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"The cleanest actress" in the entertainment industry: accompanied her father to fight cancer for many years, was chased by a mysterious rich businessman for 10 years before she was willing to marry, and was spoiled with her daughter
Text: Lin Nanfang Editor: Jia Fangfang
Source: Marriage & Family Magazine
Tag: 99
Not long ago, in the warm workplace drama "My Assistant is Not Simple" starring Wang Ziwen and Deng Jie, an actress was recognized by many people as soon as she appeared, exclaiming: "What a surprise, Dai Jiaoqian came out!"
Dai Jiaoqian, born in the 80s, is a good actress, and was nominated for the Golden Eagle Award for Best Actress for the first time when she filmed the TV series "Flower Season and Rainy Season" at the age of 19.
But after 2014, she rarely appeared on the screen, and many people thought she was banned.
In fact, she is going to play the second important role in her life.
In January 2016, Dai Jiaoqian posted a B-ultrasound photo of prenatal examination on Weibo, saying that she was about to become a mother. Many fans are confused: when did you get married, and with whom?
This can't blame fans for making a fuss, it's indeed because Dai Jiaoqian is a little "weird". In life, she doesn't look like a female star at all, and she has more of the "fireworks" of ordinary girls.
As an only daughter in her early 20s, she was busy filming to earn money to accompany her father to fight cancer, she didn't want to marry a rich man, she was chased by the "godbrother" for 10 years and was unmoved, the blind date was fruitless, and she would rather be single than abused, but finally at the age of 34, in front of her father's hospital bed, she decided to marry the "godbrother".
Weddings do not pay attention to the form but the essence, save the money of weddings, wedding dresses, and honeymoons, and get married after a meal.
has lived for 43 years, whether it is acting, parents or choosing a husband, she always focuses on sincerity, which is the internal reason why she is not like a female star.
What kind of love story does the 34-year-old actress and the 10-year-old "godbrother" have?
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The "Gege professional household" on the screen accompanied his father to fight cancer in his life and became a "poor household"
Dai Jiaoqian has no scandals and is known as the "cleanest actress" in the entertainment industry, which is inseparable from the strict teaching of her parents since she was a child: "It is very important to behave rightly, sit upright, and clean yourself." ”
Although she looks like a princess, she actually started her life as a Cinderella.
In 1980, Dai Jiaoqian was born in an ordinary family in Shanghai, and she was not "loud" in music and Xi (Shanghai dialect, meaning not outstanding). I haven't made progress in learning the violin for two years, and I can't learn Xi well, and I was scolded by the teacher for being stupider than a pig.
In order to prove herself, when she was 13 years old, Dai Jiaoqian did a big thing without telling her family - she secretly signed up for the Chinese Young Star Competition.
On the day of the preliminary competition, everyone else was accompanied by their family members and dressed beautifully on stage, but Dai Jiaoqian wore a sweatshirt and broke through alone. Half a year later, she made it all the way to the semi-finals, standing out from more than 60,000 people and rushing into the top ten.
When my parents learned the news, they were in disbelief, and even Dai Jiaoqian herself was surprised that she couldn't sing and dance to show her talent in performance.
Her parents decided to save money and enrolled her in an art school to learn acting.
In the second year of junior high school, the crew of "Flower Season and Rainy Season" went to Dai Jiaoqian's art school to find actors, and the teacher recommended her and several female classmates.
Two months later, Dai Jiaoqian became the candidate for the heroine Liu Xia. Regardless of whether there is a scene or not, she moves a stool to sit next to the director, watches the camera switch between far and near, and knows what the sense of the camera is.
Good luck and hard work, Dai Jiaoqian created miracles.
With the first drama in her life, 19-year-old Dai Jiaoqian was nominated for the Golden Eagle Best Actress, but unfortunately lost to the very popular "Huanzhu Gege".
Although I like acting, my parents feel that it is important to learn knowledge. After the college entrance examination, Dai Jiaoqian studied the Chinese Department of East China Normal University and has no contact with the entertainment industry. If she hadn't met a nobleman, director You Xiaogang "You Dad", she might not have become an actor.
At that time, You Xiaogang was looking for an actor in "Very Contact", and felt that Dai Jiaoqian in "Flower Season and Rainy Season" was very aura, so she asked her to play the female nurse Ding Ning.
After the filming, he said seriously: "Little girl, you have great potential, if you are at ease with me, sign in to our company." ”
Faced with this sudden opportunity to choose a job, Dai Jiaoqian didn't dare to make the decision, and waited until her parents felt relieved to see the director before signing the contract.
After that, Dai Jiaoqian's acting career was on the right track, becoming You Xiaogang's "royal little flower", and performed brilliantly in many costume dramas such as "Phoenix in the Rivers and Lakes" and "The Secret History of the Crown Prince".
Dai Jiaoqian, who has a thriving career, met her first love, a boyfriend who was 10 years older than her.
