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I am a 58-year-old lady born in 1965, and I will be 60 years old in a month.
I am a veritable post-60s generation, our post-50s and post-60s generation, responding to the call of the country, a couple only has one child.
But now that twenty or thirty years have passed, looking back and thinking about the pros and cons of a child in real life, the specific analysis is as follows:
Raising children is hard but only once
After we gave birth to a child in that era, there was no such thing as parents and in-laws helping to take care of the baby, and we took the baby to and from work after 4 months of maternity leave.
At that time, my son had a nursery school in the unit, and more than 10 children were taken care of by two aunts.
There is a feeding time between work, and then after work, I take the child home by myself, because the child has to breastfeed, and I hold the child on the night shift at night.
Although it was very hard, looking back now, thanks to having only one child, this kind of hard work can only be endured once.
Save money just for one child
Anyway, there is only one child in every family, and the money saved is to plan for the future of this child.
The boy's family saved money to marry him and have children, and the girl's family saved her a dowry.
You don't have to think about leaving money for other children, as you do in families with many children.
Anyway, there is only such a child in this life, so just spend the money on one child.
There is no need to divide the property
Anyway, there is only one child in every family, whether it is an RV, property or savings, it will be inherited by this one child in the future, so there is no need to think about dividing the family property.
No eccentricity
Every family doesn't need to deviate from this to that, even if there is a child, it will not be recognized by the child at that time.
So, it's also a good thing to be a child.
The burden is relatively light
The financial burden of a child's family is relatively light for parents.
Because as long as you make a desperate bet, raise this only child, marry him and have children, or save a dowry for her and marry someone, the task will be completed.
Supporting the elderly is not comparable
One monk carries water to drink, two monks carry water to drink, and three monks have no water to drink, that's the truth.
In terms of supporting the elderly, there is only one child who will not shirk anyway, and there is no comparison, so he can only take care of the elderly wholeheartedly.
However, compared to children, the disadvantages of a child should not be underestimated.
A pampered child is relatively selfish.
The reason why young people today feel very selfish in reality is because in the fifties and sixties this group of people only gave birth to one child, and the children who were pampered from childhood to adulthood did not have the consciousness of taking care of the overall situation and were very selfish.
The financial burden increases
The financial burden has increased relative to the child. Because when the elderly are sick and hospitalized, if the family with many children is shared by brothers and sisters, the financial burden will be relatively small.
However, when there is only one child, then all the burden is on one child, so the financial burden will be heavy.
There is only one person in charge of the decision
Because there is only one child, when the elderly are sick and hospitalized, it is still very isolated for the children.
Because, there are no brothers and sisters who can consult with each other, and all the decision-making power is controlled by him alone, which is also a disadvantage of a child.
The child does not have a doppelganger spell
A child is at a loss when the old man is getting older. Because he still has to manage his own small family, he also has to manage his parents, and the child has no separation skills, so it will be difficult for a child when his parents are old.
In short, the old people in the fifties and sixties, with only one child in each family, have pros and cons in real life.
But no matter what, as we old people, there is helplessness and relief, and it will be very difficult for a child to face several elderly people in the future.