Emerson once said, "The family is the kingdom of the father, the world of the mother, and the paradise of the child." ”
There is no place for everyone to feel more warm and secure than home.
We grow up and Xi in our families, which nurture a person's character and virtues, as well as hope for his future.
Everyone hopes that their family can maintain long-term harmony, without strife and disaster, and that the family can live happily ever after.
As a result, countless people are busy making money, wanting to live a more prosperous life, and constantly accumulating material foundation for their families.
But in fact, the biggest disaster for a family is not poverty, but these three situations occur after the parents are 70 years old.
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Parents lie in hospital beds, and children turn a blind eye
There is a saying in the "Book of Filial Piety": "Husband filial piety, the scriptures of heaven, and the righteousness of the earth." ”
As a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, filial piety and respect for elders have been the basic qualities that everyone should have since ancient times, without exception.
Parents have worked hard to raise their children to adulthood, and by the time they are dying, they have already exhausted their life's energy and hard work.
At this time, it is also the time when children should do their best to repay their kindness and filial piety, which is not only the ethics of heaven and earth, but also the common feeling of human beings.
But there are some wolf-hearted people who have suffered the nurturing grace of their parents, but when they get to the grass and ring, they run away without a trace.
He only thinks about his own happiness, but he is completely sick in bed and is under tremendous physical and psychological pressure.
Such children and such a family will hardly have great ambitions in the future, and they will eventually go to a dead end because of ruthlessness and unrighteousness.
I once saw a video on the Internet, in which the old man had two sons and two daughters under his knees, but none of them were willing to be filial.
In order to save trouble, they sent the elderly directly to the nursing home, and entrusted all the nursing work to the nursing home.
Moreover, the four children have not seen the old man once for more than half a year, and it seems that they have completely forgotten the old man and are almost indifferent.
The elderly often asked the caregiver when their children would come to see him, and the nursing home also contacted several children several times, but there was no news.
As a child, if you can be so ruthless and unrighteous, even if you live a rich and noble life, what's the point, but it's still a walking corpse.
While everything is still in time, go home often to see, do not wait for filial piety, and accompany your parents to spend a happy old age.
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The siblings are separated, and the family quarrels
In the past, it was not uncommon for a family to have siblings, unlike nowadays when it was mostly an only child.
Because of the existence of siblings, his family is not only a little more lively, but also has companions who grow and have fun together.
But as time goes by, even the closest brothers and sisters will slowly go their separate ways as they grow up.
Under the dual effect of distance and time, they no longer have the tacit understanding between each other when they were children, and they gradually began to distance themselves from each other.
There will even be many people, because of some conflicts in the family, do not give in to each other, and finally make a loss for both sides, and finally die of old age.
And if there is disharmony between brothers and sisters, the decay of the entire big family will also quietly open, and the chickens and dogs will be restless all day long.
As Zeng Guofan said: "Brothers are harmonious, although they are poor, small households will prosper, and if brothers are not harmonious, even if the family and eunuchs will be defeated." ”
When the Western Jin Dynasty had just destroyed the Three Kingdoms and unified the world, the princes of the Sima clan controlled the soldiers and horses in various places, and the rights of the clan relatives were not small.
But as Sima Yan insisted on passing the throne to the idiot emperor Sima Zhen, several of his relatives and brothers expressed their opposition.
As a result, the "Rebellion of the Eight Kings" that caused chaos in the world began, and several people led by the princes of the Sima clan began to rebel all over the country.
This not only made Sima's world crumbling, but also displaced the people, and finally crossed south in a hurry.
If the family is not in harmony with brothers, the family will be defeated, and if the rich and noble are like the royal family, how can the family of ordinary people be spared?
Only when brothers and sisters work together and actively communicate when encountering conflicts, can they support the façade of the whole family and prosper for a long time.
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子孙后代被惯坏，家风逐渐败落
In reality, many people must have seen the phenomenon of "intergenerational relatives", and the elderly always have a special affinity for children.
Therefore, children and grandchildren are always more likely to be favored by the elderly, but this will also cause some problems and conflicts within the family.
The love of the elderly for their grandchildren is likely to form a solidified protection for the children, resulting in the grandchildren enjoying too much doting.
When children are playing naughty and parents want to educate their children, the elderly will always stop them and let them lose their temper at will.
When children are reluctant to learn Xi, when parents patiently persuade their children, the elderly will often interject and make decisions for their children.
Some excessive demands of grandchildren cannot be met by their parents, but they can be easily exchanged from their grandparents.
This will lead to the child's personality not being able to develop on the right track, and it will often develop the problem of pampering and being completely unable to be independent.
At the same time, he will subtly regard his parents as his opposite, and every time he loses his temper, he goes to his grandparents to complain.
In such a family atmosphere, the children who are cultivated often lack the ability and courage to take charge of themselves, and will only shrink behind.
As the saying goes: "Habitual children are like killing children, and doting on children and grandchildren without restraint is the root cause of destroying a family." ”
In the final analysis, the heavy responsibility of educating children still falls on their parents, and the grandparents are overstepping their responsibilities to meddle.
If the family style is not right, there is no rule, the children and grandchildren lose their morality, and the consequences will be retribution; the family style is good, and the descendants will pass it on to the next generation, and the blessings will come from time to time.
Bing Xin once said: "A good family is the root of all happiness and strength." ”
No matter how many ups and downs you have experienced in life, no matter how brilliant you have achieved in the workplace, family is always the ultimate destination.
The family is a place that carries the happiness of generations, and it inherits the family style and family business.
When parents enter the age of 70, they want not only to spend their old age in peace, but also to have a stable and warm family.
If the parents' later years are not peaceful, it may be a problem within the family, and the root cause may have been planted many years ago.
Don't wait until your family is in crisis to regret it and regret it.