In the seventh year of being together, the man was 35 years old, and his family urged him to get married. But Dai Jiaoqian was not ready, and the relationship came to an abrupt end.
Before she had time to heal her frustrated injury in the love field, Dai Jiaoqian encountered the only child's most feared thing - her father suffered from stomach cancer and fell ill.
When the doctor asked her what the condition of her family was and how much she planned to spend on treatment, Dai Jiaoqian realized for the first time how important money was.
At that time, Dai Jiaoqian was only 24 years old, one year after graduating from college, and the filming company's film was very small. But in order to treat her father, she lied and said that "the conditions are good".
Soon she found out that the money was not enough to spend, and the high salary of "Eighteen Oceans" that Dad You had just negotiated for her was quickly spent.
During my father's hospitalization, my mother's eyes were not good, and she was also responsible for cooking and delivering meals to my father, and in order to save money, she took the bus for more than two hours and made several round-trips every day.
When she was most short of people and money, Dai Jiaoqian had another car accident, her nose was broken, and the scene could not be filmed.
Coupled with the money owed by her father's bankruptcy, the family is in debt, and Dai Jiaoqian is worried about how to make money every day when she opens her eyes.
Whenever someone recognizes her as a star when walking on the street, Dai Jiaoqian will think: How can there be such an embarrassed female star?
In order to make money, Dai Jiaoqian worked even harder, and at most she took on 6 plays a year, and her body was seriously overdrawn. Once after eating the crew's box lunch, she also fainted from food poisoning, which frightened Dai's mother.
Although her eyes are not good, Dai's mother did not hesitate to take the big pot and the small pot and rushed to the crew to take care of her daughter. used to play the piano with a spatula in his hand to learn to cook, recuperate for his daughter, and accompany her to film. Dai Jiaoqian has become a rare actress in the circle who "takes her mother to film".
Chinese parents are like this, worrying about their children for a lifetime until they die. And Dai Jiaoqian is also a filial child, and their family of three has supported each other in this way and has gone through the most difficult days.
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Adversity sees the truth, and the "spare tire" of 10 years finally turned positive
In addition to being a chef, Dai's mother also serves as a housekeeper.
Have a party come to the door?
Are there people with bad intentions to take pleasure in their pastime?
Dai Jiaoqian filmed for a few years without distraction, and the money was slowly repaid. At this time, she was almost 30 years old, and her parents' focus began to shift to marriage.
In addition to keeping unreliable suitors out, Dai's mother is also responsible for discovering high-quality men. There is a male colleague in the crew who is very good and likes Dai Jiaoqian very much, so Dai's mother actively matches the two.
Unexpectedly, Dai Jiaoqian is a very assertive girl emotionally, because she has seen her parents' sincere love since she was a child.
Dad is a poor boy, chasing his mother, the violin goddess of the conservatory, for more than 2,000 days, and after learning that his mother may lose his sight due to eye disease, he still does not give up. After getting married, in order to treat Dai's mother, he took the initiative to resign from his job as the director of a state-owned factory and decided to start a business to make money.
Growing up in such a family, Dai Jiaoqian's view of marriage and love is very positive. She thinks that a good man is a "three-hearted man" like her father - filial, loving, and self-motivated.
Dai Jiaoqian has a straightforward personality, and people who don't like it will refuse it.
failed to match a few, and seeing that several good boys were missed, Dai's mother was so angry that she scolded her for "no conscience".
But Dai Jiaoqian, an older unmarried young woman, adheres to the principle of preferring shortage to abundance. She knows that marriage is for happiness, not for the completion of tasks. Only by following your inner feelings can you encounter happiness.
Later, Dai's mother also mobilized relatives and friends to introduce her to a few Shanghai boys, but the actress's blind date drama ended in failure.
In fact, Dai Jiaoqian has always had a "flower messenger" lurking by her side for many years.
A few years ago, when a crew was filming, the producer's friend came to the scene, a businessman who was in the investment business, and fell in love with Dai Jiaoqian at first sight, 10 years older than her, mature and steady, introverted, and rarely spoke.
But Dai Jiaoqian has always felt that rich people are unreliable, and has always rejected him, and even called him "godbrother", wanting him to die.
But this "godbrother" just didn't give up, and said: "If you don't get married one day, I won't get married, as long as you don't get married, there is hope." ”
Once, Dai Jiaoqian lied: "Don't come again, I'm in love and getting married." Who knows, after hearing this, he said with a firm face: "You will not be happy if you marry someone else, you will get divorced, and my 'spare tire' will turn positive sooner or later." ”
didn't think about it, but he really got it right.
In 2014, Dai Jiaoqian encountered a "difficulty" in her career.
At the press conference, because of his upright speech, he offended insiders. For a while, the outside world believed that she was deliberately hyping up and her career was frustrated.
