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I happily announced to my family that I had been admitted to a university in the city to major in computer science! This is the university of my dreams, and I can finally go to a big city to study.
When the second uncle heard this, he frowned: "What kind of university do you go to, you can already work and earn money in four years of college." What is the use of a rural child reading so many books, it is better to step into the society early to make money to support the family. ”
I explained, "Second uncle, I want to gain knowledge and skills through going to university, so that I can get a good job in the future. It is my dream to study, and I hope you can support me. ”
The second uncle sneered: "What's the use of studying? Children like you will only waste time when they study, what society needs is practical skills, is it useful without a diploma? I think you should finish your studies early and find a job." ”
I was very sad that my second uncle did not support my dream like this, but I still plucked up the courage to say to him: "Second uncle, I understand your thoughts, but I really want to finish my university studies, which means a lot to me." I will study hard and Xi hard and will definitely find a good job to repay my family in the future. Please give me this opportunity. ”
The second uncle was silent, and then said, "I don't have extra money for you to go to college, you can figure it out yourself." ”
I begged bitterly: "Second uncle, my family is not well-off, and I really don't have the money to pay for college." Just lend me 500 dollars, it means a lot to me, and I will definitely pay it back to you. ”
The second uncle mercilessly refused: "I have no money! I myself have a difficult life, how can I have money to borrow from you? You better give up, looking for a job to earn money is the right way." ”
I begged with tears in my eyes, but my second uncle resolutely refused to lend me money. I had to ask other relatives and friends for help, and I was able to borrow money from all over the place to go to college. I am very sad for my second uncle's indifference and ruthlessness, but I am even more determined to change my fate through my own efforts.
I got my wish and went to college in the city. When I first arrived on campus, everything was new to me. I tried my best to adapt to the university Xi life, and I wanted to gain knowledge and train myself here.
Soon after the start of school, all kinds of expenses used up my family's money. I called my second uncle and asked to borrow 500 yuan for living expenses.
The second uncle was very impatient: "It's normal to spend a lot of money in college, solve it yourself, don't bother me!"
I begged, "Second uncle, I'm really in trouble,
I begged: "Second uncle, I'm really in trouble, just lend me 500 yuan, I will definitely pay you back when I run out." ”
The second uncle sneered: "I said a long time ago that I would not lend you money, I persuaded you to give up studying in college, but you didn't listen, this is the path you chose, and you should bear the consequences." I can't give you money, you can find a way to go yourself!"
I begged bitterly: "Second uncle, it is really difficult for me to go to school, you can help me." I promise to work hard to learn Xi and will definitely reward you in the future. ”
The second uncle showed no mercy: "No is no, my money is all hard-earned money, why should I lend it to you? I will say it one last time, I will not lend you money!"
Seeing that the second uncle was so resolute, I could only give up. The 500 yuan was very important to me, but the second uncle just refused to lend it to me. I had to borrow money from my classmates in the dormitory to make ends meet.
I am very sad that my second uncle is so indifferent to me, but this strengthens my determination to change my fate with my own strength. I started studying hard in college Xi and often stayed up late to read. Slowly, my grades were at the top of my class and I was recognized by my teachers.
In order to improve my social skills, I also joined the campus club and met many like-minded friends. We often learn Xi together, discuss technical issues, and help each other. It made my university life enriching.
During the winter and summer vacations, I also actively carried out social practice and went to related companies for Xi. This not only earned me living expenses, but also allowed me to accumulate valuable work experience. I feel like I'm constantly improving and growing.
After four years Xi of study, I finally graduated. When I got that diploma in computer science,
When I got my diploma in computer science, I was so excited. This means that I have finally acquired a skill through my own efforts.
I started sending in resumes and was soon hired by a well-known internet company to become a programmer. After work, I work hard, take the initiative to take on tasks, and often work overtime to complete the code. The manager was very satisfied with my work ability and attitude, constantly giving me new tasks and putting me in charge of the development of the core modules.
I seized the opportunity to do a good job in every project. After two years, I am already a core member of the team. When a newcomer needs guidance, my manager always asks me to help them. I also actively Xi from senior engineers to improve my programming skills.
The company saw my potential and promoted me twice in three years. I started as a programmer, then promoted to project manager, and now I am the technical head of the department. My annual salary has also quadrupled in the years and has reached six figures.
One day, the second uncle suddenly called me and warmed me warmly: "Nephew, I heard that you are doing well in the company and are the department manager?"
I said coldly: "Hello second uncle, I only do some technical work in the company, and I can't talk about any great achievements." ”
The second uncle then said: "Oh, you are out now, uncle has something here that I want to ask you, I don't know what you think?"
I warily asked, "What's the matter?"
The second uncle said: "It's my cousin who wants to buy a suite in the city, but he doesn't have enough money on hand. Lend him 100,000 yuan, and I'll pay you back when the time comes. ”
I immediately refused: "Second uncle, I'm sorry, I can't help you with this." I haven't been working for a long time and I don't have that much money to spare. ”
The second uncle began to beg me, saying that my cousin's conditions were very difficult, so I would help and so on. I firmly rejected him.
Seeing my resolute attitude, the second uncle began to talk about the past when I begged him to borrow money to go to college, saying that I should repay my kindness now that I am out. I felt very uncomfortable when I heard it, but I still shook my head and refused.
