Naturally domineering tomboy
A little girl who is not afraid of heaven and earth is running and playing on an old street in Hangzhou. She likes to lead a group of children to organize games, but always involve them in "battles".
Red tassel guns and model toys are her favorites, and dolls are unattractive to her. "I sometimes wonder if I was born of the wrong gender and should have been a boy. Xiao Yuan Li said frankly.
The adults in the neighborhood called her a "tomboy". Her classmates also regard her as a female man, because this leader never suffers. When it came to fighting, Yuan Li was the first to rush forward; When it comes to reasoning, she never gives in.
In this way, a very unreasonable little guy is calling for wind and rain on the playground between classes.
It wasn't until the teacher discovered these "strengths" of her that she had the opportunity to embark on another path in life. The work of the "Literature and Art Committee" fell on her head, and she had to organize frequent rehearsals for the program.
At first, she had a headache with the errand: the pressure of the June 1st show made her love and hate. Gradually, when I stood on the stage and performed, an unprecedented joy arose.
Since then, the girl who grew up with the red tassel gun began to look for another kind of belonging.
The upheaval of life is often just a thought. The teacher's impromptu intention changed the entire trajectory of her fate. And the "boyish" temperament that made her a leader has gradually been sublimated in art.
This was the first turning point in Yuan Li's life.
Architect Financial Saiko
An exquisite restaurant, where Xu Wei, who is in a suit and leather shoes, has business exchanges with friends as usual. Inadvertently, he caught a glimpse of a figure sitting in a corner.
A young woman with an elegant temperament and beautiful appearance. "Who's that?" Xu Wei asked curiously.
The other party quickly informed that her name was Yuan Li and she was a student at the Beijing Film Academy. Tracing back to the source, there is no intersection between her and Xu Wei at all. "But she made me feel strangely attractive, and I can't explain it.
More and more often, Xu Wei's eyes always drift in that direction. Finally, one day, he mustered up the courage to come up and strike up a conversation.
The two, who are 12 years apart, met and knew each other in this way. Xu Wei, who has just earned his first pot of gold, is also entering the happiest time of his life. His success and fame have allowed him to enjoy his career and feelings.
Soon, the two became lovers. He bought a mansion for Yuan Li and provided a good life, and Yuan Li also moved in smoothly.
However, in a relationship, there is always a time when the initial passion subsides. Xu Wei travels frequently, and Yuan Li is gradually tired of the boring life of housewives. "I'll let you go out to work."
Xu Wei decided to meet her request. Who knows, this concession has planted the seeds of emotional breakdown. The two have less and less time together, and the gears of fate are quietly turning.
"Am I not the happiest woman in the world, why do I still feel unwilling and anxious?" At that time, Yuan Li was not aware of the depth of the problem.
She explores in her own way until she finds the answer.
The drama road is popular and full of scandals
In 1998, Yuan Li received the most important role in his life - the second female lead "Ouyang Lanlan" in the new drama "Never Look Away" directed by Zhao Baogang.
"I had to take on the role. Yuan Li signed the contract without hesitation. Zhao Baogang has such a high status in the industry, this is undoubtedly an opportunity given to her by God.
However, there are also the same risks associated with opportunities.
The filming process of the whole drama did not go smoothly, and there were also some signs of disharmony between Yuan Li and the male lead actor. Some scandals are quietly brewing and fermenting in such a secret and ambiguous atmosphere.
When Yuan Li won the actress at the awards ceremony and returned home, an angry Xu Wei greeted him.
"Is there still a chance between us?" Xu Wei asked. The answer to this question is very decisive for their future direction.
Yuan Li begged Xu Wei to give her another chance. She has to concentrate on filming and have a successful career in order to stand side by side with Xu Wei. She asked Xu Wei to believe in the love between them again.
In the end, Xu Wei had no way to say "no" to such a sincere and charismatic request. As a result, their relationship was rekindled in the shadow of the scandal.
However, there is always a trade-off between love and dreams. In 2000, the hit drama co-starred by Yuan Li and Zhang Guoli once again made Xu Wei angry. This time, Yuan Li could no longer find a reason for Xu Wei to believe.
