My in-laws asked me how much my pension was? I was about to say 8,000, but my daughter-in-law said 3,000 first, and I understood instantly.
My wife and I discussed that we would give my daughter 3,000 a month, and my daughter-in-law and children should save money and keep a little. However, a few days later, news came from Lijia Village on my daughter's side, saying that the 3,000 had not reached my daughter at all, and had been detained by Sun Da's daughter-in-law.
I glared at her fiercely: "The old man of my family didn't come to your house for nothing. After saying that, I put down this sentence and said nothing.
Since then, I have decided to take my family's account book with me every time I go to my son-in-law's house, and count the money clearly.
The atmosphere came and went, lingering between the in-laws, like an endless war.
Not long ago, I went to my grandson's house, and my in-laws asked me how much my pension was? I was about to say 8,000, and my daughter-in-law said 3,000 first, and I instantly understood.
I couldn't help but think of the first encounter with my daughter-in-law that day, when she insisted on refusing to return the money to my daughter, and her eyes revealed disdain and contempt for me.
This bit of contradiction and estrangement is so impossible to shake away. Perhaps, everyone has a scale in their hearts, and they always have to weigh something, and between these scales, they always project the deepest desires and desires of our hearts.
But I don't want to be sad about it, time is still turning, and it doesn't end yet. I am convinced that this bad relationship will eventually improve.
Time passed slowly, and I felt like I had gotten used to the tense atmosphere. Every time I go to my in-laws' house, I try to keep silent and control my emotions.
However, life doesn't seem to give me such a chance. Recently, I received a phone call from my daughter with concern in her voice.
My daughter begged me to take a step back on the pension issue and give in to my granddaughter-in-law.
This time, I thought to myself. The issue of children's education is not a small amount, and if I insist on my own ideas and refuse to give in, I am afraid that it will affect the future of my grandchildren.
I calmed down and decided to have a good talk with my daughter-in-law. With my daughter's wish, I went to my daughter-in-law's house, ready to communicate.
I was stunned when I heard this, and my heart was shocked.
I could only sigh, feeling extremely heavy in my heart. When I got home, I began to meditate on the reason for all this.
After much thought, I decided to invite my daughter and daughter-in-law out to talk, and formally sit down to talk about these long-standing conflicts.
I learned that my daughter-in-law was from a poor family when she was young, and she often heard her husband talk about the hardships of the old family, and she was grateful and hoped that the elderly in the family would be duly rewarded.
This conversation gave me a clearer understanding of their hearts and thoughts. I deeply realized that the conflicts in the family do not come from one side, but from the emotional resonance and interaction of both parties.
Throughout the conversation, I didn't say much, just listened and thought quietly. Perhaps, a rational and emotional communication can find a solution to the emotional entanglement that breaks the situation.
However, there are still many challenges and difficulties on the road to family relationship repair. I know that this process takes time and patience, and more importantly, a deeper emotional connection between family members.
This conversation gave me a lot of inspiration, and made me deeply realize that family entanglements are not the end, but a door to deeper relationships.
May I take this opportunity to become a bridge between my family and work hard for the happiness of my family.
At that moment, I decided that I wanted to open my eyes to everything and not be indifferent. The unhappiness of the past has made me want to rebel, and I can't let them succeed like this.
"Let me tell you, I think 3,000 a month for my daughter is enough, and we also have expenses at home. I didn't say a word, and my wife began to speak.
I deeply understood that she was acting so resolutely, just to protect me, but I knew that there were some things that I had to deal with in my own way.
I calmly said, "I think we should treat this family relationship with equality and fairness." After all, we are family.
"I understand your hardships, but what my wife and I have given to our daughter is also the result of our life's work.
I hope you will understand us, and I ask you to show you enough respect for our hard work. "I said it firmly.
The wife grabbed her daughter-in-law's hand and said, "Our family should help each other and tolerate each other now." I know you're young and have a lot of stress, but we need to take care of it at home.
The daughter-in-law lowered her head and did not speak for a while. I know, maybe my words are a bit harsh, but that's my attitude towards family affection.
This is what my wife and I have always wanted.
In the days that followed, I noticed that the atmosphere in my home gradually eased a lot.
I don't know how long this war will last, but I'm determined not to give up. Home is a place we can't choose but can't escape.
There may be more sacrifices and compromises in the process, but I firmly believe it will be worth it. After all, home is a harbor that we can't give up in the end.