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Recently, a girl posted a video of herself crying on the Internet, accompanied by a copy about a friend.
The video became a hot search, and netizens who hadn't carefully read the copywriting thought that the girl was bullied by her friends.
As a result, after carefully reading the girl's story, I realized that my friend did something right.
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The girl's best friend quit her job and traveled to Tibet, and she was already married.
A friend sent her a postcard with the message:
Hope that life goes the way you want it to.
Originally, there was nothing wrong with this, but what made the girl's mood collapse instantly was that she was lying on the quilt at night and brushed to another good friend's circle of friends.
That friend also received a postcard that read:
Hehe, next time we come together, I miss you by my side.
The sentence "I hope you are by my side" made the girl teary-eyed, and the former good friend no longer invited herself, nor did she need her company.
After getting married, I feel that the two are drifting apart, and I don't understand why they are so good friends, but now they are so estranged.
After the video went viral, a netizen's comment directly pointed out the biggest sorrow in the adult world:
"You can't have both. ”
It may be that after the girl got married, she alienated her sister circle again and again, and missed the appointment for dinner again and again, so that her former good friend did not dare to invite her to travel with her on a postcard.
Her friends considered her family, her feelings, and respected the friendship and wished her all the best in life.
Good friends are not wrong, but they give the friendship between the two of them a decent one.
The girl didn't understand the blessings of her good friend, and she cried aggrieved, which also made netizens feel aggrieved for her good friend.
"It's good to send it to you. ”
"At first I thought she was moved to tears. ”
"I only saw that the wishes given by my friends were really close to the recent situation of the two people. ”
Yes, the girl's best friend really takes her feelings into account.
In fact, the process of growing up is the process of slowly becoming lonely.
There's nothing wrong with being a good friend, and there's nothing wrong with substituting a girl who is married and slowly moving away from her former friends.
"If you have someone you value more, you will ignore your friend's feelings, and he can accommodate you, but he will not accommodate you all the time. ”
This kind of emotional gap can really make people collapse in an instant.
"But I think the reason for her grievances is that her friends have shielded her from their small circle. ”
Just like this girl, in fact, everyone is like this, you used to be a good friend, and he can only accompany you for that time.
We will experience many such acquaintances, acquaintances, and separations.
02
Teacher He Jiong once said:
"I think friends may be phased, maybe lifelong, but friends are always friends. ”
Maybe the best friend when I was in school, the topic of conversation again is because of "money", maybe we already have children when we meet again...
Everyone drifted apart, tacitly reducing contact.
Another girl shared a similar story, she and her best friend graduated from high school and slowly disappeared from the same class.
My friend was admitted to 985, and she went to 211.
My friend had excellent grades, got a national scholarship, traveled everywhere, and got an offer from a big factory after graduation.
The girl also excelled in Xi and graduated successfully, but under pressure from her parents, she returned to her hometown and became a small civil servant.
The gap between the two lives is getting wider and wider, and the girl's best friend encourages her to step out of her comfort zone.
The girl feels that her good friend is too far away from her, and she doesn't understand the pressure of the environment in which she lives, so it is easy to jump out of her own circle.
The two became more and more unable to talk together, and the girl was also afraid that her former good friend would not understand her circle, and slowly, the two lost their words.
03
We won't have a friend forever, but a friend is a friend, and time can't erase the good memories of the past.
I heard a very sober sentence:
"Don't try to be the 'one's only' friend. ”
Yes, we will eventually grow up and have to take on social responsibilities, and understanding the alienation of friends is the first step to growth.
If my friend is happy, I will cry before the other person.
Don't feel sad that your best friend has a new friend, because that's another person who takes over your friend and continues to "accompany" her in another stage of life.
I don't want to be friends forever, I just want to be able to create unforgettable moments together.
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