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After the death of parents in old age, siblings, as the closest relatives in the world, have become the most important family relationship for many elderly people. Some people think that no matter how good their children's partners are, they can't compare to the family affection of their siblings.
However, traditional ideas in modern society are also under attack from the realities of reality. Many people find that today's compatriots are not simply blood and kinship, but full of various complex interests.
Therefore, for people over 60 years old, how to protect their own interests while maintaining the relationship between siblings has become a very important issue.
First of all, we have to make it clear: no matter how good the relationship between brothers and sisters is, the first hole card that cannot be easily revealed is property. In real life, we often encounter situations like this:
Some elderly people over the age of 60 leave their property to their siblings to manage because their children are not around, or because their children's ability is limited and they are unable to take care of their own lives.
As everyone knows, this approach is actually not a wise choice. After all, in the face of real money, people's greed exists objectively.
On the one hand, property is the security of a person's life. Once the property is handed over to the siblings, it means that you lose control of the property.
In this case, if the siblings can manage the property according to the agreement, then everyone is happy.
But the problem is that human nature is often greedy. Once there is a conflict between siblings, or one of the parties has selfish intentions, it can easily lead to the loss of property.
Moreover, since the property has been handed over to the other party for management, it is very difficult to recover the loss by yourself.
On the other hand, property is also a person's dependence in old age. Once the property is handed over to the management of the siblings, it means that you lose confidence in your old age.
In this case, if the siblings can manage the property according to the agreement, then everyone is happy. But the problem is that human nature is often fickle.
Once there is a conflict between siblings, or one of the parties has selfishness, it can easily lead to instability in later life. Moreover, since the property has been handed over to the other party for management, it is very difficult to change the status quo by yourself.
Therefore, property, as the economic basis of the elderly, cannot be easily handed over to an uncertain future. While maintaining the sibling relationship, it is necessary to maintain control over the property at all times to ensure that your old age can be secured.
For the elderly, the second hole card that cannot be easily revealed is health. This is often inextricably linked to the property issue in question.
Elderly people over the age of 60 are often in poor health, and some are Xi to leave the care of themselves to their siblings if their children are not around or have no children at all.
At this time, between the originally close compatriots, the pure family affection can easily turn into an exchange of money and services, an employment relationship. After a long time, this situation will inevitably turn into a business that relies on money to maintain.
The relationship driven by money, the care for the elderly and the dedication to service may all depend on the amount of benefits. If you take care of the elderly as a job after receiving money, it is easy for conflicts to arise between you and your siblings.
The person being cared for will feel that the care of others should be worthy of his or her own efforts because he or she has spent money, while the other party will be disgusted with too many demands from the perspective of affection, and if he or she is from the perspective of money, he may accept the money and not do anything.
The solution to this contradiction is that it is better not to have such an employment relationship with siblings. If care is really needed, it may be easier to achieve your goals by looking for a professional nursing facility in the community.
Finally, what the elderly also need is privacy. This privacy includes not only family conflicts, but also some life secrets that are not humane.
Despite being older, many things have become different, and talking about them in the old age may not really affect or change anything. But whether it involves one's own or other people's private matters, it is better to bury it in the stomach forever.
Family conflicts in the family should not be complained about casually, and mentioning it in front of outsiders will not play a role in solving the problem except to make the other party worry or leave a bad impression, but will affect the unity and make the peaceful days suddenly make waves.
In conclusion, older people should be cautious when it comes to property, health, and privacy, even if they are close siblings. This has nothing to do with compatriot feelings, it should be a person's self-preservation.
While maintaining the sibling relationship, it is important to maintain attention and control over these important matters at all times to ensure that your old age can be secured. Only in this way can we walk more steadily and more at ease on the road of life.
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