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My name is Lin Xiao, my family lives in a small city in the north, and my husband and I live in a small warm home. Our daily life seems ordinary, but every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and my home is no exception.
It was my father-in-law's 60th birthday. According to our Xi here, the 60th birthday is an important day, and I started preparing for it early. I bought a set of tea sets that were worth a lot of money and planned to give them to my father-in-law. This tea set was carefully selected by me, which has both a traditional charm and a modern atmosphere, and I think my father-in-law will like it.
On my birthday, the house was bustling. In addition to our family of four, there is also my father-in-law's younger brother's family, that is, my brother-in-law's family, and several relatives and friends. I handed the beautifully packaged tea set to my father-in-law, and his face was full of joy and praised my vision.
At the dining table, everyone sat around and the atmosphere was happy. The little brother-in-law Li Gang quipped while picking up vegetables: "Xiaoxiao, this tea set is really good, I like it, can you borrow it from me for two days?"
I smiled and responded, "Uncle, are you complimenting me on my good vision, or do you secretly want to take it for yourself?"
After dinner, I helped clean up the mess. The next day, I went to work as usual. When I got home in the evening, I was going to my father-in-law's room to see the tea set, and I wanted to ask my father-in-law how it felt when he used it. However, when I opened the door, the tea set was gone.
I walked to the living room and asked my husband, "Where's the tea set?"
The husband looked a little embarrassed, hesitated for a moment, and then said, "Li Gang came over at noon today and said that he wanted to borrow that set of tea sets, so I gave it to him." ”
I was stunned, "Didn't I joke with him yesterday?
That night, I tossed and turned, and my heart was mixed. I didn't mind the tea set, but it made me wonder how the family got along. The next day, I plucked up the courage to go to my brother-in-law's house to ask for the tea set, but I heard even more shocking news.
I knocked on the door of my brother-in-law's house, and the door opened, and it was my brother-in-law's wife, my sister-in-law Zhang Li. I asked politely, "Lily, can I take back the tea set that Li just borrowed from our house yesterday?"
Zhang Li replied a little embarrassed: "Hey, Xiaoxiao, that tea set, Li Gang's friend came to the house yesterday and took it away." He said he'd give it back to us in a few days. ”
I couldn't believe my ears, the tea set was borrowed like this, or was it just taken away? I felt like an outsider, more and more confused about the rules of the family. I didn't know what to do, so I had to go home first and think about it slowly
Plan.
I came home with a heavy heart. I sat on the couch and fell into deep thought. When my husband saw that my face was not right, he asked me what had happened. I told him about my brother-in-law who borrowed the tea set and gave it to someone else. The husband was silent for a while after hearing this, and then said, "This matter is indeed a bit excessive, I will ask Li Gang tomorrow to see if I can get the tea set back." ”
The next day, my husband went to my brother-in-law to theorize, and I was alone at home waiting for news. After her husband came back, he looked a little helpless, "Li Gang said that he couldn't contact the tea set that his friend had taken away, and it might take a few days to return it." ”
I felt like I was being teased, and the tea set made me question my family relationship deeply. I began to observe and think about the family relationship between our family. I have noticed that whenever something happens at home, no matter how big or small, it is always me who takes the main responsibility, while my husband and brother-in-law tend to stay out of it.
A few days later, there was another little thing at home. The husband's phone is broken and needs to be repaired. He was very busy himself, so he asked me to help him deal with it. I took my phone to a repair shop and it ended up taking a few days to get it fixed. When I told my husband about the situation, he seemed a little dissatisfied: "Why is this so troublesome, can't you hurry up?"
It dawned on me that I had been playing an uncomplaining role in my family all these years, but my efforts always seemed to be taken for granted, rather than cherished.
At this moment, Zhang Li, the wife of the little brother-in-law, called and said that she had a quarrel with the little brother-in-law and wanted to come to my house for a few days. I agreed, but I was a little unhappy. I started to feel tired, this home, always entangled in endless little things, and I seemed to be the tool person to solve the problem.