After a while, the second uncle came to the door again, hugged my thigh and begged hard, saying that my cousin had signed a house, and their whole family was waiting for the money. I relented, thinking that he was my relative after all, so I reluctantly agreed to lend him 100,000 yuan.
The second uncle said excitedly: "Good nephew, I know that you are the most righteous! I will keep an eye on my cousin's purchase of a house, and the money will definitely be repaid to you on time." ”
I transferred the money to my second uncle, and he expressed his gratitude again and again, saying that I was his proudest nephew. I was also secretly glad that I was able to help my relatives, and the unhappiness in my heart dissipated a little.
A month later, the second uncle called me suddenly, but there was hesitation in his tone. I had a gut feeling that something was wrong and asked him what was going on.
I was shocked: "What? You lied to me!"
The second uncle immediately begged for mercy: "Nephew, you should be a helper uncle, I don't have a long memory at this age, you should save me this time, I really know my mistake." ”
I was very angry and asked him loudly: "How can you deceive me! When I begged you, you refused to lend me 500 yuan, and now you deceive me of 100,000 yuan, do you still have any humanity? I will never believe you again!"
The second uncle cried and admitted his mistakes, kept apologizing to me, and promised that he would never gamble again. I was so sad and angry that I hung up the phone.
In the days that followed, I couldn't let go of what my second uncle did. I asked him for help when he was in the most difficult time, and not only did he not help, but he also looked on coldly. And when I had a good life, he came to use me again. It made me very disappointed in him.
However, after much deliberation, I also realized that a lot of things in life are not so black and white. The second uncle is certainly to me
However, after much deliberation, I also realized that a lot of things in life are not so black and white. The second uncle is certainly wrong with me, but as an elder, he also has his difficulties.
Maybe when I was studying, my second uncle was in a financially constrained environment, so even if he wanted to, he couldn't help me. And now that I have the ability, he is stuck in the bitterness of gambling. As a junior, I should not be blindly resentful, but tolerant and understanding.
Although I am very sad that my second uncle took advantage of me, I should not repay my grievances with resentment. The fault is his, but forgiveness and probation should also be mine. So I called my second uncle.
The second uncle said excitedly: "Nephew, you finally called, I have had a very hard time during this time, and I know that I am sorry for you." Don't you blame me for calling?"
I said calmly: "Second uncle, I'm still sad and angry, but after consideration, I want to give you a chance to mend your ways." You're old too, and I don't want our relationship to break down. ”
The second uncle was grateful: "Good nephew, you are really a good person! I know that I am wrong, I will definitely be a new person and never gamble again." ”
I said, "Second uncle, I can help you treat your gambling addiction, but you must sincerely repent and truly correct it." I will check in on your progress regularly. It's also the last chance to give us a relationship. ”
The second uncle repeatedly promised that he would quit gambling and become a new man. With my help, he gradually got out of the shadow of gambling and went back to a normal life. I go to see him from time to time, and I do feel that he has changed a lot.
After a year, the second uncle has completely quit his gambling addiction and has a lot of regularity in his life. Gradually, I forgave him, and our relationship was restored. Sometimes I would take my wife and children to see him, and the family would have a happy meal and chat.
This has made me grow a lot. It made me understand the complexity of human nature, and I also learned to forgive and touch. We will inevitably encounter negative events in life, but we can choose to resolve them with tolerance and kindness. It also made me more mature and stable.
Looking back many years later, this experience has become one of the great treasures of my life. It has strengthened my family relationships and given me the courage and wisdom to face life's setbacks. When I have children myself, I will tell them these things.
Looking back many years later, this experience has become one of the great treasures of my life. It has strengthened my family relationships and given me the courage and wisdom to face life's setbacks. When I have children myself, I will tell them these things.
My eldest son, Xiao Ming, is already in middle school. One day, he came to me and asked, "Dad, I want to apply to go to a high school in another city, but it needs some fees, can you lend it to me?"
I smiled and said, "Good son, you can go to study wherever you want, and Dad will give his full support." Don't worry about money, I'll fix it. ”
Xiao Ming said happily: "Great, Dad! I will definitely study hard to study Xi, be admitted to a good university in the future, and then find a good job to repay you." ”
I patted his head and said, "Son, I support your decision, not for your future rewards. I only hope that you are free to pursue your dreams and become a useful person. Money is just a tool for life, it doesn't mean everything. You have to keep that in mind. ”
A few days later, the second uncle came to the house as a guest. When he saw Xiao Ming, he smiled and said, "Our Xiao Ming has grown so big, it's time to plan the future for him." I think he's going to high school locally, which saves money and is convenient. ”
I resolutely said, "No, I will fully support Xiao Ming to study in other cities." He should see the bigger world and get the best education. It's his choice, and it's his right. It's like when I chose to go to college. ”
The second uncle looked at me in surprise, and after a while, he said with emotion: "When you were in college, I really didn't support you, and I said a lot of hurtful things. I'm getting older and I understand that I shouldn't have deprived you of your rights and choices. Now it seems that you have grown up to be an enlightened father, and I am proud of you. ”
I was also impressed. The three of us sat around and chatted warmly about our life experiences and insights.
My second uncle and I both stumbled in life, but we finally grew up in the precipitation of time. This growth has not come easily, and it has also made our relationship stronger and more precious.
On the road of life, we will continue to learn Xi and continue to improve. But there are experiences and insights that will forever change us and make us a better version of ourselves. This is also the way of life that I want to pass on to my children.