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The Russian writer Leo Tolstoy once famously said: Happy families are all alike, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes.
I would like to say that although there are many reasons for unhappy marriage, there are basically the following five aspects, the most important of which is communication and understanding.
1. Communication is the cornerstone of marital happiness
In marriage, communication is the key to solving problems. Couples learn to listen to each other's thoughts and feelings and express their needs and expectations. Only through good communication can couples understand each other's needs and solve problems together.
I have a couple close to me who often quarrel because of the uneven division of household chores. The wife thinks that the husband should take on more housework, while the husband thinks that he has done enough. After an argument, they decided to sit down and have a good talk. Through communication, they found out that the husband has indeed taken on a lot of household chores, but the wife has also taken on a lot of responsibilities for taking care of the children and the elderly. So, they decided to work together to develop a household task division table, dividing the household chores according to their strengths and free time. In this way, their quarrels were resolved and the marital relationship improved.
2. Mutual understanding is the prerequisite for a happy marriage
In marriage, everyone has their own thoughts and feelings, and couples learn to respect each other's choices and preferences. We can't be careless about small things, we must tolerate each other. Only in this way can a healthy marital relationship be established.
For example, there is a couple who are dissatisfied because their husbands often work overtime. The wife thinks that her husband should spend more time with herself and the children, while the husband thinks that his work is important. After arguing again and again, they decided to sit down and have a good talk. Through honest communication, the wife realized that her husband's work was really important and that he also wanted to spend more time with his family. The wife understands her husband, and the husband reflects on himself, and he decides that he will spend more time with his family in the future in addition to work. In this way, their conflicts were resolved and the marital relationship improved.
3. Establishing common interests is the bond of marital happiness
In marriage, establishing common interests can strengthen the emotional bond between couples. You can participate in activities, travel together, or learn new skills Xi. This will not only increase the interaction and communication between the couple, but also enhance the understanding and trust between each other.
For example, there is a couple who often have cold wars because of their different interests. The husband likes to watch football matches, while the wife is interested in square dancing. After a quarrel they sat down calmly, both sides made reflections, they think that in fact, many hobbies can be cultivated slowly, later, the wife will accompany her husband to watch football games when she has time, the husband is very patient to explain the rules of football and related knowledge to his wife, the wife will also take her husband to square dance, teach him from the most basic dance steps, and finally the husband will also dance square dance. In this way, their relationship has improved and their trust and understanding of each other has also been enhanced.
4. Tolerance and understanding are the guarantee of marital happiness
In marriage, tolerance and understanding are very important. Husbands and wives should learn to tolerate each other's shortcomings and shortcomings, as well as forgive each other's mistakes and mistakes. Only in this way can a healthier and more stable marriage be established.
There is such a couple who quarrel because the wife often forgets important things. The husband thinks the wife is irresponsible, while the wife thinks the husband is too harsh. Countless arguments didn't solve the problem, and they decided to sit down and have a good talk. Through communication, the husband discovers that his wife does have a lot to do, but also wants to do everything as best she can. So, the two decided to make a memo to record all the important things and remind each other. In this way, their problems are solved and the trust and understanding between them are also enhanced.
5. Growing together is the driving force for marital happiness
In marriage, couples need to grow and develop together. This includes personal, emotional, professional, social, and other aspects of development. Through self-growth and development, an individual's self-confidence and self-esteem can be enhanced, which can help to build a healthier and more stable marital relationship.
For example, there is a couple who have a conflict because their careers are not synchronized. The husband has a successful career, while the wife has been at home to take care of the children and the elderly. After an argument, they decided to attend a vocational training course together. During the course, they not only Xi learned new skills and knowledge, but also met some new friends and industry elites. In this way, their career development is enhanced, and the trust and understanding between them is enhanced.
Conclusion: Cherishing and giving is the secret of a happy marriage
From the above 5 aspects, we can draw a conclusion: marital happiness does not come out of thin air, it requires the joint efforts and dedication of both husband and wife. From communication to understanding, from building common interests to tolerance and understanding, to growing together, every link needs to be operated and maintained with our hearts.
Marriage is like a big tree that requires constant watering, fertilization, and pruning to make it thrive and flourish. And when we see the lush green leaves and abundant fruits of the trees, all the effort will become worthwhile. So, cherish your partner, cherish our marriage, manage and maintain it with your heart, and let happiness always accompany you and me.