The greatest sorrow in the world is that the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise but the parent is not there.
It is beyond the reach of the children to repent, but they cannot make up for it.
However, there is such a family.
The three daughters ruthlessly abandoned their elderly father and even kicked him out of the house.
Even at his funeral, the three daughters chose to be absent, and they relied on his second wife and stepson inside and out.
What kind of deep hatred and hatred made the parent-child relationship that should have been harmonious and harmonious come to this point?
Who is he, and why is his daughter so hated?
When it comes to the development of Chinese films, one person is indispensable, he is Zhong Xinghuo, a generation of film performance artists in the mainland.
Manager Zhou once met him, and Guo Moruo and Lao She were full of praise for him.
In Zhong Xinghuo's film career, he has shot more than 100 film and television works, accompanied by the growth of several generations.
It's just that who would have thought that Zhong Xinghuo, who is a person with a thousand faces and is very charming on the screen, ended up being swept away by his own daughter in his later years.
Speaking of fate!
In 1924, Zhong Xinghuo was born in Haozhou, Anhui Province, and since he was born, Zhong Xinghuo was passed on to his adoptive father Zhao Langzhai.
Speaking of which, Zhao Langzhai is also a capable person, Zhao Langzhai joined the army in the early years, accumulated a family property, and after returning to his hometown, Zhao Langzhai married 5 wives in one go.
But unfortunately, perhaps there is no fate for children and grandchildren, and Zhao Langzhai's 5 wives and concubines have not been able to give birth.
In the end, Zhao Langzhai raised the newborn Zhong Xinghuo under the influence of his relatives, and named the child Zhao Jinsheng and handed it over to his eldest wife to raise.
Because of his family's wealth, Zhong Xinghuo has received a good education since he was a child.
In that era, there were still many people who did not have enough to eat and could not wear warm clothes.
The young Zhong Xinghuo has already received the enlightenment of a private school.
It was also here that Zhong Xinghuo came into contact with Chinese studies such as "Mencius" and "Three Character Classic", which also made him have a strong interest in literature.
When he was a little older, Zhong Xinghuo developed a strong interest in Henan Bangzi and Peking Opera, and became obsessed with it.
Seeing that his son was about to become the "master of the mixed world", Zhao Langzhai and his wife discussed and decided to tell Zhong Xinghuo about a family matter.
At that time, many parents thought that "starting a family first and then starting a business" would make their children sensible after becoming a family.
In addition, in those days, people generally married very early.
So under the arrangement of his adoptive parents, Zhong Xinghuo soon got engaged.
The other party is the same as the Zhao family, and they also have a solid family, and there is a little girl in the family who is about the same age as Zhong Xinghuo.
So under the clapping of the elders, Zhong Xinghuo got married and had a fiancée.
But apart from knowing the woman's name, Zhong Xinghuo didn't know anything about the other party.
When Zhong Xinghuo was 16 years old, he married Chen Qian.
In this arranged marriage of blind marriage and dumb marriage, Zhong Xinghuo and Chen Qian are luckier than other couples of the same era.
Zhong Xinghuo is handsome in appearance, full of poetry and books, and is not without bad Xi, Chen Qian has a gentle personality, simple and knowledgeable, plus the two are of similar age, this marriage is also delicious.
In 1941, Zhong Xinghuo's eldest daughter was born. At that time, Zhong Xinghuo was 17 years old.
In 1943, their second daughter was born.
When his second daughter was 3 years old, Zhong Xinghuo decided to leave home and join the army.
After that, he was first admitted to the Linyi Liberated Area Officer Training Corps, and then transferred to the Department of Literature and Art of Shandong University to study Xi literature and art. During this period, he has participated in many dramas such as "Heroes and Heroes" and "Newlywed Night".
Changed his name from Zhao Jinsheng to Zhong Xinghuo.
In 1949, Zhong Xinghuo was transferred to the state-owned Shanghai Film Studio and became a professional film actor.
started his own career as a film and television actor.
It was also in this year that Zhong Xinghai and Chen Qian's youngest daughter fell to the ground.
At that time, Zhong Xinghuo only had a salary of 2.8 yuan per month, and all his belongings were only one backpack.
Naturally, such conditions could not accommodate his wife and daughter, and he brought them to live in Shanghai.
So Zhong Xinghuo had no choice but to live separately from his wife.
But no one thought that such days would pass for more than ten years.
In 1950, Zhong Xinghuo starred in his first film "Farmhouse", but unfortunately, this film did not cause any sensation and the response was mediocre.
This also made Zhong Xinghuo uncomfortable for a while.
In 1952, Zhong Xinghuo met the noble person in his life.
When filming "Southern Expedition and Northern War" with the famous actor Zhang Ruifang, Zhang Ruifang once mentioned him
"Acting is not one, two, three, or four military drills, performance is to perform people. ”
This sentence made Zhong Xing like an empowering. From now on, I will keep it in mind.
