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When we are a little baby who has just come into this world, our parents begin to care for us extraordinarily, for fear that we will be hurt a little, and when we are sensible, they always try their best to be kind to us and hope that we can be happy.
When we need to go to school far away from our parents, no matter how reluctant we are, our parents can only tearfully send us to the car that drives to the front of the position, and when we finish school, work will follow.
Some people will return to their hometown to work, but if the conditions in their hometown are not good and they can't earn much money, then they still have to stay in the big city to work.
With the passage of time, we have passed through the period of childhood, adolescence, and youth, and in the blink of an eye, we have come to middle age, during this time period, most people have already married and had children, and even some people will return to their hometowns for stability.
Now the overall economic level of our country is also growing rapidly, everyone's living standards have changed dramatically compared with ten or twenty years ago, and our wage level has also increased, which can give our families a good life.
It can be said that many parents have now come out of the difficult era and enjoy better living conditions. However, when people reach middle age, we are faced with a problem, how should we treat our elderly parents correctly?
"My parents have worked hard all their lives, and now that I have the ability, I should do my best to be filial to them. "That's what a lot of people are saying. However, some people's "filial piety" goes too far.
They dote on their parents like spoiling children, giving them too much care and pampering, and even disregarding their own health and family in order to satisfy their parents' momentary excitement, no matter what kind of requests their parents make, they will do their best to fulfill them.
Even if their mother wants to sleep between her son and daughter-in-law when she goes to bed at night, the son will gladly agree, feeling that he is back to his childhood, and they have not considered whether his daughter-in-law wants to or not.
Such a son is called a "great filial son", and if the daughter-in-law has a little objection, it is not filial piety and there is no etiquette. In fact, doting on parents is also an unhealthy state of mind. The expert stressed.
"If an adult shows excessive concern and too much consideration for an elderly parent, it can be a psychological burden for the parent. "According to experts, excessive care and pampering can make parents feel that they have lost their independence.
Not to mention the elderly, the same is true for young people, no one wants to be bound, even in the name of love, those who are meticulous can only move themselves, not real care.
These so-called cares are a big blow to their self-esteem. For a long time, they have been playing the role of the pillar of the family, fighting for the happiness of the family, but they are overly dependent in their old age and feel that they have become a burden to the family.
Some elders may also suffer from mental illnesses such as depression and depression. Don't think that this is an exaggerated thing, when people reach old age, the sense of disparity in their hearts will be very strong.
They may have some ambitions, or they want to play outside like children, but they are bound by the old and weak husks, let alone play, and they usually feel out of breath when they take a few more steps.
It is the great difference between the ideal and the reality, which makes the wound in their hearts bigger and bigger, at this time, children can properly care about their parents, such as enlightening their parents, or let them find a little fun to do.
Anyway, you can't let them be "too idle", lest they think crankily, what you need to know is that the body of the elderly will indeed be more fragile, but it is not to the extent that it will be broken when touched, so everyone still has to look at it correctly.
In addition to this, doting on parents can affect oneself and one's family. If you put your parents above yourself and your family, you can make your life stressful and uncomfortable, leading to problems with your own body.
Sometimes, there will be unnecessary quarrels and conflicts with family members. Some people will feel sorry for their parents and let their wives serve their parents, and it is no problem for the younger generation to be filial to the younger generation.
But if you want your wife to take care of the elderly like a nanny, it is too much, filial piety is not something to be said, and it is not something that can be faked. When dealing with elderly parents, we should not be too attached to some superficial filial piety.
Too much care and pampering is not a substitute for true filial piety in the heart. To keep parents independent and help rather than a burden, you can arrange appropriate social activities, provide support and help them develop healthy Xi.
Overall, the nurturing grace of parents is enduring. In the process of filial piety to our parents, we should not only consider their material life, but also give them warm care and spiritual support.
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