Now many extramarital affairs are cases where a cheating man runs to live with a mistress.
He is reluctant to let the cheating man go home if his wife wants to go home, and he is unwilling to divorce the cheating man.
has always maintained a state of not divorce from home, and occasionally goes home, and will also give his wife living expenses.
Even at the banquets held by some relatives and friends, the cheating man and his wife pretended to be a loving couple.
You want to say that the cheating man loves the mistress, but he refuses to give the mistress a name, and he is not willing to divorce and marry the mistress.
If you say that the cheating man doesn't love the mistress, he has been with the mistress, and most of the time and energy and money are spent on the mistress.
What does such a cheating man think?
In fact, cheating men who leave home and do not divorce, their thoughts are very simple:
It's nothing more than for the children, for the money, for the face, for the parents.
For example, this is the case of an extramarital affair that Blue Fang dealt with some time ago.
The original partner and the cheating man have been married for seventeen years, and her husband has been cheating for more than four years.
Since the third year, I moved out and lived with the mistress.,
I go home once a week and don't stay overnight at home most of the time.
then transferred half of his wife's salary every month, and his wife didn't cheat on the man, and he also told the mistress about living together.
The original partner did this because he still had certain expectations for the cheating man.
Because I feel that the cheating man is not completely ignoring the family,
is also willing to give money, occasionally goes home, and does not mention divorce at all.
The cheating man will definitely return to the family sooner or later.
What this original partner thought may be true, the cheating man is indeed leaving a way back for himself.
The cheating man has feelings for the mistress, but he is not willing to give up a marriage completely for the sake of the mistress.
Because he just has feelings for Xiao San, if you look at it from the perspective of interests,
Divorce and marrying a mistress is not a good thing for a cheating man.
But the junior also needs to be appeased by the cheating man, and the junior may also be in a hurry to get on the throne.
The cheating man does not divorce and marry the mistress, and the mistress will break up with the cheating man,
He is reluctant to have an extramarital affair with Xiao San, he must give Xiao San a great benefit,
Xiao San may continue to insist on having an affair with the cheating man, so the cheating man gave Xiao San everything except for the marriage certificate.
The cheating man moved in with the mistress and spent his time, money, and energy on the mistress.
In addition to not having a marriage certificate, two people live the same life as a normal couple.
The mistress may be dissatisfied, but the cheating man insists that the original partner refuses to divorce.
Cheating men can do this for the sake of the mistress, and many mistresses will also choose to accept this status quo.
The junior can accept it, but the wives have to think about it carefully, should you accept it.
Marriage and extramarital affairs cannot go hand in hand, and the existence of a mistress must harm the interests of his wife.
Even if the wife herself doesn't care, what about your children?
If a cheating man does this, he will definitely have a child with the mistress, what will the cheating man give the mistress's child in the future?
Therefore, the wives still have to solve the problem of the junior in the future, so it is better to solve it as soon as possible.
Like the situation of this original match, it is better to solve the problem when the cheating man and the junior have no children yet.
Although a man leaves home and does not divorce, the situation of having to live with a mistress looks very annoying,
But if a man refuses to divorce, then there must be a reason why he can't get a divorce.
Whether it's for the sake of children, face, parents or money, as long as he doesn't dare to divorce,
It is advantageous conditions for women who want to save their families.
The cheating man does not dare to divorce, the original partner wants to divorce, and the cheating man is bound to recover.
Wives are ready to collect evidence that the wife wants a divorce, but the cheating man refuses to divorce.
Then go to the mistress, this is the biggest contradiction between the cheating man and the mistress.
The cheating man coaxed the mistress before, saying that his wife refused to divorce, and it became that the cheating man was unwilling to divorce.
It doesn't matter whether the cheating man lives with the mistress or not, whether it is good for the mistress or not,
The junior will feel that the cheating man cheats on him, and the cheating man treats her badly.
The mistress and the cheating man have a quarrel, and the cheating man will only want to divorce even more, but choose to separate the mistress.
In the end, Blue Fang wanted to say that the idea that cheating must be divorced was too idealistic.
Because most marriages are mixed with a lot of practical factors that are not clear and unclear.
Everyone's situation is different, and divorce may not be a good choice for some women who have been cheated on.
So there are many women who don't divorce because of practical factors, and there is nothing to blame for this.
After all, everyone has the right to make their own choices, as long as they can take responsibility for their own choices.
But Blue Fang still advises wives not to easily forgive cheating men.
Because the cost of derailment is too low, it must bring multiple derailments and the final inconclusion.
So in the face of cheating on the other half, even if there is no way to divorce, don't forgive easily,
Learn to use the resources in your hands to give the most severe punishment to the cheating man, and raise the cost of cheating to the highest,
is the best way to solve extramarital affairs and prevent men from cheating for the second time.
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