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My name is Lin Lu, I am 65 years old this year, and I have been retired for a few years. When my wife passed away for a long time, my children went out to work and live, and I lived alone in this old house, and my life was empty, which was so lonely.
My best friend Xiao Wang often persuaded me that it was better to find a nanny, who could do housework and have someone to talk to, so that life would not be so lonely. I thought it made sense, so I went to the nanny company and applied for one.
The nanny company introduced me to a 46-year-old male nanny named Zhang Xiaodong. He is ordinary-looking, but well-mannered. I thought that the male nanny should have more strength than the female nanny and could do some heavy work, so I decided to hire him.
On his first day of work, Zhang Xiaodong wore a clean white shirt, black pants, and slippers on his feet, looking energetic.
"Hello Auntie, I'm coming to work. Please tell me what I need to do?" He asked me with a smile.
"Oh, Mr. Zhang, you're here. It's a mess at home, so please clean up first. I said, pointing to the debris in the yard.
"Okay Auntie, I'll start working now!" Zhang Xiaodong walked into the yard in response and began to sort out the sundries.
I see that he works very hard, and I am very satisfied. At noon, I made a few dishes and asked him to eat together.
"Mr. Zhang has worked hard, let's eat. ”
"Thank you so much, Auntie! I'm hungry. Zhang Xiaodong washed his hands and sat down, and devoured it.
After lunch, Mr. Zhang took the initiative to clean up the dishes and then took a nap on the spot. I saw that he was tired from work, so I didn't wake him up.
After Mr. Zhang got up in the afternoon, he continued to clean up the yard and prune my flourishing flowers and plants. After dark, he said hello to me and left.
I am very satisfied with Zhang Xiaodong's first day of work. In the evening, I called my best friend Xiao Wang and complimented my new babysitter.
"Let me tell you, this nanny is really good! she looks like a human and has a lot of strength. Today, my house was cleaned up and the yard was repaired, I am very satisfied!" I said excitedly.
"Really?" Xiao Wang said, "Then it seems that the nanny company has introduced you to a good helper! With him taking care of the family, you will be much more relieved..."
I hung up the phone, and my heart blossomed. I finally have a helper to rely on, and life should be much easier and happier in the future...
The next day, Zhang Xiaodong still showed up at my house on time. "Good morning, Auntie, I'm here to make breakfast. What would you like to eat?" He beckoned me.
"Mr. Zhang has worked hard. I want a poached egg and a steamed pork ribs, thank you. I said.
"Okay, I'll go get ready right away. Zhang Xiaodong rolled up his sleeves and started a busy day.
After eating a delicious breakfast he cooked, I asked him to help me with household chores such as washing clothes, scrubbing windows, and sweeping and mopping. Mr. Zhang did everything correctly, I saw that he was tired from work, and at noon he specially stewed an old chicken soup to compensate him.
"Mr. Zhang, drink a bowl of chicken soup to pad your stomach, thank you for your hard work. "I brought the chicken soup to him.
"Thank you Auntie for your concern. I'm in good health, and it's nothing to do a little work. Mr. Zhang said with a smile.
For the next few days, I asked him to do some heavy work. The dead branches of the yard need to be trimmed, and the old paint on the walls should be refreshed. I left it all to Mr. Zhang. He didn't shirk it, as soon as I opened my mouth and commanded, he would do it immediately.
I'm really worry-free, I can get anything done, and I'm diligent and obedient. I'm getting more and more satisfied with him.
But after Mr. Zhang worked for a few days, one day he suddenly came to me and asked: "Auntie, I work so hard, can I raise my salary a little?"
I was a little embarrassed because I didn't have much pension and couldn't afford to pay more. But for the sake of his labor, I still agreed and let him increase his monthly salary by 500 yuan.
I thanked me with joy and turned to continue washing my clothes. I looked at his back and sighed silently in my heart - my pension is used to support a nanny, and it is estimated that I will have to save money.
Over the next few days, my attitude at work seemed to deteriorate. He often makes excuses to be lazy, and sometimes deliberately delays his appearance until noon. I asked him to do the laundry, and he only half did it and went to rest; Ask him to paint the wall, and he will hastily brush it twice and say that he is tired.