At that time, Dai Jiaoqian was filming in the crew, and she would face huge compensation for breach of contract. Just when she was at a loss, "Godbrother" put down all her work and went to the hospital to take care of her for several days, scrubbing Dai's father every day, and even the hospital nurses were moved when they saw it, thinking it was her son.
Once Dai Jiaoqian entered the door and saw this man who was wiping his father's hands and feet, she suddenly felt a little moved. "He looks like my family, there are many rich people these days, but there are not many who can treat your parents as filial as their own parents. ”
He touched the warmest string in Dai Jiaoqian's heart. As she grew older, she also understood that rich people are not necessarily unreliable, and adversity sees the truth.
After filming "Dark War in the Dangerous City", Dai Jiaoqian got married with him.
The weddings of other actresses are very luxurious, but Dai Jiaoqian thinks, "The most important thing is that two people are like-minded, which is more important than how many houses and diamond rings are given." ”
The husband calculated the cost of the bride price, honeymoon, and wedding, and gave her a number. She said that it was more cost-effective to save money to buy a wedding house. I didn't ask for a diamond ring, I didn't have a wedding, I just had a meal with my parents and married myself.
The unpretentious Dai Jiaoqian pursues a back-to-basics marriage, and happiness comes naturally.
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A female paper who has been running for her family for many years is also very good at living as a mother after marriage
On April 3, 2016, her daughter was born, and there was an additional "Xiao Gege" named An Xin in the family. This is the nickname that Dai Jiaoqian and her husband picked out from the names of the forty or fifty characters she has played.
Dai Jiaoqian, who was still afraid of childbirth before, now sighed sweetly: "I can do nothing all day, revolve around her 24 hours a day, accompany her to eat, sleep, and play, I don't want to miss every moment of her growth, and I feel happy with a little padded jacket by my side." ”
was afraid of breastfeeding and pulling her crotch figure, she once said firmly: "I don't want to breastfeed, I'm an actor!" As a result, the day after giving birth to An Xin, Dai Jiaoqian began to feed night milk with dark circles under her eyes.
Seeing the mother who rushed to buy clothes for her children in the mall before, Dai Jiaoqian always felt very incomprehensible: "What do you want so many clothes for?" Now, every time the season is cleared and discounted, she also begins to stock up.
The female paper that used to be big and grinning has become cautious after becoming a mother.
In order to learn more about Xi raising children, they participated in the children's lectures, and planted kiwifruit, tomatoes, bitter gourds, pumpkins and other vegetables and fruits in the vegetable field with their parents and distributed them to their neighbors in the community.
Dai Jiaoqian feels that her mother is a job that will never have holidays and pay, which is 100 times harder than that of an actor, but it is the second important role she will play in her life.
In order to play this new role well, Dai Jiaoqian reduced her workload and only filmed one drama a year, not caring about the number of scenes, just for love.
Weibo began to become a new place for Dai Jiaoqian to communicate with fans. She often shares her life, and she will delete all the content that the company has prepared for her, leaving only her real daily life.
My husband is still a straight man with few words, and he usually talks no more than 3 sentences, and when he gets angry, he even asks "Do I want to coax you", which often makes her angry, but he is definitely a "favorite wife" action.
In his place, Dai Jiaoqian's parents ranked first, Dai Jiaoqian ranked second, and his daughter ranked third, he was a proper "three-hearted good man", as always considerate and thoughtful.
In order not to mess up Dai Jiaoqian's work, he has been hiding his true face and is willing to be the "invisible person" behind the female star.
Family affairs are all decided by Dai Jiaoqian, the hostess, and under her leadership, the family's life is becoming more and more down-to-earth.
The family originally had 3 cars, but because she felt that the maintenance and other costs were too high, she reduced it to one car. Later, she felt that the traffic jam was delaying time, so she simply took her daughter to and from school on the subway and traveled green.
As long as she is not filming, Dai Jiaoqian will pick up and drop off her daughter to and from school by herself.
Like many mothers, the most worrying thing about holidays is where to walk the baby, every time she is asked "how do you take care of your children in person if you are a star", she says: "That's work, I'm not a star in life, I'm a mother." ”
Now, I have been married to my husband for 9 years and have known each other for 19 years, my daughter An Xin is lively and cute, her parents are healthy, and Dai Jiaoqian and her husband are as sweet as usual.
At the age of 43, she once said that her mother was a princess and she wanted to protect her with her father. Now she is not a princess, surrounded by the affection of her parents, husband and daughter.
In her eyes, home is just a father, a mother, a husband and a baby, and an actor is just a profession, which does not need to be so complicated.
Although the entertainment industry is complicated, although it has not become popular, Dai Jiaoqian is a good actor, she lives sincerely and happily, this good daughter, good wife, and good mother will always be happy with her family!
Resources:
1. Dai Jiaoqian's Weibo and other accounts
2. Interview with "Entertainment and Music".
3. Sina News, etc
4, Dai Jiaoqian's interview variety show
(Excerpt from WeChat public account Marriage and Family Magazine)