Zhu Dan revealed that he was deceived by his girlfriend of 20 million: never believe in people's hearts, but believe in human nature
Author: Insight Shi Yun
People's hearts are the most changeable, and human nature is the most difficult to guess.
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There are two things in this world that cannot be looked at: one is the sun, and the other is the human heart.
Recently, the well-known host Zhu Dan told a painful lesson of his own when he participated in a variety show.
Many years ago, I was cheated out of all my savings by a very close and trusted best friend.
They had a very good relationship before, so good that Zhu Dan could trust her unreservedly.
She told Zhu Dan that she needed capital turnover during filming. I have already found a borrower, but I just hope that Zhu Dan can be a witness as a friend.
For the first time, Zhu Dan helped.
Not long after, she called again and said that she was going to repay the loan and needed to witness it again.
Because Zhu Dan was in her hometown at the time, her friend sent her a blank piece of paper and asked Zhu Dan to sign it first, and then she would complete the information.
And Zhu Dan, who was stupid at the time, signed this letter because he completely trusted this friend and did not have the slightest vigilance.
As a result, in the end, the friend did not repay the money, and Zhu Dan, who was the guarantor for her, was forced to repay all her debts.
Later, Zhu Dan also sued her.
Although the lawsuit was won, the other party directly declared bankruptcy.
In the end, you want no money, and you can't do anything about her.
She didn't say anything specific about the amount, but later netizens found a piece of information related to Zhu Dan from the China Enforcement Information Disclosure Network, which showed:
In 2016, Tian Moumou, the person subject to execution, needed to pay Zhu Dan more than 16 million yuan in advance, but all of them were not fulfilled.
Looking at it, it's really embarrassing.
A gentleman is easy to deal with, but a villain is difficult to guard.
But what's even more distressing is that the villain is his most trusted and intimate friend.
In fact, I don't think Zhu Dan is completely ignorant of the law, nor is he unaware of some possible risks.
It's just that people are always like this, and when facing strangers, they can always remain rational, thoughtful, and instinctively guarded.
But when facing close and trusting relatives and friends, it is always human affection that is greater than rationality.
They instinctively believe that close relatives and friends will not lie to them, and may even feel that it is a desecration of friendship to defend them.
But often in the end, it turns out that the more people you trust, the more they deceive you the most.
Later, I realized that the interests are the most popular.
What I am most afraid of is that you are in love, but the other party is ruthless.
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Do you still remember the Phuket murder and insurance fraud case?
Xiaojie, a girl from Tianjin, has always felt that she is a very happy person.
The original family was rich, and she met a husband who loved her and gave birth to a lovely daughter.
Although there will be small quarrels, the overall situation is quite harmonious.
That day, she and her husband Zhang Yifan took their daughter to Phuket to play.
Three days later, her parents got the news that she had drowned.
Zhang Yifan explained: He was sleeping with his child at the time, and when he woke up, he found that his wife had drowned and died for a long time.
However, after the police investigated, they found that Xiaojie had multiple wounds on her body and traces of being beaten.
After further investigation, it was found that in the most half a year before going to Phuket, Zhang Yifan bought more than 10 large-value insurance policies for Xiaojie in different insurance companies, and the beneficiaries were all him.
Her "accidental death" can allow him to receive more than 30 million insurance compensation.
In the end, the truth was revealed: Xiao Jie did not drown in swimming at all, but was pressed into the water by Zhang Yifan and drowned alive.
The husband who was honest in the eyes of everyone turned out to be pretending all the time.
He doesn't have a job and is keen to watch web anchors.
He spends lavishly, and in order to meet the luxury of life, he not only spends all his family savings, but also owes a bunch of credit card debts.
The so-called honeymoon is nothing more than a murder that has been planned together for a long time.
In the end, Zhang Yifan was sentenced to death.
After many years, this matter is still very scary to think about when it is mentioned again.
We don't want to judge people with malice, but human nature is often more complex than you think.
