Dictation: Aunt Zhou
Author: Xiaoya
I am 54 years old, and although I am past the age of retirement, my pension is less than 2,000 a month. In order not to increase the burden on my two daughters, I took advantage of the opportunity to work and entered a factory, found a job with a monthly salary of about 5,000, and planned to save a little pension money for myself.
In the past few days, I have been working seriously in the factory, but the screen of my mobile phone frequently lights up, which seriously disturbs my work efficiency.
During the lunch break, the co-worker couldn't hold back his heart and asked who was looking for me and why I never answered the phone. I replied angrily, "Who else could it be?
As soon as I finished speaking, my eldest daughter's phone called, and I answered. On the other side of the phone, the youngest daughter's tone was full of helplessness: "Mom, this morning, my second uncle and they found where I lived. ”
Hearing this, I quickly asked my youngest daughter if she had been troubled by them, and the youngest daughter shook her head and told me that she had just changed her rent not long ago and had changed her new address, so the second uncle's family was empty.
I breathed a sigh of relief and was silent for a while, and then I asked my youngest daughter, "Do you think I'm going too far?" He's your dad anyway, and we're not divorced, so let's just watch him lie in the hospital and hang by a thread, no matter what, okay?"
At the mention of my husband, who was lying in the hospital and did not know whether he was alive or dead, the youngest daughter was not angry: "He deserves it! Since in his eyes, his nephew is far more important than his own daughter, so why doesn't he go to his nephew and ask for money? Why should we pay to serve him? When we need him, he treats us as air, and does not act like husbands and fathers." Now that he needs help, he remembers that you are his wife and we are his daughters.
The youngest daughter, like her sister, refused to forgive her father no matter what, and cheered me on, telling me not to compromise, I agreed, let her be careful.
After hanging up the phone, I saw that my colleagues were looking at me with curiosity and gossip, so I told them what had happened.
Thirty-two years ago, I was 22 years old, and it was time to find my in-laws. Since I was born in a patriarchal family, my parents only had sons and no daughters in their eyes, so I was not qualified to pursue my own happiness or decide my own marriage.
It didn't take long for my parents to take a fancy to a family and force me to marry in order to get money for my brother to marry a wife.
Not long after I got married, I gave birth to my eldest daughter, which made my in-laws feel very disappointed and kept scolding me for not being angry. At this time, my husband was quite good to me, and he also loved his daughter more, I thought that my husband was different from them and cherished his marriage.
However, when my youngest daughter was born, I saw that he had changed his face like his in-laws, and scolded me for being weak after giving birth, saying that I had given birth to another girl, I knew that he and his in-laws were all the way, and they also had the idea of patriarchy. He didn't reveal his true colors at first, just to coax me to promise to continue to pass on the lineage to him.
I was disappointed by his reaction, and I was even more desperate that not long after my little daughter was born, he had bad intentions and wanted to give my little daughter away so that I could continue to carry on to their family, but I firmly refused.
He tried his best to speak, and even found a person to adopt, I desperately held my little daughter and refused to let go, he couldn't help it, so he said to me: "Okay, since you have to keep this girl, then you can raise it yourself! From now on, I won't give you another penny, you have the ability to raise the two girls yourself!"
He did what he said and never gave me a penny since, and we started a 26-year AA life.
Speaking of this, my colleague Sister Wang couldn't hold back her anger and asked me: "He is so ruthless and unjust to you and your two daughters, why don't you divorce him with your two children?"
I smiled wryly, until now, I will definitely divorce him without hesitation, anyway, there is no difference between his husband and father for the three of us mother and daughter. But for more than 20 years, my thinking is relatively old-fashioned, especially in my hometown, I know that I can't get the support of my mother's family, and I don't have the courage to mention divorce.
In addition to that, I thought that even a seemingly complete home was better than a completely broken one, at least in the eyes of outsiders, my two daughters had fathers, and they were not so easy to bully.
When my youngest daughter was two years old, my brother-in-law gave birth to the only grandson of my in-laws, and since then, my in-laws have completely ignored me and my two daughters, as has my husband.
My husband and I lived separately, and I took my two daughters to the county seat, and I worked odd jobs while raising my two daughters, and I suffered a lot. The husband spent all his hard-earned money on his little nephew, and never remembered that he still had two daughters.
After the eldest daughter was a little sensible, she had expectations for her husband and asked him who was his own, but the husband was impatient and yelled at the eldest daughter: "Who told your mother not to give me a son? If she gives me a son, do I need to raise a nephew? If she doesn't give birth to a son, I won't look for my nephew in the future, but also find the water that you two spilled?"
The most disappointing thing for our mother and daughter is that when my eldest daughter was in her third year of high school, I was unemployed and couldn't afford to pay for my two daughters to study, so I had to go to my husband, hoping that he would take money to read to the children in the face of family affection, but he didn't give a penny: "What books do girls read? I know it's a waste of money, so let them go out to work, get married early, don't get in the way in front of me." ”
I begged him for a long time, not only did I not get a penny, but I was also severely humiliated by my mother-in-law's family, and since then I no longer have any expectations for him, and I only have endless hatred in my heart.
Fortunately, my eldest daughter's grades in Xi were good, and the class teacher saw that my family was really in difficulty, so she lent a helping hand, not only helping my eldest daughter apply for tuition waivers, but also borrowing me a sum of money to help me tide over the difficulties.
Now, both of my daughters have gone to university, found jobs, and are able to support themselves, which is very satisfying.
Compared with our mother and daughter, my husband's life is not so good. Under the pampering of her mother-in-law's family, her husband's little nephew is very unsuccessful, and he didn't even get into high school, and he often causes trouble.
Over the years, seeing that my two daughters have a future, my husband has come to me to ask for peace, saying that he realized his mistake. However, my two daughters and I are very clear about their purpose, nothing more than to see that my two daughters have a chance and want to take advantage of us!
No matter how her husband showed weakness, her daughters didn't care about him, refused to give him a penny, and made him half angry and helpless. Not long ago, he threatened me to sue my two daughters: "No matter what, I am their father, they have to give me money, and if they dare not honor me, I will sue them." ”
The eldest daughter scolded back on the spot: "You go and sue! Even if you win, you can only get a sum of alimony, and if you want more, there is no door." ”
Before he could put it into practice, I received a call from my husband's little nephew, saying that my husband had been in a traffic accident and was now lying in the hospital without knowing whether he was alive or dead, and asked me to hurry over and pay for the operation.
When I heard this, I went back: "Didn't you say that you would provide for him in old age? What are you looking for me to do? Let me go over and sign to give up treatment?"
I ignored them, refused to pay money and refused to visit, my mother-in-law's family did not give up, and until now they are still trying their best to stage a moral kidnapping, wanting me to treat my husband.
After listening to my confession, my colleagues were filled with righteous indignation, scolding my husband for deserving it, and giving me a thumbs up on the other, saying that I had done the right thing, so that I didn't have to deal with these relatives who took advantage of me and behaved well.
People are watching the sky, and he is now lying in the hospital without knowing that no one cares about life and death, which is his retribution for being a father in vain. He hurt me and my two daughters so badly, why did he want me to contribute money and help for him?
I'm not a virgin, I'm not generous, anyway, I can't forgive him who is sorry for our mother and daughter.
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