I saw that he was lazy, and my heart was on fire. I have to do a good job after paying for labor, and he is obviously taking advantage of me!
So one day at noon, when I was sleeping in the house again, I couldn't bear to wake him up: "Hey, Mr. Zhang, you get up for me, don't know to be lazy all day long!"
Mr. Zhang sat up sleepily: "Auntie, I didn't sleep well last night, and now I'm dizzy and want to make up for sleep, so let me sleep again..."
I was angry: "I find all kinds of excuses to be lazy every day! I thought I hired a good nanny, it seems that you are just like those waste, and you will only take advantage of me!"
Mr. Zhang's face sank, and he got up and walked out. I was so angry that I threw the rag on his back: "You come back for me!
Mr. Zhang left quickly, slammed the door shut, and never came back...
I was so angry that I stomped my feet and secretly cursed myself for being so bad that I couldn't even hire a nanny for eight lifetimes! I couldn't wait to bring that Mr. Zhang back and teach him a good lesson, so that I could quench the hatred in my heart!
After a day without a babysitter, the next day I went to the babysitter company to complain and asked for a different babysitter. To my surprise, the company said that Zhang Xiaodong had offered to resign.
Only then did I realize that after Mr. Zhang left that day, he did not return to my house to work, and submitted his resignation report to the company, saying that I was often unreasonable and that he really could not continue to work.
I was furious when I heard this, and blamed all the blame on Zhang Xiaodong. I told the person in charge of the company that he had a poor working attitude, was often lazy, and carried my family things behind my back, which was simply a liar! I asked the company to compensate me for my losses.
But I rummaged through the cabinets and found that there were no valuables missing from the house. I can only admit that I am unlucky and will not be pursued again.
After a few days, I finally found a new nanny, Aunt Li. She was in her fifties, but she looked in good spirits. I asked her to clean first, checked for a few days, and felt that she was careful and responsible, so I was relieved to let her work in my house for a long time.
Aunt Li treats me very respectfully and often asks me to watch TV and take a break and do the housework by myself. I enjoyed this life with peace of mind, and gradually left Zhang Xiaodong's affairs behind.
I don't know that the good times will not last long. One day I went to the supermarket and came back, and when I opened the door, I felt that the house was in a mess. I went to my room and was stunned – the gold necklace I had kept in my closet was gone, and my favorite pair of jade bracelets were gone!
I hurriedly checked the other rooms and found that they had all rummaged through the traces. Many valuables have disappeared, apparently stolen by thieves.
I immediately thought of the only person who had a chance to do it—Aunt Li! Although she seemed to be honest, she might be a treacherous thief!
I immediately called Auntie Li to rush back, and she showed up quickly.
"Aunt Li, explain to me quickly, where did my family's gold necklace and jade bracelet go?" I asked.
Aunt Li looked dazed: "Auntie, I really don't know what the necklace and bracelet you are talking about, I have never seen it!"
"And you said no! Yesterday when I was away, you raided my room and stole everything valuable! And you want to find an excuse to fool me?" When I saw that she didn't admit it, I was so angry that my face turned red.
"Auntie, please believe me, I really didn't take anything from you! Aunt Li took two steps back in fear.
The more I listened, the more angry I became, and I directly stepped forward and grabbed her by the collar: "Aren't you still stubborn? Take out all my belongings! Otherwise, I will directly call the police and let you enter the bureau!"
"Auntie, help! I really didn't take anything!" Aunt Li was grabbed by me and shook her head desperately to deny it.
At this moment, I saw my granddaughter next door, Zhao Yuqin, walking out with a bag in her hand. I saw a golden glow in the bag, and immediately wondered if my necklace was being sold by her.
I immediately let go of Aunt Li and chased after her. At this time, Zhao Yuqin seemed to find that the situation was wrong, and ran away with the bag...
I chased after Zhao Yuqin out of breath, and when I saw her turn into a small alley, I blocked her at the entrance of the alley.
"Zhao Yuqin, you stop for me! I shouted.
Zhao Yuqin was caught by me, with a weak expression on her face: "Auntie, you get out of the way, this has nothing to do with you..."
