we have a consensus in our hearts, the problems in the outside world can be solved slowly." ”
"Yes, we can. "My husband hugged me.
After this incident, my relationship with my husband is stronger than before. We know that as long as two people are together, they have the strength to face any difficulty. I don't blame my husband anymore because it's not easy for everyone. I believe that time will slowly dispel my mother-in-law's irrationality, and our family will eventually live in harmony.