Author: Wen Sui's emotion
Recently, Liu Zhiyu, a mathematics genius at Peking University, revealed in a conversation with the well-known educator Yu Minhong that he has entered the palace of marriage, which has attracted the attention of all walks of life.
The math prodigy, who won a perfect gold medal in the International Mathematical Olympiad and chose to become a monk at the age of 24, has now returned to the world and found his own happiness.
Liu Zhiyu believes that whether you choose to devote yourself to Buddhism or return to the world, it is a choice of a different way of life. He once stepped into Buddhism in order to explore the mysteries of his inner world.
However, in his quest for inner peace, he found that his voice was more eager to resonate with the general public. So, he turned to the field of psychology, hoping to help more people find inner joy through his own efforts.
When talking about the love story with his wife, Yoo Ji-woo said that love itself is a kind of practice. Their story begins when Yoo Ji-woo was a monk, and his girlfriend, who was also a practitioner, had known each other since he became a monk, but there was no deep communication at that time.
In the first spring after returning to the world, Yoo Ji-woo met his destined partner. At that time, he was living in a monastery in Tongzhou, Beijing, looking for roommates who were studying Buddhism, male or female. After some searching, a girl responds to his invitation, and the two meet up at a vegetarian restaurant.
Towards the end of the meal, Yoo Ji-woo crossed his hands in front of his chest and said, "I heard that boys' heartbeats faster when they meet a girl who is excited, and I feel that my chest is beating fast here now." He was honest with his advice on getting along.
Yoo Ji-woo is not a person who is at ease with what happens, he believes that material conditions cannot ensure a happy marriage, love at first sight is irrational, and mental health is the most important thing. In his new book, Every Step of Life Counts, he describes in detail the process of getting to know his girlfriend.
"She is lively, cheerful, caring, gentle, sensible, polite, has a good relationship with her parents, works smoothly, and has a high level of psychological maturity...... He is devout to the Buddhist faith, has the same three views, and has a common language. If there are no major accidents, she is my ideal partner. ”
They quickly fell in love. On a snowy day in mid-December 2023, he seemed refreshed and had a loud voice. The former monk's favorite exercises now are jumping jacks and leg raises, which can be done nearly 100 times in two minutes.
It's all thanks to the love of your lover. Yoo Ji-woo used to not care much about the trivial things of life, but under the care of his girlfriend, his quality of life has been greatly improved. From buying expiring food to learning skin care, his girlfriend made him experience a life of being cared for in all aspects.
This is Yoo Ji-woo's first love. Although he has met people's expectations of geniuses, in love, he is still a "little white". His girlfriend taught him hand-in-hand, so that he gradually understood how to give and return.
"In all these years, I have never felt someone understand and support me so wholeheartedly and comprehensively," he said. ”
Although they sometimes quarrel over immersion in their own world, their love and understanding for each other deepens their relationship.
Now, Yoo Ji-woo has learned to respond to his wife's love with the title of "my treasure", and he can't help but be moved to tears.
He said: "Since you are still vulgar, you must live a good life of returning to the world." ”
Nowadays, he no longer rejects having children, but whether to have children or not, he still needs to respect the opinions of the people around him.
Why did Yoo Ji-woo choose to become a monk after graduation?
Among them, there is a hidden story that is not known to the outside world.
In fact, Yoo Ji-woo's ordination was not just a momentary impulse, but originated from the pain in his heart. This kind of pain is depression.
Depression, a familiar and unfamiliar name. It makes Yoo Ji-woo in his prime, but he can't feel the joy of life.
Even though he was surrounded by laughter, he still couldn't get rid of the loneliness and helplessness in his heart. And this kind of emotion makes him unable to generate the slightest interest in the temptation of food and beautiful scenery.
In his eyes, the world seemed to have lost its color, leaving only pale and boring.
The shadow of depression not only destroyed Yoo Ji-woo's heart, but also had a serious impact on his physical health. The long-term depression and pain made his body deteriorate.
After experimenting with various lifestyles, Yoo Ji-woo finally chose to become a monk. In this peaceful temple, he hopes to seek spiritual liberation and salvation.
In the mainland, the number of patients with depression is increasing year by year, and it has become a public health problem that cannot be ignored. This disease is not only a psychological problem, but also a social problem. It makes people lose their motivation to live, and even lose their lives.
And Yoo Ji-woo's story is a microcosm of this social problem.
After becoming a monk, Liu Zhiyu still faced depression, but he found a trace of solace in Buddhism.
He worked hard to learn Xi Dharma, hoping to use the wisdom of the Dharma to illuminate the darkness in his heart. And his story has also aroused the attention and concern of the society for people with depression.
Depression is not invincible, as long as we give patients enough care and support, it is possible for them to overcome the disease and regain their confidence in life.
Let's focus on depression, focus on mental health, and send a touch of warmth and light to those who are struggling in the dark.
In short, Yoo Zhiyu's ordination has shown us the severity of depression and the hope of overcoming depression.
Yoo Ji-woo's story allows us to see the diversity of life. Everyone has the right to choose their own way of life, whether they are devoting themselves to Buddhism or returning to the world, as long as they find the joy in their hearts, they can live a fulfilling life.
Liu Zhiyu's experience also tells us that love does not exclude practice, on the contrary, love itself is a kind of practice, a kind of practice that allows us to know more about ourselves and how to love others.