Niu Li grew up in an ordinary family, her father was an accountant in a small company in the county town, and her mother taught mathematics in a middle school. When she was a child, Niu Li had a lively and cheerful personality and average grades, but she liked literature and music classes very much.
Her goal has always been not to become an official or become a successful person, but to have a warm home and be able to take care of her family wholeheartedly.
After graduating from middle school, Niu Li did not choose the college entrance examination, but directly entered the society to find a job as a salesperson. During that time, she made several suitors, including second-generation ancestral homes, successful entrepreneurs, and civil servants in the system.
But Niu Li finally chose Wang Jian, an ordinary white-collar worker, because she found that Wang Jian's personality was the most stable and introverted, and the two were the closest in terms of life concepts.
It can be seen that Niu Li is a knowing and intellectual woman. She doesn't care much about her suitor's family background and how successful her career is, but wants to find a partner who aligns with her values.
This foreshadowed her biggest life choice later, that is, to marry her ordinary husband Wang Jian and put her family first.
Niu Li chose her ordinary husband Wang Jian instead of those pursuers of career success, the main consideration is that she is closest to Wang Jian in terms of life philosophy and values.
Niu Li doesn't want to be rich, she just wants to have a warm home and be able to fulfill the responsibilities of a wife and mother. However, most of those suitors are very ambitious and destined to spend a lot of time and energy on their careers, which is contrary to Niu Li's life philosophy.
Niu Li and Wang Jian entered the palace of marriage after two years of dating. At the beginning of his marriage, Wang Jian was just a grassroots employee of a state-owned enterprise. The position is not high, but he is wholeheartedly devoted to Niu Li.
The couple lived very lovingly. Three years later, Wang Jian was transferred to the headquarters and his salary was slightly increased. Thinking about having children, they decided to buy a small apartment first.
The pregnancy process was not smooth, but after hard work, Niu Li finally gave birth to her eldest son Niu Ming by caesarean section accompanied by Wang Jian.
The bits and pieces of married life and raising children, these ordinariness make Niu Li the happiest. She often proudly said to the people around her that choosing an ordinary husband Wang Jian was the most correct decision in her life.
Niu Li chose to be with her ordinary husband Wang Jian, and soon walked into the delivery room. The process of conceiving her first child was quite difficult, and Niu Li suffered from repeated symptoms of morning sickness and anemia, which made her miserable.
When it came time to give birth, the improper position of the fetus caused Niu Li to have to choose a caesarean section, and Niu Li was so painful that she couldn't sleep at night during the process. Fortunately, a healthy and lovely baby boy was finally born and was named Niu Ming.
After giving birth to the first one, Niu Li decided to have a second one after a gap of two years. This time she learned to be obedient, paying attention to conditioning her body during pregnancy and strictly controlling her diet. The pregnancy reaction is not as strong as it was in the first child.
Accompanied by Wang Jian, Niu Li successfully gave birth to a second son, named Niu Gang.
The birth of the third child is like the end. At that time, Niu Ming was already in elementary school, and Niu Gang was very active and active. Niu Li and Wang Jian discussed having a third child, hoping to be a daughter.
At the beginning of her pregnancy, Niu Li had a hunch that this would be a daughter, and she protected this baby very carefully. In the end, Niu Xin, who was healthy and lovely, was born when Niu Li was 38 years old.
Niu Xin has become the pearl of this family of four.
The process of having three children is different, but Niu Li feels extremely happy and satisfied. This is all the result of her marrying an ordinary husband Wang Jian and always putting her family first.
In the process of growing up with three children, there are too many warm and unforgettable bits and pieces. The eldest son, Niu Mingming, is lively, and when he was three or four years old, he often ran out to play when Niu Li was not paying attention, which made Niu Li worried.
For this reason, Wang Jian specially installed the door lock and child lock, so as to rest assured that Niu Ming was safe at home. After Niu Ming went to elementary school at the age of six, Niu Li personally picked him up and took him home every day and helped him check his homework.
Watching her son grow up day by day, Niu Li was sincerely gratified.
The second son, Niu Gang, is a little introverted, and he especially likes to sit alone in the children's room and read picture books, sometimes forgetting himself until the evening. After Niu Li and Wang Jian found out, they often accompanied Niu Gang to read books and tell stories, which made Niu Gang's world laugh more.
After the age of three, Niu Li also took Niu Gang to kindergarten to help him make more friends. Now Niu Gang has become very lively.
As the third child, Niu Li and Wang Jian naturally care for her. She was naturally very clingy to her mother, and Niu Li took her everywhere when she was a child. Niu Xin learned to crawl in six months, and Niu Li could only take care of her all the time, for fear that she would fall and bump into her.
Now three-year-old Niu Xin has become the little princess of this family, and she is cared for by her two elder brothers, and she also brings a lot of laughter to the family.
The growth of the three children has enriched the lives of Niu Li and Wang Jian. Niu Li often sighs that if she hadn't chosen her ordinary husband Wang Jian, she would not have today's happiness.
For Niu Li, the happiest time in life is the bits and pieces spent with her ordinary husband Wang Jian and her three children. Every weekend, when the family goes out for an outing or has a good meal, it is Niu Li's favorite quality time.
She also takes her children back to her hometown from time to time, so that her family can enjoy the scene of three generations living together.
Niu Li feels that the most important thing in life is family. As a result, she is happier and more satisfied than anyone who has succeeded in her career. Niu Li often jokes that if she were asked to do it all over again, she would still choose to marry her ordinary husband Wang Jian.
Because Wang Jian gave her warmth, gave her three lovely children, and more importantly, Wang Jian, like her, attaches great importance to the family.
In fact, Niu Li occasionally thinks about whether her career would have been more successful if she had chosen another path back then. But this thought flashed by itself. Niu Li looks at her husband and children next to her, and she feels that this is the life she wants.
In fact, the family is not wealthy. But for Niu Li, the true meaning of life is not to make more money, but to be with the people you love.
Now that the children are growing up, Niu Li plans to devote herself to the family after retirement. She thinks about it often
When I get old, I am surrounded by a warm picture of my grandchildren.
For Niu Li, the happiness of her later life is a full house of children and grandchildren. Therefore, she does not regret at all that she chose an ordinary husband when she was young.
Through Niu Li's life story, we can deeply understand that the most correct choice in her life is to choose her ordinary husband Wang Jian and put her family first. As she herself said, the greatest happiness is family reunion.
If she had to do it all over again, she would choose it that way.
In fact, for many people, success means a successful career and the ability to make a lot of money. But Niu Li's experience teaches us that success should not be based on money and career alone.
In contrast, spiritual satisfaction and family reunion are more meaningful successes.
Niu Li's life choices give us the greatest inspiration, don't be fooled by material things. The company of family and loved ones is the most valuable wealth in life. Each of us will have the opportunity to choose, and when standing at the fork in the road of life, Niu Li's story is worth our reference and Xi.
Looking at contemporary times, many people give up their families and children for their careers. But the peak moment of career is short-lived, and family is always by your side. Niu Li's happiness found her answer at this point.
Her story also tells us what is the meaning of life and what is eternal.