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My name is Li Xiaofang, I am 28 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Li Xiaoming for two years. The mother-in-law is a typical northern woman, not tall, but with an extremely strong personality, and has been very strict with her husband since she was a child. After I got married, my mother-in-law was very harsh on me, requiring me to do housework and take care of her daily life. Although I was wronged, I heard my mother say "marry a chicken with a chicken, marry a dog with a dog" since I was a child, so I can only swallow my anger and serve my mother-in-law wholeheartedly.
A few days ago, my husband gave me 200 yuan to buy some fruit. I was so happy that I went to the vegetable market and bought a big durian. Durian is my favorite fruit, and when I was a child, my family was poor and couldn't afford to eat it. Now that I have the money to buy a whole durian, I'm very excited. After buying durian, I came home with a smile and prepared to peel the durian and eat it.
With a "snap", the mother-in-law slapped the table, and her face was very ugly: "What are you buying this for? Such a durian costs more than 20 yuan, which is a squander!"
I was startled, and said with a smile: "Mom, I bought it myself, and it didn't cost you and Dad's money." ”
The mother-in-law sneered: "Where did you get the money to buy it yourself? Isn't it still given by your father! Our family's monthly expenses are so big, how can you spend money indiscriminately!"
"If you like to eat durian, you can spend money indiscriminately? Do you think our family is a big family?" The mother-in-law was furious, "I'll just say that you girl doesn't study well, and you only know how to eat, drink and have fun all day long! You married to help your husband share the housework, not to enjoy happiness!"
When I heard my mother-in-law say this, tears came down. I obviously saved up my own money to buy durians, why do I say that I spent my family's money indiscriminately? I have been married for two years, and I have been busy with this family every day, how can my mother-in-law say this about me?
"Okay, okay, don't fake crying!" When my mother-in-law saw me crying, she was not comforted, but became even more angry, "I just said, you girl is an actress, you will pretend to be pitiful! Today I will make it clear to you that our family is not as rich as you imagined, you can't spend money like this! From today on, we will implement the system, your husband and I only give you so much money every month, you weigh the flowers yourself, don't expect to spend money indiscriminately!"
When I heard that my mother-in-law was going to implement the system, I was instantly dumbfounded. In the past, my mother-in-law had the final say on all the expenses of the family, and my husband and I could only take a little pocket money every month. Now that my mother-in-law has to implement the system, my husband's living expenses and I will have to shrink significantly!
I timidly asked, "Mom, if the system is implemented, how much living expenses will my husband and I have every month?"
The mother-in-law snorted coldly: "300 yuan per person per month, including food and shelter, and everything else is weighed by yourself! Your father and I give you and your husband 600 yuan a month, do you think it is enough?"
My eyes widened and I stammered, "This, this is too little, Mom! 300 yuan a month, food and housing are a problem!"
"It's a problem? With me and your dad raising, are you still afraid that you can't afford to eat and wear? Don't give me this set!" My mother-in-law glared at me, "If you are not convinced, the door is open, just go!"
I was so frightened that I quickly shut up, for fear that my mother-in-law would really kick me out. 300 yuan of living expenses, how can I live? I was very aggrieved in my heart, and tears welled up again.
When my husband came home in the evening, I cried and told him what had happened today. I didn't expect my husband to agree with my mother-in-law's approach, he said that the family does not have much money, and I shouldn't spend money in vain. I listened to my heart like a knife, it turned out that my husband also saw me like this!
From that day on, my husband and I only had 300 yuan per month for living expenses. I am frugal, and I have to be careful to buy groceries, but the money is still not enough. I didn't dare to ask my mother-in-law for more living expenses, so I could only swallow my anger.
After a month like this, I couldn't stand it anymore. One day at dinner, I plucked up the courage to say to my mother-in-law and husband: "Mom, Dad, the living expenses of our husband and wife of 300 yuan a month are too small, and we are really tight, do you think we can increase it a little?"
The mother-in-law immediately blew up: "Here we go again! Last time I said that you spent money indiscriminately, and it has only been a month, and you have asked for an increase in living expenses? Are you a bank in our house?"
