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My name is Li Fengjiao, I am 54 years old, I am a secondary school Chinese teacher, and my husband's name is Zhang Li, who is also a teacher like me. We have been married for 23 years and have a daughter, Zhang Xiaoxiao, who is already in college. Over the years, we have been very uneventful, my husband is busy with work, I am also busy with children and work, and the relationship between us seems to fade with age. But overall, it's pretty good.
Until recently, my husband suddenly worked overtime and returned late, sometimes even at night. At first, I didn't pay much attention to it, thinking it was a need for work, but the frequency was too high, and I was a little worried. Is our 23-year relationship going to end hastily like this?
That night, Zhang Zhang again did not return home on time. I looked at my phone and it showed 2 a.m., still no news from him. An ominous premonition rose faintly in my heart.
"Mom, are you okay?" Just when I was fidgeting, my daughter Zhang Xiaoxiao came over.
I barely managed to squeeze out a smile: "It's okay, it's just that your dad is working overtime and coming home late." ”
I got angry at the mention of this, and blurted out, "How do I know what he's up to!" He will just fool around and not explain it to me. ”
Zhang Xiaoxiao came over and held my hand, and said earnestly: "Mom, don't worry, I believe it should be needed for work, and it will be fine in a few days." Even if something goes wrong, you have to be strong in it, you know? No matter what, you're still there. ”
My daughter's words gave me a lot of comfort, and I nodded and wiped the tears from the corners of my eyes. She chatted with me for a while until I calmed down and went back to sleep. I sat alone in the dark and suddenly realized that my husband seemed to have become more and more estranged from me over the years, except for the little thing between husband and wife. I can't help but be afraid, is our relationship really coming to an end?
"Mr. Li, are you okay? "After class, a few students who cared about me came to ask.
I barely managed to squeeze out a smile: "It's okay, I slept late last night, maybe I had a little cold, just go back and rest." I really didn't want to work, and my mind was full of family problems.
After school, I called my best friend, Li Na, and confided in her about what had happened recently. Li Na is my best friend, we have known each other for more than 30 years.
"Feng Jiao, you must cheer up!" Li Na comforted, "No matter what the result is, take care of your body first, and if you need anything, just speak!" That day, the husband still didn't explain and returned late. I couldn't bear it anymore and asked him in person why he had been working overtime lately.
"The company has important projects in the pipeline, and everyone is working overtime. He replied hesitantly.
I looked at him suspiciously: "But I called you a few days ago, and your assistant said that you are not in the company at all." ”
"What the hell is going on? You tell me the truth!" I raised my voice.
"Nothing! Believe it or not!" He yelled back, and slammed the door.
I stood still, tears blurring my vision. He was clearly hiding something, and my worst guesses seemed to be becoming more and more true.
"Mom, did you and Dad quarrel last night?" She asked with concern.
I nodded, and told her briefly about my husband's abnormality and our quarrel.
My daughter squeezed my hand and said earnestly, "Mom, I understand your mood right now, but you must cheer up." Even if the worst happens, you have to face it bravely. No matter what, I will always support you. ”
A few days later, I finally broke out when I accidentally saw an ambiguous text message with a strange woman on my husband's phone.
"What the hell do you have to do with this woman?! Secretly someone behind my back?!" I yelled hysterically.
"You, you calm down!" Zhang Zhang hurriedly snatched the phone, "We're just ordinary friends!"
"Would a friend send such an ambiguous text message? When I'm a three-year-old?" My voice was high-pitched and high-pitched.
We argued in the room, and in the end I was so unbelievable that I broke down on the bed and started crying.
At this time, my daughter Zhang Xiaoxiao ran in, and she obviously heard our quarrel.
"What's going on? You're arguing?" The daughter asked anxiously.
I hugged my daughter tightly and cried, and she could clearly see the text messages on her father's phone.
"Dad, what are you doing here?" The daughter frowned.
Only then did Zhang Zhang realize the seriousness of the problem, and he said, "Xiaoxiao, I still have some things to talk about with Feng Jiao, you should avoid it first." ”
"Okay, I'll avoid it. Zhang Xiaoxiao stood up, watched her father leave, and then came to me and held my hand.
