I have a special habit of doing simple exercises such as push-ups, squats, etc. every morning after waking up. This gives me a lot of energy in the morning and I feel extra energized throughout the day.
My name is Li Ming, and I am an ordinary clerk. One day, when I was seeing a doctor in the hospital, I met a female doctor surnamed Li, her name was Li Ting. We had a very speculative conversation and she was a very funny and sincere girl.
We went on a blind date and walked a little fast, but I had a lot of fun with her. That night, I stayed at her house. When I woke up the next morning, I was getting up to do push-ups, and Li Ting suddenly hugged me from behind and said in surprise, "Your physical strength is so good." ”
I turned around and looked at her bright eyes, secretly happy in my heart. We hugged each other and I felt like the whole world was changing for a better time at that moment.
Li Ting is a professional woman, and she has lived a very fulfilling life, but she also seems to have some troubles. Once I asked her if she wanted to go out together during the Qixi Festival, and she said that there were some things that needed to be taken care of and she might work overtime. I was a little upset to hear it, but I understood her.
Later, I happened to find out that she wrote my name on the duty schedule of the hospital, and I was a little surprised, but she said, "In the future, I will be on duty at night, and you will accompany me here, do problems together, and read books." ”
That night, we chatted while doing the questions, and as soon as Li Ting opened her mouth, she was in the mood of being a doctor and the cases she encountered. I sometimes think she's so strong, so powerful.
As a man, all I can do is be silently by her side. I don't care if she's a doctor, I just want to make her happy and make her feel that my presence is interesting and rewarding.
But I also clearly felt that her attitude towards me seemed to be a little distancing, and I was a little uneasy. This blind date was requested by her on her own initiative, but when I was with her, she always resisted.
I said yes, and we got on the train to her hometown. On the way, she kept her head down and did not speak. I took her hand and asked softly, "What's wrong, is there anything bothering you?"
She looked up, tears in her eyes: "My parents are against us being together. ”
When I heard this, I was shocked in my heart, this is a big problem. I comforted her and said, "They don't understand me, as long as we love each other, nothing else matters." ”
But she shook her head: "They think that we have the same last name and will cause problems for the family." ”
I was stunned, this was a question I hadn't thought of. Li Ting's parents are really from the traditional generation, and this problem seems to be difficult to overcome.
The train was slowly moving through the dense woods, and my heart was as gloomy as a dark cloud. I silently squeezed her hand, and I understood that this problem was not easy to solve.
After returning to Li Ting's hometown, I felt heavy. I was very frustrated by the attitude of her parents, who felt that two people with the same surname could cause problems for the family together, and this traditional notion made me feel powerless. Li Ting didn't seem to expect her parents to oppose it so strongly, she was saddened and even blamed herself.
At Li Ting's home, I met her parents, who were polite to me but showed strong opposition to our relationship. I know how hard a family's opposition can be for two people who love each other.
After a dinner at home, Li Ting's mother asked us a seemingly inconsequential question: she wanted us to attend a local blind date event. Li Ting wanted to speak and stopped, obviously unwilling, she signaled with her eyes that I wanted to support her. I replied, "We have a good relationship and don't need outside interference. ”
However, Li Ting's mother insisted: "This is good for your future, and it will also make you understand how important the pressure of family and society is. Think ye of your future. ”
I felt very helpless that her parents seemed to be trying to stir up our feelings in every way. Li Ting's eyes were full of helplessness and struggle, and I knew that she was also troubled by this family conflict.
Li Ting stood with me throughout the blind date event, she was clearly reluctant to reach out to other men, and she seemed very determined, which gave me a little comfort. However, her mother deliberately arranged for a seemingly brilliant girl to approach me, and she kept introducing me and even hinting that I would have a better future with that girl.
Li Ting saw it in her eyes, and her face became very ugly. She held my hand all night and I felt her uneasiness and fear. And I myself felt exhausted and couldn't get rid of this family pressure and conflict.
Back at Li Ting's house, I sat on the edge of the bed and looked at her, and in her deep sighs, I felt my own helplessness. Our feelings seemed to face a high wall that neither of us could cross. I took her hand and comforted her softly, "Don't worry, I'll be there for you." She looked up, her eyes filled with despair and helplessness.
I looked at Li Ting, her eyes were full of helplessness and anxiety, and I knew that she must be very conflicted inside. I think of my own parents, although they do not have strong opinions, but if the child's marriage encounters resistance, whether it is the negative impact of traditional ideas or the consideration of family interests, it will worry the parents.
