Two women who shine brightly
43-year-old Chen Shu and 38-year-old Sun Li are one of the two most dazzling actors at the moment, they are like pine trees that are still tall and green after the winter comes, and the years have not left any traces of harm on these two actresses.
Whether it is Chen Shu's half-hour yoga every day, or Sun Li's flexible Pilates practice anytime Xi and anywhere, they all show amazing self-discipline in their daily lives.
It is this perseverance in self-management that has helped them successfully shape their colorful lives and careers, so that they are still energetic and glamorous at an age when they should be defined as "middle-aged women" by society.
The pain of ordinary people having difficulty insisting on self-discipline
In stark contrast to the two actresses, it is even more difficult for ordinary people to achieve consistent self-discipline. For example, Xiao Liu is a typical example, because of the long-term accumulation of procrastination, she often fails to complete tasks on time, which affects herself and others a lot.
Once she agreed to share it at a training class, but because she couldn't catch up with the content temporarily, this sharing could only be canceled temporarily, which made the sister who invited her very dissatisfied and deleted her contact information.
She had also made a weekly plan for herself before, but in the end there was no progress in implementing it, which made Xiao Liu feel guilty and painful. In fact, the reason is not entirely from external pressure, but more importantly, Xiao Liu's own goals are not clear and he lacks the strong motivation needed for continuous self-discipline.
She is caught in a vicious cycle of "setting too high standards and failing to meet the task, which leads to self-denial and eventually loss of control".
Three secrets to self-discipline
So, what is the secret of self-discipline? The first and most crucial secret is to clarify the goal of self-discipline. Success requires motivation, and motivation comes from seeing the destination.
Boxer Zhang Weili is a prime example. She was sent to a sanda training class by her parents since she was a child, and later suffered repeated defeats, and had to retire due to injury at the age of 17.
Since the age of 20, she has worked as a cleaner, security guard, kindergarten teacher, etc. But even in the darkest of times, she always knew that the life she really wanted would not be what it was now.
When no one believed her in the slightest, she could only say "As long as I want, I can" over and over again. It is precisely because she has a bright goal in front of her as a guide that she will move forward step by step on the long road of self-discipline.
The second tip is to have a reasonable and flexible self-discipline plan. In the case of a master writer like Haruki Murakami, he will definitely include some entertainment activities in his plan, such as running and making friends.
This stems from our instinctive need for fun and relaxation. Any plan that is too rigid and rigid is difficult to stick to in the long run. The third tip is to learn to be tolerant of yourself and see self-discipline as a coping strategy rather than a label to judge yourself. What we need to examine should be the method, not the personality.
Self-discipline brings all wishes come true
Many people only see the hardships of the process of self-discipline and ignore its sweet fruits. In fact, many people who have experienced the effectiveness of self-discipline say that another name for self-discipline is "all wishes come true".
It is it that gives so many ordinary people unimaginable power, for example, a female white-collar worker who saved three years' salary to buy a house once said that it is really difficult to force herself to cut back on food and clothing, but when I think of it three years later, everything is worth it.
There is also a mother of two, whose weight soared to 130 pounds after giving birth, and through self-discipline fitness and dietary control, she has now returned to 106 pounds lightly.
"Self-management is a test of willpower at first, but it can become addictive and addictive." Another man who reads books for half an hour every day has seen more than 200 digital books last year through this seemingly mischievous gesture, which has had a profound impact on his work and life.
Therefore, to be wise and self-disciplined is to plant a seed of hope and harvest in your body, mind and soul, so that your subconscious mind is ready to wait for the beauty of the result and feel pleasure in the process.
In the end, we will be on the road of self-discipline, which is not easy but worthwhile, step by step closer to a better self, and achieve what we want.