"Mom, I'm so sad for you that this happened. But you have to be brave and remember, I will always support you no matter what. ”
I was relieved by my daughter's words, and the mother and daughter spent a sleepless night in their room. I know that my relationship with my husband has reached a crossroads.
"It's unbelievable!" Li Na was also very surprised, "Feng Jiao, you must take care of yourself, if you need anything, just ask, I will help you!"
"Thank you, Na. I said weakly. No matter where my relationship with my husband goes, I'm glad I still have such a close friend. A few days later, my husband took the initiative to talk to me, and his expression was deeply apologetic.
"Feng Jiao, I'm really sorry about what happened before. He sat down and said in a difficult tone, "I want to confess to you, that girl is just a new employee in the company, and she has only been in the company for a month. Usually everyone meets to say hello, and occasionally chats about work, and there is no other meaning. But looking at the text messages does seem to be a bit of a problem, and it's my fault. ”
I looked at him coldly and didn't speak.
He continued: "I was so wrong. Momentarily confused, not thinking about how much damage it will cause you. I solemnly apologize to you and promise that it will never happen again!
"Feng Jiao, I really know that I was wrong! Please give this relationship another chance!" He was almost on his knees in front of me.
When I told my daughter about the result, she was relieved and hoped that we could really repair the relationship.
"As long as Dad doesn't make this kind of mistake in the future, I believe your relationship will be stronger. "My daughter's encouragement gave me a glimmer of hope.
I also informed Li Na of the result, and she said that she would continue to pay attention and warn me immediately if there was anything unusual. I'm glad to have them by my side during this difficult time.
In recent days I have observed that my husband has been noticeably more considerate of me than before. For example, today I took a rare day off from school. Unexpectedly, at noon, my husband took the initiative to leave work and personally brought me steaming porridge and side dishes.
"I'll go home with you as soon as possible tonight. His eyes were full of concern.
This series of changes is undoubtedly a positive sign. I thought to myself, maybe there really was room for redemption in our relationship.
"Mom, it seems that Dad has been more attentive lately. Maybe you might consider really forgiving him?" said my daughter one day while we were walking.
I nodded, "I'm observing." If he continues to put his mind to it, I may really be able to completely let go and give this relationship a chance to start over. ”
"That's good. As long as you sincerely repent and work hard to make amends, I am sure that you will be able to get through this difficult time. My daughter shook my hand and smiled.
On this day, I went to Li Na for lunch and talked about the recent situation.
"Since he is quite honest and is actively compensating, don't be too suspicious just yet. Li Na analyzed, "Let's observe for a while, maybe the relationship can really be regained." ”
I nodded, and Li Na's suggestion gave me hope. I decided to continue to observe my husband, and if he continued to pay attention, I would also give the relationship a chance to be reborn.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, it's been a month. During this time, my husband has changed significantly to me, whether it is trivial matters or holiday gifts, he is more attentive and considerate. I also gradually let go of my guard and took the initiative to enhance emotional communication with him. Recently, we will go for a walk and shopping together in our leisure time, and consciously rekindle our original love. I found that tension seemed to finally regain the thoughtful and devoted self of my youth. It feels sweet to me.
Perhaps the feelings that have experienced pain and misunderstanding will become stronger than before. I believe that this is the reason that my 54-year-old second marriage aunt needs to learn and Xi and experience at this special stage. My relationship with my husband seems to have really ushered in spring. On this day, he prepared a candlelight dinner for me in advance, and the environment surrounded by flowers was very warm and romantic.
"Feng Jiao, in the past month, I have reflected deeply and realized what I have done wrong. I regret what I did, and I'm so grateful that you gave me the opportunity to start over. Zhang Zhang held my hand and said sincerely.
I could see his remorse and remorse. "Then don't mention it again. I'm also reflecting, after all, after so many years of relationship, I still hope to continue. ”
"I will definitely cherish you even more and never fail to live up to this opportunity. "He hugged me tightly.
At this moment, I feel as if we are back to the tacit and sweet days of our youth.
"Mom! I've got into my dream graduate school!"
"Really? Great!" I couldn't be overjoyed.
"I'll be home and celebrate with you guys in the evening!" The daughter said happily.
This is undoubtedly another piece of good news. I can't wait to share it with my husband.
