Dictation: Mr. Tao
Author: Xiaoya
I am 34 years old, married to my wife for eight years, and have a son and a daughter.
Originally, our husband and wife have always had a good relationship, but a month ago, my wife and I quarreled, three days ago, she clamored to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the divorce procedures, I also agreed, and the two of us are still in the cooling-off period of divorce.
Just when I had made up my mind to end our marriage, my wife regretted it again and called me to apologize and hope to reconcile, and I really didn't know how to reply.
10 years ago, I was 24 years old and was working in a company, and the boss brought a newcomer and said to me: "Xiao Tao, this is a new employee in our company, I asked her to be your assistant, you can bring her more." ”
Under my guidance, she made rapid progress and successfully passed the probationary period, and in the process, I developed a good impression of her cheerful, lively and charming smile.
After the probationary period passed, she offered to invite me to dinner, and I agreed, and bought a bouquet of roses to confess. I was thrilled to see her smile and take the rose from my hand, and I was able to hold the beautiful woman in my hand.
I was in a relationship with her for two years, and then I proposed and started talking about marriage. The process of talking about marriage went relatively smoothly, and the parents of both parties did not object. I gave the woman's family a bride price of 140,000 yuan, and I got my wish to marry my favorite woman.
In the third year of marriage, my wife gave birth to a daughter for me, and at my request, my mother, who had just retired, came to the city to serve my wife in confinement and help us take care of the baby.
At the beginning of this year, my wife gave birth to a second child, a son, and my parents and I were very happy to see a son and a daughter make up a good word, and we are very grateful for my wife's dedication.
In order to provide a better life for my wife and children, I quit my old job and moved to another company, although my income has increased a lot, but I have also become busier and have to work overtime every day.
My wife often complained that I didn't have time to spend with them, and I felt very guilty, so I turned in my salary card to make up for them, and handed over all the financial power of the family to my wife.
Originally, I thought that we could continue to live in harmony like this, but soon I realized that my wife lacked respect for my mother-in-law.
As soon as I said this, I couldn't figure out what my mom and I hadn't done well.
As a husband, although I don't have time to accompany her, but I also want to fulfill the responsibility of supporting my family! My current annual salary is about 200,000 yuan, and I only keep a little pocket money every month, and hand over the rest to my wife.
I worked hard in my career honestly, and I never did anything to mess with flowers, and my colleagues laughed at me for being a strict wife.
Since my income is enough to support my family, and my wife was relatively old when she gave birth to her second child, her physical recovery is not very good, so since the birth of her son, my wife has not gone out to work again.
As a mother-in-law, my mother also gives a lot for the family. Since my wife's first pregnancy, my mother has lived at home to help with the confinement and grandchildren.
I remember sometimes getting up at night to go to the bathroom, passing by my mother's room, seeing that the light was still on, and I could hear my mother's voice coaxing the child when I was close to the door.
My mother was worried that the children's crying would affect our rest, so she let the two children sleep with her, and in order to take care of the two young children, my mother had to get up several times a night.
My mom helped take care of her grandson, not only to contribute but also to contribute, at first I didn't know that my mom took out a pension to subsidize us, until my mom was sick and hospitalized some time ago, I didn't find out.
After hearing the news that my mother was sick and hospitalized, I immediately rushed to the hospital, and when I came to the hospital, I didn't see my wife, so I felt very strange, so I asked my mother.
She went back to her parents' house, saying that her in-laws were looking for her to have something. ”
It's normal for my wife to go back to her parents' house, but the problem is that the timing of her return happens to be two hours after my mother's illness, which makes me feel dissatisfied.
At first, I thought there was some emergency at my mother-in-law's place, so I called my wife: "Honey, there's nothing wrong with your parents, right?"
"No, my mom just misses me, and I haven't been back to see my mom for a long time, so I'm going back to see. ”
When I heard my wife's answer, I felt very angry and asked, "No, if you don't go back sooner or later, how can you choose to go back at this time?" My mother is sick and needs to be taken care of, don't you know?"
Originally, I thought that my wife would apologize and come back quickly to help take care of my mother, but my wife actually replied in an angry tone: "Your mother is sick, shouldn't your son take care of it? Daughter-in-law has no obligation to mother-in-law, why do you let me give up the opportunity to accompany my parents and take care of your mother? I am not a free nanny you married home." ”
When I talked about my mother's baby, she said "Your mother is helping you take care of the baby, not helping me, why do you want me to work hard to take care of her" and hung up.
In desperation, I had to hire a nurse for my mother, because I would transfer my salary to my wife's account as soon as I paid my salary every month, and I didn't even have 2,000 yuan on me, so I had to ask my mother to pay the money first, and I would pay her back later.
When I mentioned the money, my mom looked embarrassed, and I didn't know why, so I asked her what was wrong. At first, my mother didn't want to say anything, but after my repeated questioning, she told me that my wife never took the initiative to give my mother living expenses, and every time my mother spent all her pension, she reached out to her to ask for money, and she would not give a penny more, so my mother had no money at all.
Hearing this, I was completely angry, I really didn't expect my wife to treat my mother like this. I called my wife, but she didn't answer anything, she didn't reply to messages, I asked her to transfer money to me, and she didn't move, which made me feel disheartened.
On the one hand, I contacted my colleagues, borrowed money to hire a nurse for my mother, and on the other hand, I thought carefully about the future of marriage. I thought about it and thought about it, and felt that such a selfish, disrespectful, and unfilial daughter-in-law really couldn't afford it, so I made up my mind to divorce.
My wife didn't come back until half a month later, and my mother had been discharged from the hospital by this time. When she got home, she saw my mom packing her things and asked me what she was doing.
I told her directly: "Mom is going back to her hometown to care for the elderly, since you keep saying that you have no obligation to take care of Mom, then she has no obligation to continue to take care of our children." The children belong to the two of us, and the two of us should be responsible. Either you take care of the children well, or you go out to work, and together we pay for a babysitter. ”
Seeing that my mother was leaving, and I would no longer care about the two children in the future, my wife was anxious, quarreled with me, and even threatened me with divorce, I didn't want to endure the idea of divorce anymore, so I agreed, so the two of us went to the Civil Affairs Bureau.
Unexpectedly, she regretted it now, admitted that she was wrong, said that she would respect and honor my mother in the future, and begged me to give her another chance in the face of the two children.
Looking at a pair of young children, I also felt unbearable, and my mother also advised me to cherish my marriage, but when I thought of what my wife did, I became angry, and I didn't know if I could continue to walk with her.
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