Text/A small motor that loves life
When it comes to whether children are filial or not, many people will say that it depends on the education of parents, parents who have taught well since childhood, will definitely be sensible and filial when they grow up.
In the past, I have always recognized this concept, and sensible children are bound to be filial to their parents! But since I have seen the different circumstances of the two relatives in their later years, I have found that whether the children are filial or not, in addition to family education is the premise, has a lot to do with whether the elderly have a pension in their later years.
Let me tell you about the situation of my two relatives in their later years:
The first relative was my uncle, who is 78 years old and a retired teacher.
He can say that it is a typical case of "farmers turning over". After graduating from high school that year, he returned to the village to work as a substitute teacher for ten years, and finally worked hard to become a regular teacher, and was transferred from the village to the town step by step, and then to the city, and finally retired at the age of 65 in a high school in the city with the rank of deputy school.
Uncle is very beautiful in his career, but in family life, he is not satisfactory.
The aunt left before the uncle was 50 years old, and the uncle's only son was not angry, even though the uncle was a senior teacher, but my cousin did not have any achievements in Xi, barely studied a secondary school, and went out to work.
This job is also making soy sauce everywhere, changing and changing, and there is no qualitative one. It wasn't until he got married that he began to mature, but the best time for him passed. In the end, he was a secondary school student, so he could only enter the factory and work overtime but only four or five thousand.
And my cousin-in-law is not good, an ordinary hotel clerk, and she also gets a salary of three or four thousand, and the combined salary of the two husbands and wives is not as high as my uncle's salary back then.
In the fifth year of retirement, the uncle, who lived alone at home, accidentally fell and became a semi-paralyzed old man, and could only live in bed and wheelchair for the rest of his life.
At that time, when a group of our relatives saw the uncle like this, they thought that his old age was destined to be very sad, after all, the cousin and his wife separated early, and they were so useless, they would definitely not be too good to the uncle.
However, the reality of the situation slapped us in the face.
The eldest uncle has been hospitalized from injury to recuperation at home, and now he has been paralyzed and bedridden for 8 years, but the cousin and his wife have never left each other. Even my sister-in-law, who was only 45 years old at the time, resolutely quit her job in order to take care of her uncle and concentrate on serving the elderly.
Over the years, my parents and I have visited my uncle two or three times a year, and every time we go to my uncle's house, we can't believe that there is an elderly person in this family who is paralyzed.
First of all, the home is not very messy, secondly, there is no sour smell of the old man's life at home, and then although the uncle has been in bed for 10 years, in addition to getting thinner, other physical conditions are very good.
There are no rotten sores on the back, the face is clean, there is no beard, and there is no serious old man's smell. In the end, the most important thing is that the uncle can still keep his hands simple and hold them simply, and he is still very strong when he speaks, and his mind is clear.
In this regard, we are all surprised, don't we say that "there is no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness"? How can we serve such a paralyzed old man, and they will not dislike it?
Once I went to visit my uncle, I found that my sister-in-law was unwell, and she continued to insist on taking care of my uncle, and my cousin was busy serving my uncle after a hard day's work, although both husband and wife were tired, they did not complain.
At that time, out of their own good, I persuaded them to either find a nanny to serve them, or send the uncle to a nursing home, so that the two couples would not be bound by the elderly, and if they did this, our relatives would not say anything!
But my cousin and sister-in-law said to me very bluntly: "Ask a nanny, how can we have our own people to serve him well! Moreover, my father is the treasure of our family, and we all want him to live a long life! How can we be willing to send him to a nursing home to suffer!"
Later, I learned that the uncle's pension had risen to more than 9,000 a month, which was more than the cousin and his wife earned more than they worked hard outside, so if the uncle lived for one more month, they would have an extra income, and they really had to be filial.
After talking about my uncle, let's talk about another relative of my family, he was better than my uncle in the first half of his life, but the second half of his life was too miserable.
And this relative is my uncle, he is 76 years old this year, a migrant worker, and the couple worked the construction site for the sake of their three sons.
Although he didn't let the children out, he eventually helped buy a house and a car for his three sons, and married a daughter-in-law.
In the past, when his uncle was still healthy, his three sons were also filial to him, and let them hold their grandchildren early on, and lived a life full of children and grandchildren.
We all envied my uncle very much, and thought he had survived.
But 10 years ago, after my aunt died of illness, and my uncle was unable to work normally due to some illnesses, my three cousins began to treat my uncle badly. At first, he didn't come back to visit often, but then his uncle lived alone, and the three of them had a house and a car in the city, and they didn't take their uncle to live together.
Five years ago, after my uncle fell on a bicycle and had difficulty moving, my three cousins took turns to support him for a year, and then he said that he could not do anything and sent his uncle to a nursing home.
It's still their kind of poor nursing home, 2,500 yuan a month, living in a room for 6 people.
At that time, my mother and a group of relatives rebuked the three cousins very much, saying that they were too unfilial.
But they cried one by one that they couldn't help it, life was stressful, it was not easy to support their small family, and they had to support an old man with no pension, no savings, and no health, and sending the old man to a nursing home was their best solution.
Therefore, they said that it was not that they were unfilial, but that it was really a matter of conditions.
At that time, when I heard my cousins say this, I didn't agree with it, and I thought their reason for being unfilial was very far-fetched, but after comparing it with the situation of the uncle's family, it felt like it was reasonable. After all, my uncle has no money, no pension, and has to rely on people for everything, which is indeed a pressure and burden.
If my uncle, like my uncle, also has a high pension, I don't think the three cousins will send the old man to a nursing home, and he will definitely take care of the old man.
Because taking care of the elderly with a pension, in addition to the pressure of serving will not be too great, the elderly can live for one more month, and the children can have more pension income.
Therefore, in the face of an old man who can be a cash cow, which child will not be filial?
Through the later years of the two relatives, I found a problem, that is, the current children are filial piety, can not be blamed on family education, even if the children are well educated, but when they become adults and enter the society, they will also be affected badly, causing them to become unfilial.
If the elderly want to get filial piety to their children when they are old, they must have enough old money or a considerable pension.
In today's society, no one will get along with money, even if their children are not filial, but they will be filial to the elderly for the sake of money. Although filial piety in exchange for money is not real filial piety, compared with those old people who have no children and filial piety, fake filial piety is also a kind of happiness!
Therefore, the pension is too important, and I advise middle-aged people who have not yet retired to have a social security for their own future. Even if you don't want your children to be filial, you have to think about what you have to rely on for your future retirement, right?
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