"Our daughter is amazing, she is already so good!" Zhang Zhang was also very happy. "Be sure to celebrate!"
"Then let's have a little tonight, and it's just a good time to celebrate the recovery of our relationship. I proposed.
"Okay! I'm going to buy a cake!" Without saying a word, Zhang Zhang went out shopping.
I looked at his departing back and couldn't help but smile. Perhaps the emotional crisis is like the cold of winter, after experiencing it, we will cherish the spring that blooms again.
That evening, the family of three gathered together, warm and touching. My husband and I had a good drink, and our daughter was very happy, and our relationship improved.
"Mom, I'm worried you're going to fail. Now it seems that no wind and rain can stop you!" Zhang Xiaoxiao raised her glass and said.
"yes, it's all gone. From now on, our family will be happier and happier!" I squeezed my daughter's and husband's hands tightly, my eyes moistened.
"That's great!" She applauded me happily, "I'll just say, the relationship always needs some running-in, and it will be stronger after wind and rain." ”
I smiled and nodded, raising my glass to touch Li Na. I know that with these people around me who care about me, no matter what ups and downs my life encounters, I can face it bravely and continue to be beautiful.
Time flies, and in a blink of an eye we are about to spend this year's Spring Festival. Our family prepared all kinds of holiday supplies and decorations early to decorate a joyful scene.
"Happy Chinese New Year, Mom!" Zhang Xiaoxiao greeted the New Year with a smile.
"Feng Jiao, Happy New Year!" Zhang Zhang also came over and hugged me.
"Happy New Year!" My eyes moistened with excitement and I felt that on this special day, my relationship with my family had reached an unprecedented harmony.
In the blink of an eye, spring goes to winter, and another year has passed. This year has meant a lot for me and my husband. Not only have we regained the sweetness and tacit understanding of our youth, but our emotional foundation also seems to be stronger. Even our daughter Zhang Xiaoxiao's evaluation of us is: "I haven't seen a husband and wife with a better relationship than you!"
When I woke up early that morning, my husband had already prepared a hot breakfast for me in the kitchen. I feel like I'm back in my 20s when I first got married, living in sweet love every day.
"Good morning, my dear Feng Jiao. We are approaching old age, and I really hope to spend the rest of my life with you. Zhang Zhang said softly, his eyes full of affection. I also hugged my husband affectionately and whispered, "Me too, my dear, no matter how the years change, my heart will always be connected to you." ”
That afternoon, my daughter suddenly called, and her voice sounded a little tired.
"Mom, I've been under a lot of pressure lately, and the teacher has arranged a lot of topics, and I'm almost out of energy. ”
"No matter how busy you are with your studies, you have to pay attention to your body. Why don't you go home for the weekend and have a good two days of rest?" I said with concern.
"It's okay, I just missed you. When the time comes, let's go out for a walk. Zhang Xiaoxiao said.
So on Saturday, my daughter returned home as promised. She did look a little haggard.
"Come on, Mom made your favorite dish. I hurriedly asked her to rest.
"Xiaoxiao, you also have to pay attention to your body, don't exhaust yourself!" Zhang Zhang is also very concerned.
"Thank you, I feel so much more comfortable with my family!" The daughter said gratefully.
"Mom, with you and Dad by my side, I firmly believe that no matter how difficult the project is, it can be successfully completed!" The daughter looks into the distance and is full of hope.
A sense of relief rose in my heart. Our family of three finally overcame the emotional storm and came to the present happy life!
When I got home, I called Li Na to explain how my daughter was going to graduate school and invited her to come out for a small gathering.
"By the way, Feng Jiao, hearing you say this, I am much more relieved. If the relationship can go through the wind and waves, it can be stronger!" Li Na smiled happily.
I raised my glass to celebrate with her. I know that it was this old friend who gave me tremendous support during my most difficult time, and I was able to get through that emotional storm.
Spring has gone to autumn, and in a blink of an eye, my daughter has successfully obtained a master's degree and found a suitable job in a well-known company.
"Mom, I'm going to hold a little to celebrate graduation and employment!" On the phone, her daughter's tone was full of joy and pride.
