Text/Nanke Documentary
Editor/Nan Ke Documentary
<<——Preamble——>>
"The relationship is really realistic now, and keeping the contact information is just to follow the group"!
Many people have this feeling, that is, many friends who are not usually in contact with each other, suddenly call you to go to a wedding or drink full moon wine, in fact, just to make your share of money.
If you were a good friend before, it would be really worth a trip, after all, people still have to pay attention to some affection, but they haven't been in touch for a long time, and they are willing to give money to a part.
If the relationship was very general before, and there were even some estrangements between them, then you have to weigh it, because the purpose of people notifying you is very clear, in fact, it is simply to make you money, and your money with your share is equivalent to a waste, and when you do things by yourself and then find someone else to follow them, you can no longer be contacted.
This situation is very disgusting, it is best to think carefully about whether the relationship with him is long-term and reliable, otherwise it is a meat bun beating a dog!
<<·——“扫荡”式婚礼严词拒绝——·>>
Followers are a strong part of our traditional culture, and the history is quite long, it is a very old Xi custom, but this Xi custom has changed its flavor now.
The moral of this casual Xi is actually very good, such as the casual of red and white happy events is the best example, a couple of newly married couples have no foundation, and the start is very difficult.
At this time, the main resources that can be relied on are the things given by the original families of both sides, but at this time, relatives and friends around them have come to follow, although one person does not give much money, but as long as the number of people is enough, it is a lot of money.
In this way, everyone will share a little bit of their resources with the newcomers, then their basic materials will be much richer, and it can be regarded as helping this small family.
Therefore, the original intention of the followers is still very good, and it is also based on the purpose of helping others, especially the followers who do white things, which is actually just a "comfort fee" for others.
Of course, this is the earliest Xi custom of the followers, and it has nothing to do with our current Xi and customs, and the current followers are close to accumulating wealth, and the scope is much larger than before.
Nowadays, it is popular in many places to set up a banquet for all kinds of things, even if the child is admitted to a university, he has to set up a banquet for a few days and nights, and he has to contact a lot of relatives and friends to pay the money.
In fact, we don't follow this kind of element, it is simply for the purpose of collecting money, it can be said that except for the red and white ceremonies, the random elements are just hooligans, and even some have to put a banquet on the birthday of children, and the ugly face of collecting money is becoming more and more hideous.
Let's talk about the means of collecting money such as the entrance banquet, it is not rare to be admitted to a university now than before, and almost everyone among young people nowadays is a college student, to put it bluntly, as long as you want to study, you can mix a junior college student.
College students are no longer as rare as they used to be, so there is nothing worth celebrating when they go to school normally, and they are happy to greet their family for a meal and a little wine.
But some people have to hold a college banquet with great fanfare, and they want everyone to be happy and happy together, but the central purpose is still to collect money, you can't hang up on face if you don't go to this kind of, if you go, you feel distressed and get some money.
Some people will get engaged and divorced many times, and every time they do it on a big scene, they invite a large number of relatives and friends to come to congratulate them, and they also say that they want to witness happiness, but in fact, their hearts are full of money.
The most excessive is to celebrate the child's birthday and do a lot of work, this is the most disgusting practice, according to our tradition children can not celebrate their birthdays, as the so-called parents do not celebrate their birthdays, so the big operation is actually equivalent to giving the child a "big birthday", it is simply the opposite!
In addition, it is said that the followers are linked to the parents of the children, and your children have nothing to do with me, to put it bluntly, your children have nothing to do with me, why do I spend time, effort and money to celebrate your child's birthday?
So, let's just remember one thing, as long as it's not a big event like this, don't go to the ceremony for trivial things, it's purely to collect money, we can't take money to play the water, even if you can still hear it, but if you give him a follower, you can't even hear it!
<< - people didn't invite, we didn't give money - >>
There are many major events in our lives, such as marriage, childbirth, birth, old age, sickness and death, which almost everyone cannot avoid, so in order to commemorate these large-scale events, we usually hold a grand banquet to commemorate them.
The exchange of ceremonial gifts can bring in the relationship, and it is also one of our main ways of socializing, and we will also give it to the host family at this time.
But to be clear, if the host family does not inform you, do not take the initiative to go to the courtesy, this kind of behavior is very bad for yourself, but the host will look down on you.
For example, a friend of yours hasn't been in touch for a long time, but you happen to see him having a wedding here, so you take the initiative to go up and give a gift to someone, especially between friends and classmates in general, don't do this.
The pace of life is very fast, and the relationship between people is also updated very quickly, if you haven't been in touch with friends for a long time, to put it bluntly, there is no substantive relationship between you.
To put it simply, this relationship is not as good as the relationship between strangers, the relationship between people is actually very delicate, before the two of you were very close to each other, but after being separated for a long time, you will almost forget each other, but there is no sense of distance between each other.
The mystery between people is very important, and it is also the best protective barrier for individuals, once each other breaks through this barrier, if the relationship can continue to be maintained, it is fine, once the relationship becomes delicate, then the fate of the two of you will come to an end.
On another level, people don't call you at all when they do happy events, to put it bluntly, people don't have your onion in their hearts at all, and you still have to stick to your old face to follow the group, do you say that you are not wronged by this money?
When the time comes, the host family will not call you to come, and you will take the initiative to come and follow the group, whether this gift money is better or not? This kind of behavior will make the host family very embarrassed, and in the end will not remember your goodness, so don't do anything that outweighs the loss, and let it fade if the relationship is weak.
It's best not to do things with a hot face and a cold ass, although you think that you are doing this kind of thing to maintain a relationship, in fact, this kind of behavior is completely demeaning your personality, and it will only make people look down on you more and more.
<< - Friends who have not been in touch for a long time are equal to "death" - >>
Nowadays, the relationship between people is very real, and we can see this all the time, if you are not valuable to the friends around you, then the friends will gradually drift apart, and finally until the relationship is broken.
The reverse is actually the same reason, if your friends don't have any use value, then you don't want to pay attention to others, so we still have to recognize the reality.
As everyone grows up with age and experience, they will definitely become more and more lonely in terms of interpersonal relationships, and there will be fewer and fewer intimate friends, but more and more friends will become more and more friends with alcohol and meat.
There are very few friends who can be in contact from time to time, so many friends who don't contact are actually weak in relationship, and the so-called friendship has been wiped out for many years.
Now this rhythm of life has made many people haggard, people have little free time, less time for interpersonal communication, so the only little time left is actually very precious, so it can only be used on people who are worth this price, and friends who have not been in contact for many years are no longer worth making such a big move.
The reason why people's relationships are weak is actually because they have no use value for each other, and the relationship comes from interests and emotions, of course, this interest is not only in terms of money, but also includes many aspects.
The reason why the relationship can be so estranged is still instinctive, since nature catalyzes your relationship to be old and indifferent, this is also the law of the cycle of everything, so don't disobey your instincts, friends who have not been in contact for a long time let you follow the best refusal.
<<·——Conclusion——·>>
Relationship is a wonderful thing, a good relationship does not need to be deliberately carefully maintained to develop naturally in a good direction, and vice versa, if a relationship is very tired of you, just maintenance has exhausted you, then it is better to get together and disperse.
In fact, the most direct determinant of the relationship between people is their own magnetic field, if you and your friend's magnetic field is very harmonious, then your relationship will get better and better, and vice versa, if you are close to a person and make yourself very uncomfortable, then it is best to keep a distance, because the magnetic field is also part of instinct!