After Zhang Li came, the atmosphere at home became even more tense. She complained to me about my brother-in-law's wrongness, but I just listened quietly, but I was thinking in my heart that my own problems had not been solved, and I had to deal with other people's conflicts.
In those days, I began to reflect deeply. I realized that I needed to change and that I couldn't always give unconditionally to my family and ignore my feelings. I started trying to say "no" and started learning to say no to some unreasonable demands.
Finally, one day, I plucked up the courage and said to my husband, "I don't think some things in our house are handled in a reasonable way, and I wish we could sit down and have a good talk." ”
The husband looked a little surprised, but agreed anyway. That night, we had a long talk. I expressed my dissatisfaction and expectations, and my husband voiced his opinion. We have come to some common ground, such as family responsibilities to be shared and not always carried by one person.
After that conversation, I felt that the atmosphere in the family had changed a bit. The husband began to take the initiative to take on some housework and family responsibilities, and the brother-in-law was no longer the same as before
It's often vexatious. But life always takes unexpected turns.
A week later, I received a phone call from my father-in-law. His tone sounded a little heavy, "Xiaoxiao, can you come over?" there are some things I want to talk to you about. ”
I felt a little nervous, I didn't know what my father-in-law was looking for me. I immediately told my husband about it, and we went to my father-in-law's house together.
When we arrived at my father-in-law's house, we found that my brother-in-law and Zhang Li were also there. The father-in-law looked serious and said in a deep voice: "I know that you have had some conflicts at home recently. As an elder in the family, it is my responsibility to mediate. ”
My father-in-law first talked about the tea set. He expressed his disappointment with the incident, saying, "A family should respect each other and be considerate of each other. Although the tea set is small, it reflects a lot of problems. The father-in-law's words made the little uncle look a little embarrassed, and he lowered his head.
Next, the father-in-law talked about the sharing of family responsibilities. "The family belongs to everyone, and everyone should take the corresponding responsibility, and nothing can be pushed to one person. Hearing my father-in-law say this, my husband glanced at me with a look of guilt in his eyes.
Finally, my father-in-law said, "I hope that our family can be harmonious and everyone can be happy." We all need to reflect on how we can do better. After the meeting, everyone was silent for a while, and then they all said that they would try to improve.
On the way home, neither my husband nor I spoke. I was thinking that this family meeting, while a little awkward, was also necessary. It gives us the opportunity to sit down, face the problem, and find solutions together.
A few days later, the little uncle came over, he was holding a package in his hand, "Xiaoxiao, this is a new set of tea sets I bought, although I can't make up for my previous mistakes, I hope you can accept my apologies." I took the tea set, and when I saw his sincere eyes, the resentment in my heart disappeared.
The husband also began to become more attentive and considerate. He would take the initiative to help me with the housework and sometimes take me out for a walk and chat. I feel like our relationship has become more harmonious as a result.
Just when I thought everything was going in a good direction, the unexpected happened. One day, Zhang Li suddenly came to me with a very ugly face. "Xiaoxiao, I'm pregnant, but Li Gang said it's not his child, and he wants to divorce me. Zhang Li's words shocked me.
The incident quickly caused an uproar at home. The relationship between the brother-in-law and Zhang Li broke down, and the atmosphere at home became tense. I tried my best to comfort Zhang Li, but at the same time I felt a little powerless. This family is once again facing a huge test.
I've come to realize that family isn't just a place to deal with the little things you need to deal with, it's also about more complex relationships and emotional issues. Everyone has their own problems and challenges, and we need to face them together and solve them together.
On the issue of Zhang Li, our family's attitudes are very different. Husband and uncle
The quarrel became more and more intense. On the one hand, her husband felt that she should give Zhang Li some support and understanding, after all, Zhang Li has also been a part of this family for so many years. On the other hand, the uncle firmly believes that Zhang Li's behavior is unforgivable, and he feels betrayed.
In this situation, the atmosphere at home becomes more and more oppressive. I tried to mediate in the middle, but it was difficult to find a solution that would satisfy both parties. Zhang Li seemed very helpless, and she often came to talk to me. Although I was also disappointed by her behavior, I tried my best to give her some comfort when I saw her in so much pain.
