Some time ago, because of the white affairs of relatives, many relatives from their hometown gathered in the same place from various places to mourn. During the banquet, relatives introduced each other, and in order to awaken the time in the depths of memory, they re-identified the identities of the characters in the banquet through their past impressions.
Because relatives have left their hometowns and settled in different places to earn a living, the memories of living together are left in the distant past and between the mountains.
Do you have this phenomenon around you, relatives are becoming more and more alienated, especially young people who have not lived in their hometown, or have lived for a short time, and have left their hometown when they are studying, are becoming more and more reluctant to leave their relatives, and people call this phenomenon "severing relatives".
"Breaking off relatives" seems to be a sad topic, but in fact, many young people support breaking off their relatives and actively do not want to get too close to their relatives.
There may be several reasons for this.
First, the development of society has broken the original small circle. The range of activities of relatives is getting bigger and bigger. Many of the parents moved from a small mountain village to the county seat a few decades ago. After 40 years of development, relatives have moved to live in cities farther away from their hometowns. A change in the circle of life. As a result, there is less contact between people. Usually we only see each other during the Chinese New Year. After a meal, they returned to their respective homes. Visiting relatives becomes a process. And there is a lack of deeper communication and mutual influence.
Second, the difference in means of livelihood and the difference in industry make the topic of communication between relatives less and less. One girl reported herself. His father was the eldest in the family. There are several aunts and uncles below. His father thinks about his younger brothers and sisters in everything. When his siblings became adults, his family's economic conditions were average. But his uncle and aunt were either the head of the bank or the head of the company. Always meddle in his family's affairs. In addition, her grandparents are a bit patriarchal, which makes her often a negative teaching material. His father thought it was all family. My aunt and uncle will too, for his sake. But this is not the case. A lot of little things piled up together, which made her have a problem with how to get along with her relatives.
Thirdly, the difference in lifestyle and concept makes the communication between relatives produce some unpleasant feelings. Especially when the Chinese New Year is approaching, young people are afraid to go back to their hometown, because relatives in their hometown will surround them to ask how much they earn and whether they have a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you will be counted out by your relatives at home, so young people are reluctant to communicate with their relatives. Thinking that the way of life and concepts are different from those of relatives, and communicating with people who have different ideas from oneself is simply a chicken and a duck.
Fourth, young people also work and live differently than before. Nowadays, young people are under great pressure in life and economic pressure. The 996 work model that is popular in big cities makes young people tired of coping, running between office buildings and homes every day, and have no time to manage and maintain kinship. Sometimes, when it comes to having a meal, young people have to work overtime, and they can't sit down and chat with their relatives to get to know each other better.
Write at the end:
Young people's lifestyles and attitudes are completely different from what they used to be. That's why the term severance is now popular. In addition, sometimes kinship does not bring some practical value to young people, but will add a lot of trouble, which makes many young people choose to break off. It makes the statement that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors more true.
Do you think so?