The person who shared the bed and slept with him planned for nearly half a year, just to exchange your death for benefits.
It turns out that in the face of huge interests, even intimate relationships can deteriorate.
This may be extreme, but it is by no means a special case, and it is a wake-up call for everyone.
In everyday life, the relationships between people are complex and delicate.
I've seen people sell out their colleagues and friends for promotions and raises;
Some brothers calculated with each other in order to compete for money, caused family discord, and went to court;
Friends borrow money and don't pay it back, lovers cheat and transfer assets, and even parents and children can turn their faces for the sake of profit...
The more you see, the more you understand: human nature has inferior roots, especially in the face of interests.
Money and interests can bring you sought-after friends, close lovers, warm family members, and even make you feel like you are surrounded by good people.
But when the interests are big enough, the dark side of human nature will also be infinitely magnified.
Etiquette, righteousness, morality, law, etc., will be trampled underfoot.
There is no absolute good or evil in human nature, but the essence is selfish.
Everyone will prioritize their own interests in everything they do.
If you bet on humanity and friendship, you may win many times, but when the benefits are big enough, a loss is a complete defeat.
So no matter who you get along with, don't overestimate your relationship with each other.
Instead of testing human nature, it is better to avoid it.
In this way, we can be considered in this world of change.
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After that tragic lesson, Zhu Dan learned to refuse.
No matter how close her friends asked her again, she would never vouch for anyone else.
I will no longer sign my name on a blank piece of paper, and I will always add a watermark when I copy my ID card.
People always have to suffer losses before they can become sober.
This is a lesson learned by 16 million in exchange, and the price of this hindsight is too great.
This is why I want to advise you: in the adult world, you must put "scheming" in front.
A friend I know who runs a restaurant with his girlfriend.
We have all advised her not to cooperate with friends in business easily, because we have seen too many tragic examples of friends partnering and finally making friends have nothing to do.
But the first thing the two decided to partner in was to hire a lawyer.
The rules on capital contribution, division of labor, and division of money, the mechanism of who leads, recalls, exits, and enters, as well as all possible risks such as non-compete agreements, have all been formulated in advance.
They put all the "unpleasant words" in front of them.
In the future, we are best friends, but both parties must act in accordance with the articles of association in the company's business, which is to protect ourselves and our relationship.
There are also friends who can borrow money, but they must leave legal evidence; they can help, but they must do a good job of risk avoidance in advance.
They will also consider the character and background of the other party, avoid having interests with those who cheat and cheat, and will also understand the feasibility and risks of the project in advance to avoid blind investment.
Some people say that this seems so cold, as if they don't trust each other.
But I would like to say that it is precisely by putting the rules and bottom line in advance that we can better restrain human nature and maintain the relationship between the two sides for a longer time.
I advise you to be more "scheming", not to let you sinister and cunning to calculate others, but to let your kindness bring a little edge.
These edges are not to sting others, but to foresee possible problems in the future and protect themselves in advance.
You can't guarantee that everyone you meet is a good person, and "villain before gentleman" is also a kind of deterrent and self-preservation.
Be a good person with a scheming heart, and be wary of those who use friendship to kidnap you and give you back benefits.
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People's hearts are the most changeable, and human nature is the most difficult to guess.
So for us ordinary people, the best self-protection may be to "keep the boundary".
We demand that we always treat ourselves with sincerity, but we also set a baseline for every relationship.
Don't demonize everyone, but don't be defenseless against everyone either.
Even if you are close to your family and friends and have some requests for help that are beyond the normal scope, you should do a good job of protecting yourself and don't worry about hurting your feelings because of refusal.
Because people who really care about you will definitely understand your difficulties and are willing to eliminate your concerns.
And never trust people's hearts, but firmly believe that in the face of interests, human nature will be vulnerable.
The best relationship between people is always intimate and familiar.
Really smart people treat people with warmth and understand the scale of things.
Like it, I hope everyone can refine a pair of eyes to understand human nature, and I hope that every sincere heart can get the respect it deserves.