A 12-year love affair ended in a long period of hesitation and helplessness.
On the course of pursuing his career, Yuan Li chose to continue sailing on the cusp of the turbulent waves; And Xu Wei, who gave up his feelings, also reorganized his canvas on a new journey of life. Breaking up is a gift of fate for them that sharpens their souls.
Bizarre marriages failed three times
The breakup with Xu Wei was just a small episode in her colorful life for Yuan Li at that time. With her career in full swing, she has no time to take care of her empty heart.
Until one day, a man named Zhao Ling suddenly broke into her world.
Two years passed quietly under the red light, and the relationship between Yuan Li and Zhao Ling heated up rapidly under the impetus of work. After only 3 months of acquaintance, they hurriedly entered the palace of marriage.
However, the good times did not last long, and the day of parting ways came faster than the newlywed.
"I really thought I had found true love. Yuan Li muttered to himself. She didn't give up, and met a foreign friend at a party again.
After some understanding, she made up her mind: this is her true destiny. followed by getting a license, decorating, and moving, she was once again in marriage, but she still broke down in a hurry at the peak of her time, ending this absurd marriage.
It's hard to imagine how much damage a woman can be caused by two consecutive marriages breaking down in just a few years without experiencing it firsthand. Yuan Li, who was once radiant, has now completely become a walking corpse.
She searched the ruins for her place in a daze, but could not find her way anyway.
We always learn to get up after falling, and some of the wounds never heal.
Social platforms get into trouble
The downturn in his career made Yuan Li feel unprecedented confusion and anxiety. She tried to rekindle her hope for her career through social platforms, but unexpectedly stepped into the abyss by mistake.
At first, it was just a comment on society, and it was quite insightful. The number of comments skyrocketed, the number of followers soared, and Yuan Li felt a long-lost sense of accomplishment.
She became more and more active, and her rhetoric became more and more extremely sharp. In this process, she gradually abandoned the bottom line and proportion that public figures should have, and exported her "insight" without scruples.
Until one day, the platform blocked her account without warning. "How can they deprive me of my freedom of speech at will!" Yuan Li thought angrily. She tried to appeal and shouted her grievances to various channels, but they all fell into vain.
This sudden blow made her realize that the world was no longer friendly and controllable for her.
She became increasingly paranoid that it was revenge with ulterior motives. Under this psychological effect, she began to impersonate fans, trying to realize her revenge plan by breaking the news and spreading rumors.
As everyone knows, this move made her lose the last little public favor, and she continued to accelerate in the process of falling to the bottom.
If we can detect our blind spots in time, we will not allow paranoia and self-aggrandizement to magnify infinitely, and thus embark on the path of destruction. However, human weakness often makes it difficult for us to detect and avoid this process in time.
Lessons that cannot be replicated
When Yuan Li realized that he had nothing left, tears finally burst out of his eyes. She once had a brilliant career and a decent and happy marriage, but now she is alone, struggling on the ruins.
She looked around blankly, desperately looking for a glimmer of life left, but only saw a ravine.
She was unwilling and hated herself for being stupid. Obviously has the best life, but he destroys all precious relationships with his own hands. Trials followed, but she lost the opportunity to stabilize herself again and again.
Looking back now, remorse didn't help. She can only accept this cold reality and complete this lonely spiritual transformation in the ruins.
There will always be choices in life. At the moment of choice, it is difficult to predict what the consequences will ultimately be. The only thing you can do is to do your best to weigh the pros and cons and then make up your mind to take that step.
A choice is a temporary sacrifice, a waiver of certain possibilities. Looking back many years later, we have to face its final fateful ending.
Yuan Li's life trajectory has taught us too many painful lessons. I need to examine myself, do I have similar blind spots? Will success come too quickly and too early, will people be inflated and conceited, and turn a deaf ear to the advice of others? Does the failure of my love life indicate the immaturity of my mind? Does the bottom line of freedom of speech need to be tested and denied in time? This series of questions worthy of vigilance is also placed in front of everyone who pursues growth.