The next day, I excitedly told Li Na the good news, and she was sincerely happy for me: "Oh, great! Congratulations! It seems that our Xiao Xiaoxiao will have a better and more splendid life!"
I nodded and smiled. As a mother, I feel extremely relieved and proud! This is also the best comfort and reward that my husband and I have received after that emotional storm!
In the blink of an eye, in the past two years, my daughter has become more and more successful in her career, has achieved good results, and has won the appreciation of her boss. At the same time, my relationship with my husband has become stronger and stronger, and I am enjoying a leisurely life after retirement.
Early that morning, I woke up and saw a handwritten marriage book with regular handwriting on the table.
"Twenty-three years ago today, we stepped into the palace of marriage. The past 23 years have had ups and downs, but I'm glad you didn't give up on me and let me regain your trust and love. May we continue to move forward hand in hand with you for the rest of my life and get through the endgame of life. ”
With tears in my eyes, my husband hugged me from behind: "Fengjiao, this is proof of our healing love." Let me renew the promise I made back then: I will always be with you. ”
I turned around and looked into his eyes: "Husband, me too." Even if I traverse a thousand sails, I will hold your hand firmly and not let go. ”
At this moment, I once again realized that love is like a long river, it will go through ice, but it will eventually melt and bloom. I firmly believe more than ever that my husband and I will walk through the endgame of life hand in hand and never stop! In the blink of an eye, three years have passed since retirement. My wife and I live a peaceful and comfortable life, occasionally going out for rock climbing and hiking to enjoy nature; Sometimes I also get together with old friends for drinks and talk about life.
On this day, my daughter suddenly made a video call with a happy smile on her face.
"Really?!" I stood up excitedly and almost burst into tears, "Great! Mommy is so happy!"
"Congratulations!" The wife also clapped her hands excitedly and praised, "We Xiaoxiao are going to be parents too!"
"My boyfriend and I have been engaged for a year and now that we have a baby, we decided to register our marriage in advance. The daughter's eyes were full of tears of happiness, "You must come to my wedding!"
"Of course, we will definitely support you!" I was excited. As a mother, I feel the joy of my daughter at this moment compared to the excitement I felt when my daughter was born.
"Mom, I'm starting a family! Thank you for nurturing me for so many years!" My daughter couldn't hold back her tears and came to me.
"Baby, Mommy is so proud of you!" I hugged my happiest daughter in the whole world.
After the wedding, I happily called to share the good news with Li Na.
"Oh my God! Xiao Xiaoxiao got married and had children?! Congratulations!" Li Na was excited. I smiled and nodded, my heart full of happiness and gratitude.
"Hengheng is so cute!When I grow up, I will definitely be as good as my mother!" I couldn't help but tease the little baby, and he couldn't stop giggling.
"Mom, you're right! We will definitely raise Hengheng!" The daughter looked tenderly at the baby who was asleep in her arms.
My wife and I looked at each other, and we both saw tears of excitement in each other's eyes. We held hands and sincerely felt happy for our daughter's happy life!
I called again to tell Li Na the exciting news.
"Oh! Feng Jiao, you are also a grandmother! Congratulations! Xiao Hengheng will definitely grow up to be an outstanding good child!" Li Na's heartfelt blessings.
"Thank you, Na!" I laughed, raised my glass, and celebrated with this old friend!
In the blink of an eye, we have all been living in a nursing home for five years. Occasionally, my daughter would bring her little grandson to visit, and our lives were enlivened by these children.
"Grandma, are you still healthy?" Now six-year-old Hengheng asked sweetly.
"It's healthy!" I laughed and teased his little face, and my heart was full of happiness.
"Grandparents, I'll come to see you next time!" Hengheng reluctantly said goodbye to us.
My wife and I waved goodbye to the back of the little one. Once upon a time, we were also excited to welcome the birth of our daughter; Today, our baby has grown into a wife and mother. I am full of emotion, every bit of life is so worth remembering and cherishing!
"Wife, the most satisfying and fortunate thing for me in this life is the time I spend with you. I quietly held my husband's hand.
"Me too. He looked at me gently, "Let's continue to walk side by side for the rest of our lives." ”
I nodded, and snuggled up to my white-headed lover. In the second half of my life, because of my family and because of you, every moment is so happy and wonderful!