First sentence: useless things
It's a denial, a denial, a blow. By saying this, you are telling your child that he or she has no value, no ability, no hope. By saying this, you are destroying your child's self-confidence, self-esteem, self-love. By saying this, you are making your child feel like a failure, a waste, a liability. When you say this, you are burying the psychological shadow of your child's future, so that he (she) lacks courage and confidence in the face of challenges and difficulties, and even chooses to give up and escape.
Second sentence: I'm all for your good
It is an imposition, a control, an interference. By saying this, you are telling your child that you know what is good better than he or her, and that you have more power than him or her to decide his or her life. By saying this, you are depriving your children of choice, freedom, responsibility. By saying this, you are making your child feel like a puppet, an appendage, an impotent person. When you say this, you are burying your child's future dependence, so that he (she) lacks judgment and initiative in the face of change and decision-making, and even chooses to be obedient and accommodating.
Sentence 3: Look at people, look at you
It's a comparison, a jealousy, a mockery. By saying this, you are telling your child that he or she is inferior to others, that he or she should learn from others, and that he or she should compete with others. When you say this, you ignore your child's personality, strengths, and interests. By saying this, you are making your child feel like a failure, a trash, a laughing stock. When you say this, you are burying your child's future inferiority, so that he (she) lacks appreciation and learning in the face of excellence and success, and even chooses jealousy and hatred.
These three sentences hurt your children, how detrimental to your children's growth, and how much they violate your parents' hearts. You love your child, you want your child to be happy, and you want your child to succeed. Then, instead of saying these three words to your child, you should say something more beneficial to your child:
- I believe in you, you are capable, you can do it.
- I respect you, you have a choice, you can decide.
- I appreciate you, you have personality and you can develop.
In this way, it is the real encouragement, the real care, the real education. In this way, your child can feel your love, feel your support, and feel your encouragement. In this way, your child's self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-love can be cultivated. In this way, you can help your child grow into an independent, free, and responsible person. In this way, you can let your children have courage, confidence, wisdom and kindness in the face of challenges and difficulties, changes and decision-making, and excellence and success in their future lives.