Behind the glamorous career is the loneliness that no one knows
If you ask anyone who knows a little bit about the entertainment industry, they will tell you that Guan Zhilin is a lucky woman. Her beautiful appearance, the peak of her successful career, and her life of fame and fortune are all enviable.
However, behind this glamorous circulation, Guan Zhilin's heart has been tormented and lonely.
She grew up in a theatrical family and has a pair of actor parents. However, the good times did not last long, and the breakdown of her family brought her first injury at the age of 13. After her parents divorced, she endured a second hurt from her loved ones.
As a young girl faces family trauma alone, she is undoubtedly left with a wound that is difficult to heal. This also buried the hidden danger that she had difficulty establishing a happy relationship for many years.
The harm caused to her by her original family also made her a stranger to her father. After adulthood, the two had no contact for 28 years. During this period, she also tried to establish her own relationship many times, but each relationship ended in failure and could not give her real spiritual comfort.
The success of her acting career did not make up for the emptiness in her heart. She can only escape the loneliness in her heart by constantly working and devoting her energy to filming. But whenever she was alone or in the dead of night, the desolation of abandonment would always turn into unspeakable pain that gnawed at her heart.
The trauma of the original family goes hand in hand with the brilliance of the career
Family should be the warmest and safest harbor for children to grow up, but for Guan Zhilin, this is the first hurt she suffers. In 1975, when she was just 13 years old, her parents ended their marriage.
Five years later, she officially divorced, which undoubtedly brought irreparable damage to her growing psyche.
A happy family was shattered and her parents parted ways, which caused an unimaginable blow to her sense of security and happiness. A young girl who is still in adolescence, facing the reality of great changes in her family and the breakdown of her relationship with her relatives, has undoubtedly left a huge psychological shadow in her heart.
Subsequently, she was forced to choose between her parents. In the end, he decided to live with his father. However, her father was ambitious and did not have the time and energy to care for her, which was tantamount to abandonment.
The relationship between father and daughter has since drifted apart.
At the same time as the trauma of her original family, she entered the showbiz at the age of 19 and made her way up, soon becoming a popular fried chicken. The successful appearance of the TV series "Sweet Twenty Four Flavors" opened the door to the peak of her career.
After successfully entering the entertainment industry, she decisively seized the opportunity and starred in many film and television works. has to face the changes in the family, but also deal with the huge pressure of the acting career, it can be said that the 19-year-old Guan Zhilin has suffered a huge blow.
It was also at this time that at the age of 20, she began to embark on the road of affection and started her first relationship.
At the peak of his career, his relationship was never satisfied
The 80s to 90s of the 20th century was the peak of Guan Zhilin's career. In the past ten years, she has starred in many popular film and television works, the most notable of which is the role of "Thirteen Aunts" in the movie "Once Upon a Time" series.
This not only became a representative work in her career, but also left a deep impression on her in the hearts of the audience, and her popularity and popularity since the film reached its peak.
It can be said that the 80s and 90s were her golden age. While her career was in full swing, she had good economic conditions and gained fame and fortune, and she became one of the most enviable actresses of that era.
However, when her career reached its peak and she stood at the pinnacle of her life, she was always smooth sailing on the road of affection.
First, in 1985, there were constant scandals with wealthy businessman Ma Qingwei. Later, Ma Qingwei divorced, and the relationship between the two became even more suspicious. After that, he was entangled with Liu Luanxiong for many years, during which negative news continued to break out, and finally ended in a breakup.
It can be seen that from the 80s to the first decade of this century, Guan Zhilin frequently encountered failures on the emotional road. The partners around her come and go, and she can't remember how many men she has fallen in love with and broken up.
And when she suffered these blows, her father was never able to become her spiritual sustenance. It wasn't until 2010 when my father became critically ill that the 28-year decline was broken.
Faced with the advent of the digital age, she gradually faded out of sight. She is no longer as keen on chasing the aura of career as she was in the 80s and 90s, and is more involved in her own small family life.
It's just that so far, she still hasn't waited for the final destination of love. The repair of the father-daughter relationship has become the greatest consolation for the rest of her life.
When the father was critically ill, the daughter changed her mind in time
The 28-year disconnect ended in 2010. That year, Guan Zhilin's father, Guan Shan, was diagnosed with lung cancer and his health deteriorated. First he had high blood pressure and stroke, and then he was diagnosed with cancer, and his steady father suddenly became sick and dying.
Seeing the dying father, the daughter's instinct prevailed. No matter how separated they were in the past, the same genes flowed in their blood. She changed her mind in time and began to devote herself to caring for her dying father.
She patiently fulfilled her responsibilities as a daughter over the years, taking care of her father's daily life, diet and emotions in detail. She took the initiative to get closer to the old man in her life and tried to find her true love.
However, her efforts were still a step too late. In 2012, his 79-year-old father Guan Shan still failed to fight the disease to the end, and finally ended his magnificent life.
But for her daughter, she has no regrets in this life when she returns to her heart in time and accompanies her father through the last days.
Her father's loss has once again caused her pain, but she chooses to be tolerant and forgiving. For this life coach, she gave her best condolences and consolation. At the expense of a huge amount of money, he purchased a high-end cemetery of 4 million yuan to properly bury his father and complete the final farewell.
Although the past years cannot be repeated, it is the most regretless choice in her life to repay the grace of nurturing with all her might. This also allowed her to find the strength to move forward in her later life.
No matter how bad the marriage is, it is still a decent life
The death of her father brought Guan Zhilin an unfillable emptiness, but fortunately, she had a new emotional sustenance at this time. That year, she officially confirmed her relationship with Chen Taiming, a wealthy Taiwanese businessman.
This transnational relationship brought joy to her life, and in 2014, they finally entered the palace of marriage.
However, the good times did not last long, and in just one year, they chose to break up while they were still in the honeymoon period. The reason is unknown, but the failed marriage once again brought emotional trauma to Guan Zhilin.
She had to face the fact that she still hadn't met a true soulmate until she was 60 years old.
After the marriage broke down, she chose to continue living alone. Although she is no longer young, she has a decent life through her own efforts. Occasionally, I will interact with fans on short video platforms, and I will also take on some small activities.
She also finds time to travel around the world to empty herself and find meaning in life.
Today, she is still heroic and has an outstanding temperament, and there is no sign of being destroyed by the years. She showed rare bravery and strength, not being haunted by the past, but living in the present.
She no longer deliberately pursues the so-called true love, but chooses to calmly treat the rest of her life.
All those who have struggled and all those who are decent will eventually reap kindness and blessings. Maybe in the rest of her life, she will be able to harvest unexpected surprises, which is what she will never stop looking forward to on the road of life.