After filming this film, in order to better understand Zhang Ruifang's words, Zhong Xinghuo signed up to go to the Korean battlefield to experience life.
In 1954, after 2 years, when filming "The Mountain Bell Rings the Horse Gang" again, Zhong Xinghuo already had his own perception of performance.
There has also been a visible improvement in acting.
But what really makes Zhong Xinghuo deeply rooted in the hearts of the people is the light-hearted and witty film "Today I Rest".
In this film, Zhong Xinghuo plays Ma Tianmin, a good policeman who is dedicated to the people, and it is said that at that time, Zhong Xinghuo would be greeted by someone when he walked on the street:
"Hey, old horse, are you resting today?"
Seeing that the role he plays can be so liked by the audience is undoubtedly the greatest recognition and achievement for an actor.
This also encouraged Zhong Xinghuo.
In addition to the audience's recognition, Zhong Xinghuo was also praised by the film's chairman Cai Chusheng.
The other party praised this film
It is to sing the praises of the new society, the new life, and the new people in the form of comedy. ”
In 1962, Zhong Xinghuo cooperated with Zhang Ruifang again, and the two starred in the comedy film "Li Shuangshuang".
And the filming of this film is really not easy, in order to better fit the role, Zhong Xinghuo and Zhang Ruifang went to the countryside of Linxian County, Henan Province early to experience life.
Zhong Xinghuo even simply shaved his head and followed the villagers to work in the fields every day with a hoe on his back.
Seeing that the actors were gradually finding their senses, the director decided to start filming.
But who would have thought that when the machine was turned on, it encountered a rare dry season in Henan, and there was not a drop of rain for 7 months that day.
In order to ensure the daily maintenance of the crew, the crew has to use a small donkey in the village to carry water from 30 miles away every day.
However, manpower was limited, so water was very expensive at that time.
Therefore, the director decided that each person should have a teapot of water every day, which is used for drinking, washing, and no more.
It was under such shooting conditions that with the joint efforts of all the crew and staff, this film won the Hundred Flowers Award that year.
The two leading actors also became popular because of this, and they were also received by Premier Zhou.
During the group photo, Premier Zhou pushed them to the main position.
Seeing that they repeatedly shirked, the prime minister said, "You are the leading actors, and you should sit in the main seat." ”
There is a saying that you can't have both fish and bear's paws, while busy with her career, Zhong Xinghuo inevitably neglects the family, and his wife understands this very well and lets him do what he wants to do with peace of mind.
On the contrary, the three daughters are always full of resentment towards this stranger father because they feel too sorry for their mother.
In June 1966, Zhong Xinghuo was affected by the special era, was criticized, and was sent to reform.
The wife and daughter who were far away from their hometown were also implicated by Zhong Xinghuo, and for this more than once, the door of Zhong Xinghuo's house was smashed, and some people even persuaded Chen Qian to divorce Zhong Xinghuo, but Chen Qian refused.
In Chen Qian's heart, husband and wife are one, and they should share honor and disgrace, how can she be alone at this time.
Chen Qian's deep love and righteousness were also seen and remembered by the three daughters one by one.
Therefore, two years after the death of their mother, their father immediately married a wife and married another wife, which was extremely cold, making them more and more unworthy of their mother.
Even in the eyes of her daughter, the reason why her mother died of a sudden cerebral hemorrhage was that she didn't even have the opportunity to rescue and say goodbye to her family.
At that time, the preference for sons was particularly severe.
People can be called "crazy" in order to have children.
Zhong Xinghuo originally had no blood relationship with the Zhao family, and his adoptive adoption was just to continue his own incense.
As an adult, Zhong Xinghuo went out all the year round and never returned, and only Chen Qian was alone in the family to face her in-laws and her father-in-law's concubines and aunts who were not related by blood, plus Chen Qian only gave birth to 3 daughters.
It is conceivable that Chen Qian lived a cold life in the early years.
This also made the three daughters resentful of their father.
With the founding of New China, the disappearance of landlords.
The heavy responsibility of supporting the three daughters fell on Chen Qian, but at that time, the machinery was not developed, and the labor at home was all on Chen Qian's weak shoulders.
Seeing that my mother went from ten fingers not touching the spring water to ten fingers stiff and rough later, her once delicate cheeks have become extremely vicissitudes due to years of hard work.
This also made the three daughters hate their father more and more.
It can be said that how glamorous his father is on the screen, the more sad his mother is.
Under these two contrasts, the gap between Zhong Xinghuo and his daughter is getting bigger and bigger.
It is said that Mo Ruomu, who knows her daughters, is aware of her daughters' hostility to her husband, and Chen Qian enlightens them more than once.
But the child has already grown up and has his own thoughts, that is, sometimes parents can't interfere too much.
Chen Qian thought that blood is thicker than water, and time will eliminate all barriers.
After settling in Shanghai with a family of five a year, Chen Qian always tried her best to ease the estrangement between father and daughter and cultivate the relationship between them.
Zhong Xinghuo, who sensed his wife's thoughts, was also extraordinarily cooperative.
