The New Year's bell has not completely dissipated, and every household has begun to visit relatives in a lively manner. Back then, during the New Year, everyone stayed at home, and the epidemic was like a solid barrier, intercepting all outsiders. However, this year, with the easing of the epidemic, the house has returned to its former liveliness, and relatives and friends are walking in joyful footsteps, and there is an endless stream of visits to the door. However, as a succulent plant lover, the excitement made me a little apprehensive. From the second day of the first lunar month to the fifteenth day of the first lunar month, this is a traditional time to visit relatives and friends. And my home, because of the fat and fleshy on the balcony, seems to have become a stop that everyone is looking forward to. Succulents, small bodies, colorful colors, are simply gems in nature, who doesn't love it? At first, it was just a hobby of their own, but they did not expect it to attract the greedy eyes of relatives and friends. Seven aunts and eight aunts, as well as those distant cousins who have not appeared for a long time, everyone came to my house, as if they had found a new world, staring directly at my beloved succulents, and some even opened their mouths to say: "This succulent grows so well, give me a pot!"
The succulents of my house, from early spring to cold winter, are carefully maintained day after day, from varieties to flower pots, every detail is poured into my infinite love and patience. The cheapest meat, dozens of dollars a pot is also common. And those precious varieties are priced in the hundreds. Even the flower pots and flower soil are carefully selected and the investment is not small. However, whenever the half-joking, half-serious "send me a pot" from relatives and friends sounds, my inner struggle and helplessness are unknown to them. The other day, several friends have already made this request to me. In the entanglement of the laws of social interaction and emotion, I had to give away several pots of beloved succulents, each of which had my own unique memories and emotions. Every time I send out a lot of meat, what I gain is family affection and human affection. My collection of succulents used to be about 180 pots, but now more than a dozen pots have found new owners. Human relations are sometimes more tangled than meaty, and you can neither categorically refuse, nor do you want to give up easily. After all, a pot of meat may only be a matter of three or five dollars in their eyes, but in my opinion, it is a priceless treasure. This experience has taught me a profound lesson.
This year, I have to be ready for summer and I'm going to start breeding more succulents, especially small potted plants as gifts. Let these small potted plants be a spare gift for the Chinese New Year, and although they are not my most precious treasure, at least, when a friend speaks again, I can generously take out a few pots without feeling distressed. So, I started to take action to prepare for the next time my family and friends arrived. No longer let yourself fall into embarrassment and helplessness, and no longer let those fleshy people I have cultivated with my heart become victims of human relations. Between family and hobbies, I try to find a path of harmonious coexistence. Succulents are not only my hobby, but also an important part of my life. And this test of visiting relatives and friends has taught me that sometimes, interest also needs the wisdom of being kind to others. From then on, when I hear "give me a pot" again, I will smile and pick out one or two pots from the small potted plants that have been prepared, without losing the etiquette or detrimental to my beloved succulent. For me, there will be no more apprehension, only anticipation. There is such a small scene, which may have been encountered by many friends who raise plants: the succulent growth at home is gratifying, bright and eye-catching, attracting the attention of visiting relatives and friends.
After some admiration, the conversation changed, "Can you give me a pot?" The question was like a small pebble thrown into a calm lake, causing ripples. It's a question and a test. First, let's explore the indisputable fact that in our traditional concept, "relationship" is indeed much more important. Whether it is family, friendship, or those indissoluble bonds forged for various reasons, they are an indispensable part of our lives. These relationships are like a net that binds us together. In this net, tiny fleshy ones don't seem to be enough to worry about. However, behind every pot of succulents, there is a cultivator's hard work and emotion. These little lives are not just a touch of green in the soil, they carry the time, energy, and even an attitude towards life of the conservators. Therefore, when a friend softly says, "Give me a pot", do you feel a moment of hesitation and reluctance? So, what should we do in the face of such a request? Some people choose to directly fulfill the other person's wishes, thinking that it is just a pot of plants, no different from other items, and giving it away is also a kind of fun.
Family and friendship are strengthened at this moment, and the joy of the other party also becomes a source of happiness for the giver. However, there are also those who choose to decline politely. They will politely explain their special feelings for meat, or patiently teach them how to grow them themselves. In the process, the relationship between the two may be deepened because of this sincere exchange. At this moment, are you wondering which choice is the right one? The answer is, there is no absolute right or wrong. Everyone has a ruler in their hearts to measure the emotional investment and return. Every choice is a test of the ruler. Let's listen to a few different voices. Mr. Zhang, a succulent lover with five years of cultivation experience, has his own philosophy of life. In response to the request, he smiled and said, "I usually give some succulent seedlings that I have propagated, so that I don't lose too much, and I can let my friends experience the joy of growing from scratch." "Ms. Li, a warm-hearted aunt, has a very different approach. "I usually send in some varieties that I have bred very carefully, because I feel that only the best can represent my heart for them.
Another example is the young Xiao Chen, who adheres to his principles and never gives away his precious flesh easily. "I would teach them how to plant and where to buy them, and even give them some seedling tools, but they wouldn't give me more meat. "In these stories, we see different people, different choices, and different emotions intertwined. Each person, based on their own emotions and understanding of the relationship, gave their own answers. Perhaps, you are wondering, what would you do if it were you? Here's a little suggestion: When a friend or family asks, maybe you can easily talk about your story with these meaty people. Share your experiences, share your joys, and even share your unique insights into these little beings. In this process, your friends may be able to feel your enthusiasm and seriousness, and perhaps they will begin to understand your reluctance and begin to respect your hard work. And if you finally decide to give away this pot of succulents, then remember that in addition to this potted plant, there is also your blessing and cherishing of this relationship. If you choose to decline, please express your thoughts gently and sincerely. In life, every choice is not simple. Between flesh and relationship, we are all looking for our own balance.
Finally, no matter how you answer, remember one thing: every relationship is a two-way street. As you consider how to respond to someone's request, don't forget that this is an emotional exchange of mutual respect and understanding. So, tell me, what would you do?