My husband also helped: "Mom is right, our family's conditions are limited, you have to save some flowers." ”
I was disappointed when I saw that my husband didn't help me speak. I said with red eyes: "Then I can only sell my dowry house, I want to use the money to improve my life, I can't be so poor anymore!"
When my mother-in-law heard that I was going to sell the house, she was furious: "
"You unfilial daughter, let me tell you, that house is part of your dowry, and you have no right to sell it! If you dare to sell the house, get out of this house!" The mother-in-law was furious.
I also became excited, choked up and said, "Mom, I really can't stand it! 300 yuan a month, I can't even afford basic living expenses! I'm going to sell that house and use that money to improve my life!"
"You!" The mother-in-law slapped the table, "I'll tell you, don't even think about moving that house! If you dare to sell the house again, get out of this house for me!"
I see my mother-in-law like this, and my heart is like ashes. I ran back to my room with red eyes and began to pack. My husband followed and said anxiously, "Xiaofang, calm down, let's talk slowly, okay?"
I said with tears in my eyes, "Husband, I really can't live anymore." You can also see that I pleaded with my mother-in-law, but my mother-in-law didn't give me a way to live at all. I couldn't take it anymore and had to get out of here. ”
My husband took my hand and said, "Xiaofang, don't be in a hurry to leave first, we'll discuss it later." I can ask my mom for an increase in living expenses. ”
I shook off my husband's hand and sneered: "What's the use of talking about this now? You haven't been on my side for so many years! It's good for you if I'm gone, and you can serve your mother with peace of mind." ”
With that, I picked up the box and walked out the door. When my husband saw that I was leaving, he hugged me anxiously and begged loudly: "Xiaofang, don't go! I'm sorry, I didn't fulfill my husband's responsibilities." Shall we start over?"
I pushed my husband away and walked away without looking back. When I left the house, I burst into tears. I was very sad in my heart, I thought that I could live a good life by marrying my husband, but I didn't expect to be tortured for the past two years. Now I finally muster up the courage to leave this home that I can't stay.
I went to stay at a cheap hotel nearby, and I had mixed feelings. I don't know what to do in the future, but I know that my relationship with my husband is probably completely broken. At this moment, I suddenly missed my mom very much. My mother was against me marrying my husband, and now it seems that her fears were right.
I called my mom and choked up to tell me why I ran away from home. My mother comforted me and said, "Baby, Mom knows that you have had a hard time in the past two years. Your mother supports you in making decisions, you have to be brave and take care of yourself. ”
I hung up my mother's phone, and my heart warmed. Even though I have nothing now, it is heartwarming to know that my mom will always be on my side and support my decision.
Life in the inn was so Xi that I couldn't sleep all night. In the early hours of the morning, my phone rang suddenly, and I woke up to see that it was my husband's phone. I hesitated, but picked it up.
"Hey, I'm Xiao Ming. My husband's voice sounded anxious, "Go home quickly, my mother suddenly had a stroke and is now in the hospital!"
I came to my senses in an instant: "What? My mother-in-law had a stroke, is it serious?"
"The doctor is still resuscitating, so let's all come to the hospital. The husband said, "Xiaofang, please come back, just think it's for my mother, we all need you!"
I was silent. I hate my mother-in-law's harsh treatment of me in the past two years, but she is my mother-in-law after all. Now her life is in danger and it is my responsibility to take care of her.
"Okay, I'll go home right away. "I told my husband.
After hanging up the phone, I packed up my things and called a car to rush home. When I came to the hospital, I saw that my mother-in-law had already advanced. My husband took my hand with tears on his face: "Xiaofang, I'm sorry, I haven't protected you all these years." Please don't leave, Mommy she needs you now. ”
I nodded and went to my mother-in-law's bed. She was pale and sweaty, and I felt a hard tug in my heart. Although my mother-in-law was very strict with me, after all, she raised me, and I couldn't just leave her.