Those days were probably the happiest time for them.
But unfortunately, the sky makes people.
When the relationship between Zhong Xinghuo and his daughter gradually improved, his wife died of a sudden cerebral hemorrhage in 1979.
The bad news came too suddenly.
Who would dare to believe that the person who was still speaking softly in front of you one second will be separated forever the next second.
When Zhong Xinghuo hurried home, his wife had already passed away.
This also made Zhong Xinghuo feel painful, and he lost more than a dozen pounds in just over a week.
After saying goodbye to his wife, Zhong Xinghuo, who knew that his daughter did not want to see him, did not disturb his daughter's stable life, but lived alone in his and his wife's house.
But people are always afraid of loneliness in their old age, unwilling to face a deserted home, and unwilling to be alone Zhong Xinghuo chooses to constantly take on dramas to escape reality in order to alleviate the grief in his heart.
And such a move also made the three daughters more and more dissatisfied and hateful.
In their eyes, in this life, Zhong Xinghuo only has filming, filming, filming, but he is stingy to give the family around him a little warmth, even if his mother dies of illness, he still only has work in his heart.
Finally, in 1982, the contradiction completely broke out.
At this time, it has been 2 years since Chen Qian's death, and under the introduction of a colleague, Zhong Xinghuo met Zhu Yunyi, who was also widowed and living alone with her son.
Zhu Yunyi is a nurse in a hospital, with a peaceful and gentle temperament, Zhong Xinghuo is very relaxed in front of her, and she is always willing to say something from her heart.
After a year together, the two decided to get married.
But it was strongly opposed by his three daughters.
The eldest daughter said even more hatefully
"Are you Chen Shimei? Do you have the slightest conscience? My mother has followed you through ups and downs for more than 40 years, and she has not enjoyed a good life for a day, and now that she has passed away for less than three years, you can't wait to get married and marry another. In your eyes, is she just a tool for laundry, cooking, and inheritance. ”
This incident once caused a lot of trouble, and the era at that time was not tolerant of the remarriage of the elderly.
Zhong Xinghuo and Zhu Yunyi were pushed to the forefront of public opinion and were criticized by the public.
Zhong Xinghuo, who was in pain in his heart, wrote two letters to the Shanghai magazine "Democracy and Legal System".
In the letter, he confessed his inner feelings and life experiences.
After the two letters were published in full by the magazine, they also attracted wide attention and discussion from all walks of life.
In the end, after the mediation of the relevant units, the father and daughter each took a step back and reached a settlement.
The daughters no longer interfered in their father's marriage, and Zhong Xinghuo moved out of the house where he lived with his wife, Chen Qian.
After marrying Zhu Yunyi, the two began to rent a house.
In the past four years, I have moved back and forth 8 times.
And the reason for this move is also related to her daughter.
After getting married, Zhu Yunyi treated Zhong Xinghuo as gently as ever, knowing that Zhong Xinghuo smoked and drank heavily, and was well versed in health preservation, Zhu Yunyi, who was nursing, would let him quit drinking and smoking.
But this precept is not mandatory, but gradual, in addition, Zhu Yunyi will also brew health wine for him, make soup and cook.
After dinner, I often pull Zhong Xinghuo to walk around and take a walk.
With Zhu Yunyi's company and care, Zhong Xinghuo's body became more and more healthy.
He also has a very harmonious relationship with Zhu Yunyi's son.
The two of them would have a drink from time to time.
But it's a lot of fun. Family harmony fell into the eyes of the three daughters, but it was a little unpleasant.
For this reason, they will often come to the door to make noise.
This noise may not be without a desire for attention, or a catharsis for childhood grievances.
But it's a pity that in the face of his daughter's noise, Zhong Xinghuo chose to keep silently retreating.
In the end, the film studio couldn't stand it.
Assigned a house to Zhong Xinghuo and his wife, the husband and wife ended their continuous "wandering" in the days.
On December 25, 2014, after 32 years of cooperation, Zhong Xinghuo died in Shanghai Huangpu Central Hospital at the age of 91.
Junior actor Tong Xinrui recalled his communication with the old man, Zeng Dao, and Zhong Xinghuo's predecessor once gave him a pair of words.
This painting reads: "Life is happy, death is not regretful."
This shows the old man's open-minded attitude towards life.
And his grievances with his daughter were also written off with his death.
However, it was rumored on the Internet that 8 years after Zhong Xinghuo's death, his second wife had complained about him.
"You have only seen the hard work of your mother in raising you, but she is also in a place where you do not see, and he is trying to shelter you from the wind and rain. ”
"Now that you are also a wife and mother, you must already know the helplessness of this. Do you regret not seeing him one last time?"
epilogue
There is a saying that it is difficult for a clean official to cut off family affairs.
In this family dispute, everyone is innocent and everyone is pitiful.
Whoever empathizes has their own grievances and difficulties.
People die and everything rests, I hope that Zhong Xinghuo's predecessors are well in another world.