In the process, I began to think about the meaning of family and marriage. I believe that home is not only a place for people to meet, but also a haven where we can face difficulties together, support each other and understand each other. But when trust is broken, that harbor can also become precarious.
A few weeks later, Zhang Li decided to move out. She said she needed some time to think about her future. Although the uncle had mixed feelings, he finally agreed. This incident has caused deep reflection in our family, and everyone is re-examining their roles and responsibilities in the family.
After this family crisis, my relationship with my husband also quietly changed. We began to value each other more and to value communication and understanding more. We realize that no matter what difficulties and challenges we encounter, as long as we can face them together, we can always find a solution.
At the same time, I also began to re-examine my own life. I realized that as a wife and mother, I couldn't always sacrifice myself to meet the needs of my family. I began to set boundaries for myself and learned to say no to unreasonable requests. I also started to spend more time focusing on my interests and development, such as returning to my old hobby of painting.
The days passed slowly, and Zhang Li's affairs gradually subsided. She moved to the other side of the city and started a new life. Although we don't have much contact, I still think of her once in a while, hoping that she can find her own happiness.
After Zhang Li left, the little uncle also became more silent. He seems to have been hit hard by this incident. My husband and I tried to give him some support and encouragement, hoping that he would come out of the shadows as soon as possible.
During this time, my father-in-law often came to our house to sit. He also seems to have been greatly touched by this series of events. He began to get more involved in family matters and became our supporter and advisor. His experience and wisdom have been invaluable to us.
Through these experiences, I learned how to find my place in my family and how to balance personal needs with family responsibilities. I also came to understand more about the meaning of love and responsibility in family and marriage.
I've come to realize that every family has its own self
own problems and challenges, but these difficulties and challenges are also catalysts for family growth and change. By confronting and addressing these issues, relationships between family members can become stronger and deeper.
After this series of events, I noticed a noticeable improvement in the atmosphere of the family. The husband has become more considerate and caring for the family, and the younger brother-in-law, although he is still slowly recovering, has also begun to participate more actively in family life. My father-in-law's involvement has given us a lot of support and help, and it has also made the family relationship more harmonious.
And I myself have begun to change in a new way. I'm no longer the one who always took on everything silently. I learned to express my needs and feelings, and I learned to care for myself as well as my family. I started to pay more attention to my physical and mental health, and I also regained some of my long-lost personal interests and hobbies.
As a result, my paintings have been inspired and revitalized. I record the story of our family with my brush, and each painting is full of emotions and stories. I even started running drawing classes in the community to teach children how to express their emotions with a paintbrush. This not only gave me a new content in life, but also made me feel more satisfied and happy than I had ever felt before.
In my interactions with my family, I also pay more attention to communication and understanding. I learned how to find a balance between different perspectives and opinions, and how to build stronger trust and support among family members.
These changes have not only improved the atmosphere in our home, but also made me feel like I am growing. I began to realize more clearly that the family is not just a place to provide a material life, but also a space for emotional communication and personal growth.
Time passed quietly, and the children grew up. They grow up healthy in this loving and supportive family environment, gradually forming their own character and ideas. Watching them grow happily is a source of great relief and satisfaction.
The annual family reunion is back up. This time, the atmosphere in our home is noticeably different from previous years. Everyone is more relaxed and happy, and communication with each other is more natural and harmonious. We reminisce about the past, look forward to the future, and share the joy and warmth of family together.
At the dinner table, I looked at the family that was reunited, and my heart was filled with gratitude and happiness. I know that while there may still be challenges and difficulties ahead, nothing is insurmountable as long as we can face them together.
This home, for me, is not just a place to live, it is my safe haven and my emotional home. Here, I learned to love, I learned to grow, and I learned how to become a better version of myself.
During this journey of family, I felt the true meaning of life: love and support, understanding and tolerance, growth and change. These experiences have made me stronger and more successful
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