Zhang Guimei's film has been tampered with, which is an insult to China's 700 million women
Recently, the movie "I Am a High Mountain" starring Haiqing, based on teacher Zhang Guimei, has been frequently scolded on the hot search.
Many netizens who watched the screening said: A biographical movie, the plot has been changed by crazy magic, it is really unacceptable.
The most unacceptable point for netizens is that the "alcoholic mother" portrayed in the movie is actually a father in reality...
Netizens angrily denounced this as a prejudiced adaptation of "women wear crowns and men wear them, and men and women carry them". This kind of tampering is a naked insult to Chinese women.
I checked the information and found that there are really a lot of such adaptations.
The prototype of the priest in "The Thirteen Hairpins of Jinling" is a missionary, Ms. Weitling.
The teacher played by Fan Wei in "My and My Hometown" is the prototype of the "National Model Teacher" Zhi Yueying.
The father of the autistic child in "Ocean Paradise" is based on Tian Huiping, the founder of Xingxingyu, China's first autism public welfare organization.
In film and television dramas, men and women are reversed, and in reality, gender prejudice treatment also abounds.
The story prototype of "I Am a Mountain" should be familiar to everyone.
Teacher Zhang Guimei founded the first free girls' high school in China, helping nearly 2,000 girls in mountainous areas to change their lives.
Someone asked Teacher Zhang Guimei a long time ago, why only help girls in mountainous areas, aren't boys worth helping?
Teacher Zhang Guimei once encountered such a thing, the parents called their daughter, who was in the third year of high school, home to work, but sent the son in the second year of junior high school to the city for tutoring.
When Teacher Zhang Guimei was angry and blamed the parents, she only got the answer "because he is a son".
This is the reality, in remote and backward places, the vast majority of families will give priority to men, and women are often the existence of lower support.
Since then, Zhang Guimei has felt that she must run a women's high school, even if she takes her life, it is worth it.
In fact, not only family resources, but also social resources, such as the workplace, even if it is already 2023, there are many positions named only for men.
In this seemingly equal era, women, especially those who become mothers, still experience invisible obstacles in the workplace.
If nothing else, let's talk about the most intuitive salary.
According to the latest survey in 2023, in the past 5 years, men's wages have far exceeded women's, with a maximum difference of more than 2,000!
Today, what we want to focus on is not this movie, nor Zhang Guimei's personal struggle story, but the real dilemma faced by all women, especially working mothers, outside of her story.
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The purse of a working mom
Why is it getting flattened?
Statistics show that 10 years after the birth of the first child, the mother's income falls by about 20%, but the father's income curve barely changes!
Why is it that after becoming a mother, our income has decreased?
This year's Nobel Prize in Economics has finally studied this problem!
Laureate Claudia Golding proposed:
"Even though women are more educated than men, men still earn more than women.
Especially, after a woman has her first child!"
Because of women, they are invisibly given more family responsibilities.
When this kind of forcibly bound responsibility is reflected in the workplace, it becomes a burden and a price that mothers should pay.
Many working mothers choose to return to the workplace, a large part of which is because they need to support their families, and their husband's salary alone cannot cover all the family expenses.
It's like the saying "I can't take care of you when I have a job, and I can't support you when I put down my job." ”
But the reality will be a heavy blow to working mothers.
There's a quote in the HR world that divides working women into three tiers:
Married with two children = smoke bombs (no working energy);
Getting married and having one child = time bomb (having two children at any time);
30 + married childless = super ticking time bomb (pregnancy + maternity leave for two children).
Zhang Yao in the TV series "Female Psychologist" was ruthlessly abandoned by the workplace after giving birth to her second child.
And reality is always crueler than TV series.
Once a friend of mine, the next second she announced her pregnancy, the leader tactfully told her that the "unspoken rule" of female employees during pregnancy is not allowed to be promoted and raised.
Even some mothers will be PUA in the workplace and be transferred to a job in disguise.
So what can working mothers do?
I can only comfort myself that I am not ashamed to bend my waist for five buckets of rice, and I will swallow my anger for the child. After all, in the next job, a 35-year-old mother may not be able to pass the resume level.
It's hard to be a mother, and it's even harder to be a working mother.
The workplace is always the existence of the jungle, and the exploitation of women in the workplace is widespread, but this is not the default rule of the game for us.
When you encounter a trick in the workplace, the first thing to tell yourself is: "It's none of my business, I deserve better." "
The strength of your heart is your shield, you can choose not to be tough, but you must understand in your heart that we are not humble!
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Time for working mothers
Why can it be more and more crowded?
In addition to the unequal salary, the time of working mothers is also unequal.
It's a working mom's schedule that's full and only sleeps 5 hours a day.
There is a video on the Internet for children to show what their parents are doing after work.
When Mom Comes Home from Work:
"Mom came home from work, changed her shoes, and went into the kitchen to start cooking!"
"When my mother got home from work, she changed her shoes, went into the kitchen, put on her apron and said to me: XX, hurry up and do your homework!
"When my mother came home from work, she checked my homework, and if there was a word that was written incorrectly, she tore it up with a bang..."
And when the father came home, the children began to perform "Ge You Lying".
Some pick up books as "mobile phones", and some fingers "slide" up,
Others use a pen as a "smoke" in their mouths to swallow clouds and smoke,
and put his arm directly to his ear and pretend to make a phone call...
Moms are out for a busy day, and when they come home they have to start another fight, and what about the dads? They have a good reason to lie on the couch and tell the baby to go to your mother.
In addition, the mother also has to take on a lot of "invisible housework".
It refers to the housework that people who do not often do housework cannot see in their eyes, but must need someone to do it
Put a new bag on the trash can
To wash dishes, you also have to wash pots, knives, tables, and stoves
After mopping the floor, wash the mop and dry it
It is necessary to take stock of daily necessities and replenish them in a timely manner
……
These invisible housework seem to be easy on the surface, but the people who do it are tired and tired, and they don't get any positive feedback and praise.
Because there is no living person in his eyes, he can't see it at all!
More than 30 years ago, Hochschild referred to this inequality in the family as the "second shift."
This kind of "invisible" overtime is equivalent to mothers working for one more month a year!
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The identity of a mother should not be a shackle for women in the workplace
Recently, the flu in Beijing was severe, and I took the baby to the hospital a few days ago, and I heard a husband in the hospital loudly scolding his wife for not taking good care of the child, and I was really speechless.
The child is not the responsibility of the mother alone, and it needs to be shared by two people.
Mothers have the responsibility to take care of their children, but fathers are also inescapable of existing.
I hope every father can realize that this kind of accusation of throwing off the uncle is no different from throwing the pot in the workplace!
Under the flu, many of our offices have started the "hospital-home-office" mode.
Take the baby to see a doctor in the middle of the night, the number is 800+, and after settling the baby, I have to return to work non-stop.
Looking at the tired faces, I told everyone, try to take care of the baby first, after all, this flu is really serious, and a person's energy is limited.
I also want to give this sentence to my sisters, don't be too yourself, no one is superhuman.
Trying to handle both the workplace and the family perfectly at the same time is an unrealistic expectation in itself. Our time is limited, but that doesn't mean we give our children less love.
The writer Adichie said, "Be a well-rounded person." Motherhood is an honor, but you don't have to define yourself by being a mother. ”
We should not only be defined as mothers, but should be remembered by our infinite possibilities!
I hope this article can bring you some comfort and strength, and I also want to take this opportunity to say to all the hard-working mothers: you are doing a great job, let's work together!