"Li Ting, all we need to do now is to let time prove everything, there will definitely be a way. "I tried to comfort her.
She nodded softly, tears still hanging from her eyes. Along the way, our atmosphere became a little oppressive. When I arrived at Li Ting's house, my parents' attitude was quite enthusiastic, but they obviously kept their distance from me, and even disliked me.
Li Ting's mother pulled her aside and said something to her, and her face became even more solemn when she heard it. I felt the tension in my home grow, as if a storm was coming.
The next morning, Li Ting's mother asked me to talk alone, and I felt a little bad. She said: "Li Ming, I know that you are a good young man, but you and Li Ting, you also understand that the family is unacceptable to you. ”
Hearing her say this directly, my heart was a little heavy. I understand that love and marriage should not be based on family opposition, but I still inevitably feel lost and helpless.
"Auntie, I understand your concerns, but I will try my best to make myself better and live up to your expectations of Li Ting. "I tried to find the right words.
"Maybe it was all meant to be. Her gaze was deep, "Why don't you try to calm down and think about it." ”
Unexpectedly, Li Ting behaved very negatively in this family trial, with some vague feelings of escape. This makes me feel confused and distressed, love is always ups and downs, and at this time, the relationship between me and Li Ting began to be tested.
Soon, we arrived at Li Ting's hometown. Her parents were very friendly to our arrival, but they were obviously a little distant from me. After dinner, they left me in the living room to chat with them, but asked Li Ting to go to the kitchen to clean up the table by herself. I looked at her helpless eyes, and felt more and more uncomfortable. Later, Li Ting and I discussed that we must face up to this problem. We found an opportunity to talk openly with Li Ting's parents, hoping to get their understanding and support. However, when we mentioned that communication was used in anticipation of solving problems, they were slow to say anything.
After this trip back to her hometown, Li Ting became a little negative, and she had no confidence in our future. I started to feel a lot of stress and a lot of uneasiness. I really want to be able to prove myself and prove to Li Ting's family that I can give her happiness and stability. I knew that if she continued like this, our relationship would have bigger problems. Li Ting and I are both caught in a conflict.
We started trying to find a solution to the problem. We went to several emotional counselors to talk about our problems, but the problems were not substantially resolved. Li Ting proposed to break up because she felt that it would be better, but her heart was also very painful. I fear that we may not be able to get out of this impasse for a long time. This question left me feeling helpless and confused. I feel that the love between us is being put to a great test.
Soon we arrived at Li Ting's home, a small county town, very simple and warm. Li Ting's parents seemed very happy to see us coming, and after a few polite words, her father took me aside. He said to me solemnly: "Ming, let me talk to you honestly, although I can see that you and Li Ting get along well, but according to our ancestral concept, our Li family and your Li family have the same surname, and you are older than Li Ting in order, which will bring a lot of trouble to the family after marriage." You understand, right?"
I knew what he meant, but I didn't know what I was doing. This question is not important to me. No matter what happens, I am willing to be with Li Ting. I whispered, "Uncle, I know it's important to you, but I don't agree to give up my feelings for Li Ting and our future for this reason. ”
The uncle was silent for a while, and then sighed: "Ming, you are a good boy, but this matter is related to the happiness of the two families, it is too complicated, and I hope you can understand." ”
I obviously felt his helplessness and resoluteness, so I had to leave him in embarrassment. But my heart became more and more determined, and I decided to face all this with Li Ting.
When I got home, I told Li Ting everything. After hearing this, she shook my hand gloomily: "Ming, I understand your heart, but family relationships are too important to us. I'm really struggling. ”
I understand her situation, but for me, none of this is a problem. I silently hugged her: "No matter what happens, I will always be by your side." ”
We embraced each other silently, as if preparing for future risks.
Soon, we arrived in her hometown. The village where Li Ting lives is not big, but it is very clean and fresh. Her parents were also very kind.
The first time we met, they didn't show dislike for me, but invited me to dinner very warmly. Li Ting and I talked and laughed with her parents all night.
The next day, Li Ting's parents invited me to go out for a walk with me, and there is no doubt that they were very friendly to me during this time, and I didn't have any complaints about me.
But one day, Li Ting's father suddenly said to me: "Li Ming, we actually like you very much, but it is not realistic for you to be together." You should understand that family harmony and social harmony are the most important things. ”
His words instantly hit my heart and I began to feel guilty. Maybe they're right, this issue could cause a lot of trouble in our future.