That day, my wife and I went to the hospital for a routine check-up. I sat in the waiting room and waited, looking at my phone and observing the crowd around me. Suddenly, I noticed a young lady walking into the clinic and walking straight up to one of the doctors, talking to the doctor with a solemn expression. I thought to myself, is there something big going on?
By the time it was my wife's turn to check, I was still distracted. It wasn't until the doctor let us in for a detailed examination that I came to my senses. After rounds of examinations, my wife told me with a solemn face that the doctor suspected that she had breast cancer. I was stunned for a moment, my mind blank.
After a series of treatments and surgeries, his wife overcame the disease with great difficulty. During this difficult time, my attitude towards my wife slowly changed. Maybe it's because I'm too worried and anxious, sometimes I lose my temper unconsciously, and my attitude towards my wife seems harsh. The wife, on the other hand, is more gentle and fragile under the torture of the disease.
My wife's recovery made me start to reflect on myself, maybe this period of life made me see some flaws in my heart. I began to understand how immature I was, and when I should have given my wife more care and warmth, I chose to ignore and be indifferent. I began to understand that as a husband, I should be stronger when my wife is sick, and not appear so weak and helpless.
That check-up made me understand that I needed to make a change. And when a wife has breast cancer, 98% of husbands have to write a 100-page review to review themselves. Thankfully, I wasn't one of the 98%, but I made up my mind and wrote down my review. My wife's experience has made me appreciate the happiness in front of me and make up for my past mistakes with actions.
I know that this 100-page review may not fully make up for what I have done in the past, but it is a promise I made to myself and a confession of my heart. May our lives shine again, may my wife live a healthy and happy life, and may I be a better husband.
I wrote a review, but conflicts in life were inevitable. One day, I accidentally found a chat with a man named Li Wei on my wife's phone. My heart ached, and I didn't know what was going on. I silently endured the torment in my heart, until one day, I couldn't help myself and questioned my wife.
It turned out that Li Wei was an old classmate of his wife, and he had been caring for his wife when she was sick and gave her a lot of moral support. There was a sour feeling in my heart, and I didn't realize how much my wife desperately needed a shoulder to talk to in when I was estranged. I tried to hide the sourness in my heart, but it was difficult to hide it.
This incident made me blame myself even more, and I realized that I needed to not only write a review, but also make practical changes to my wife. No longer the husband who was busy with work and neglected the family, I re-examined myself and began to take the initiative to care for the family, including my wife. Every night we would go for a walk together and talk about family life, and gradually I noticed that our relationship seemed to go back to the way it used to be.
Faced with such a dispute, I began to fall into a deep confusion and did not know what to do. This is when I realized once again that family relationships are not as simple as I thought. I understand that I need more wisdom and courage to face my inner conflicts. May I be able to find a solution to the problem, so that the family entanglement can be resolved, and we can return to a peaceful life.
When our wives return to the family, we are all full of anticipation, but we also often argue over trivial matters. That day, while my wife was cooking in the kitchen, she accidentally spilled vegetable soup on my newly purchased computer. I became furious and blamed her for being careless, and she complained that I had placed the computer too casually. Between the words, our quarrels became more and more intense.
"You're always like this, and the little things are so serious!"
"I didn't cook on purpose, why are you angry with me!"
In such an argument, we were both hurt a little bit. My wife's illness also made her more sensitive, and my anger couldn't hide the guilt in my heart. Such quarrels seem to have become a part of our daily lives, and the bickering again and again makes the atmosphere in the home tense.
After his wife recovered from her illness, she gradually became more independent and began to have her own life circle. I gradually realized that she no longer put my feelings first, and sometimes even made me feel neglected. This change made me feel at a loss, and my inner anxiety and confusion hit again.
Looking back on our marriage, I realize that in the process of taking care of my wife's illness, there seems to be a rift between us. What I longed for was family harmony and reunion, but the reality seemed to make me feel overwhelmed. Perhaps, all this is because of my immaturity. Perhaps, we all need time to face the effects of our wife's illness. Perhaps, I need to reflect on my own actions and attitudes.
The conflict in the family seems to be getting deeper and deeper, and I sincerely hope that we can get out of this haze and rebuild our family. May everything be calmed and the knots in my heart stretched.
I began to make up for my shortcomings in my marriage with my actions, trying to be more considerate and caring. However, a sudden event put me in a new predicament. It was a sunny weekend and my wife and I decided to go to the park to relax. But in the park, we stumbled upon my colleague at work, who gave my wife some rude looks, and my wife seemed to be a little uncomfortable with him.
When I got home, I couldn't help but ask my wife about her attitude towards that colleague. My wife stopped talking, and finally told me that the colleague had behaved inappropriately towards her without my knowledge. I was shocked by the news, and anger and guilt welled up in my heart. I felt like I couldn't protect my wife and was angry at the colleague's behavior. To make matters worse, I found myself unable to speak and find the right way to deal with this conflict. I was angry at my own incompetence and felt guilty about what had happened to my wife. This conflict made me realize that I had not changed enough in my family relationships.
Despite all the uneasiness in my heart, I knew that I could no longer choose silence and escape. I decided to face this dilemma and find a solution. My wife needs my support and protection, and I should be her husband to rely on. This incident made me realize that marriage is not just about tenderness and love, it also requires courage and responsibility. Although I am still trying to adjust myself, I am determined to lead us out of this shadow and let my wife feel the warmth and security of the family again. May we get through this difficult time together, make our relationship stronger, and may I be a stronger and more responsible husband.
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For a long time, I was obsessed with my 100-page review, hoping to make up for my mistakes with words. In the process of writing, I looked back on the past and recalled the suffering of my wife under the plague of illness. I slowly learned to listen and tolerate, and my wife regained the courage to live with me. There seems to be a renewed hope between us.
However, just when I thought my family life had returned to normal, I gradually noticed a subtle change. The wife's temper became more and more eccentric, and sometimes even a little sensitive. I tried to communicate with her and ask if anything was going on, but she always avoided the important and bothered me.
One day, I stumbled upon a letter she had written to my mother in a drawer at home. The letter described her pain and helplessness during her illness, as well as her complaints about my incomprehension. Seeing this, my heart turned upside down.
There seems to be a renewed conflict between me and my wife. She hid her true feelings from me, and I didn't really get into her heart. I began to reflect on my communication style and behavior, and I also wanted to be honest with my wife and mend our relationship.
However, everything gets complicated. As I tried to have an honest conversation with my wife, I was surprised to learn something I didn't know before. This left me feeling shocked and helpless, and it also made the conflict between me and my wife even deeper.
At the moment, my heart is full of struggle. The entanglements in my family seemed to be unravelable, and my uncertainty about the future became more and more pervasive. We've been through life and death together, but now I don't know how to deal with the predicament in front of me.
Perhaps, I need to re-examine the communication between us, and I need to be more tolerant and understanding. Perhaps, the problem is not as simple as it seems. These conflicts may be part of the daily conflicts of the family, but I cannot let it go because I have always believed that the family is the place to face and solve problems together.