Staying in front of my mother-in-law's bed, I was in turmoil. I think of my mother-in-law's harsh criticism of me before she got sick, and my husband's neglect. Can I really stay in this house? Do I still love my husband? These questions hovered over my mind and made me extremely painful.
I hurriedly walked over and held my mother-in-law's hand: "Mom, I'm here." ”
My mother-in-law looked at me weakly, her eyes full of tears: "Xiaofang, I'm sorry, I haven't been able to treat you well all these years." I'm old and have a bad temper, but I really think of you as my own daughter. I know that you have done a lot for this family, but I have not fulfilled the responsibility of my elders and failed to give you the care you deserve. It's great that you're back, Mom will change it in the future, and it will be better for you. ”
I couldn't hold back my tears. I squeezed my mother-in-law's hand and said, "Mom, I forgive you." I've had a hard time in the past two years, and what you say often makes me sad. But you suddenly fell ill, and I saw you dying, and my heart broke. No matter what happened in the past, you will always be my mom. ”
I couldn't help but wipe away my tears. I didn't expect that the strong mother-in-law would bow her head to me and admit her mistakes, and the grievances in my heart were swept away.
At this time, my husband also came over, he knelt down in front of me, and said, "Xiaofang, I know I'm sorry for you." I couldn't make the right choice between mom and you, I was too cowardly. Can you give me a chance to start over?"
I looked at my husband and mother-in-law, nodded and said, "Husband, I forgive you." Let's start over. ”
From that day on, my mother-in-law's attitude towards me changed 180 degrees. She no longer harshly criticizes me, and is always gentle and patient when she talks to me. I also saw the goodness of my husband again. He became more considerate of my feelings and often took me out to eat what I liked.
I also stopped mentioning divorce and focused all my attention on taking care of my mother-in-law's recovery. My mother-in-law gradually recovered her health, and the big stone in my heart fell to the ground.
One weekend, my husband said to me excitedly: "Xiaofang, our family hasn't gone out to play for a long time! The weather is so good today, I'll take you and your mother to a picnic." ”
I smiled and agreed. We drove to the outskirts, chose a grassy patch, spread blankets, and took out the prepared meals and fruits.
"Come, Mom, eat some grapes. "I fed the grapes one by one to my mother-in-law's mouth.
"It's so sweet! We Xiaofang will take care of me the most. The mother-in-law said with a smile.
"That's right, my wife is the most virtuous!" My husband also said with a smile.
We happily ate picnics and chatted, just like an ordinary happy family. At this moment, I felt extremely satisfied and happy. I finally won the understanding and love of my mother-in-law and husband.
This incident became a turning point in our family's relationship. My mother-in-law is no longer harsh, and my relationship with my husband is getting deeper and deeper. Whenever I think of those difficult days, I cherish the happy life I have now.
I have also grown into a more mature and stable person. Through this, I learned to be tolerant and reflective. I began to put myself in the shoes of my mother-in-law and husband, and no longer just think about my own feelings.
One day, I said to my mother-in-law, "Mom, I want to tell you a story. ”
婆婆笑着说:“好啊,你说吧。 ”
I couldn't hold back my tears and said, "Mom, I shouldn't have run away from home." Now that I have grown up, I know that as a daughter-in-law, I should be tolerant of my mother-in-law and not just think about myself. We mothers and daughters have mistakes, but the relationship is the most important. From now on, I will be more filial to you. ”
"Good boy, it's not good mom. The mother-in-law wiped her tears, "Come, today my mother made your favorite braised pork ribs, and our family will have a good meal." ”
"Great!" I said happily.
We had a lively lunch as a family that day. My mother-in-law and I both opened our hearts and chatted about the old fun, and the atmosphere was harmonious and warm. The meal became a symbol of the transformation of our relationship.
Since then, I have become more filial to my mother-in-law, and my mother-in-law has always been fond of me. My relationship with my husband has also strengthened, and we have become the mainstay of the family.
Watching my mother-in-law grow old, I felt very uncomfortable. One day, I said to my mother-in-law, "Mom, I want you to visit my hometown." The air is fresh and you can take care of your body. ”
The mother-in-law readily agreed. I happily started planning this trip.