"It's okay, I see it's not my gold necklace in your bag, right?" I snatched the bag from her hand, and sure enough, it was my gold necklace.
I flipped out the necklace and compared it, it was exactly what I was missing, and the mark on it was still there. Looks like this thief really stole my stuff!
"Give it back to me! That's mine!" Seeing that the matter was defeated, Zhao Yuqin became wild, and pounced to snatch the bag back.
"You thief still dare to rob me?" I pounced on her and kicked her to the ground. This little thief looks at Wen Wen quietly on weekdays, but he didn't expect it to be a robber!
"Where did you steal everything else from my house?" I pressed Zhao Yuqin to ask.
"I only took the necklace! I don't know the rest!" Zhao Yuqin cried.
I didn't think she was lying, so I had to take her to the police station first. When the police came to interrogate her, she confessed that she had only stolen my gold necklace and that my other belongings had nothing to do with her.
It dawned on me that I had wronged Aunt Li before! It was inappropriate for me to treat her as a thief after hearing her and convicting her. Now that I think about it, I was so unfair to Aunt Li.
After dealing with Zhao Yuqin, I hurried home to apologize to Aunt Li.
"Aunt Li, I'm sorry, it's me who blames you! Just now I found the real thief, it was my granddaughter next door who took my gold necklace, and it has nothing to do with you. It's really clumsy that I've wronged you. I bowed to her with reproach.
"Auntie, don't say that, what's wrong with you?" Aunt Li hurriedly helped me up.
"I shouldn't doubt you easily. You've always been a good babysitter, but it's a shame that I listened to my own assumptions. I'm so sorry!" I felt guilty.
"Auntie, I forgive you for your mistake, this is also an unintentional mistake. Rest assured, I won't mind and will continue to work hard here. Aunt Li said tolerantly.
That's when I was relieved. I made a serious mistake, but Aunt Li didn't blame me and forgave me. I should be thankful for her tolerance.
From this incident, I learned that you should not be suspicious of others. I want to generalize, but think more from the perspective of others. Sometimes our guesses can be purely subjective.
I decided that I would be more open-minded and generous to people in the future. You can't deny a person because of one or two small frictions, but learn to forgive others.
I am grateful to Auntie Li for giving me this valuable life lesson. I will keep this experience in mind and strive to be a more just and wise person.
After experiencing this series of misunderstandings and lessons, my relationship with Aunt Li turned out to be more harmonious than before.
Aunt Li did not leave because of my false accusations, but continued to come to my house every day to help with household chores. I am very grateful for her tolerance.
One morning, when I got up, I smelled the smell of rice, and when I walked to the kitchen, I saw that Aunt Li had already prepared hot soy milk and fragrant buns.
"Auntie, you're up! I've made breakfast, let's eat together." Aunt Li greeted me with a smile.
I was moved and blamed at the same time. As an employer, I shouldn't have asked Aunt Li to do so much, but I should serve her.
"Aunt Li, I should serve you, how can I let you get up early and serve me greedily at night?" I don't want to go.
"Auntie, what do you say, this is my duty as a nanny, you can just enjoy it. "Aunt Li helped me to the chair.
As I tasted her food, I felt like I had gone back to the days when my mother was still alive when I was younger. Aunt Li took care of me like a relative, and my eyes couldn't help but moisten.
Since that day, I have been much closer to Aunt Li. I treat her like a family member, and I often tell her to pay attention to her body and worry less. I gave her a salary increase and asked her to have an extra meal at my house.
Aunt Li also became more and more aware of my preferences. She often prepares my favorite hometown specialties and invites me to watch my favorite TV series together. Sometimes when I was sick alone, she would take good care of me.
I felt like I had acquired a quiet and virtuous daughter. With her, my old age was rich and warm. I often say to myself, "Thank God for letting Aunt Li come into my life, I am so happy." ”
I have been with Aunt Li for more than a year now. Occasionally I remember the unpleasant misunderstandings I had a year ago, but I no longer hold grudges. On the contrary, I am grateful for the twists and turns, which made me realize that I should not generalize.
Auntie Li and I have now built a strong trust. We became the best friends and family. Although I am old, with her warmth, my life is so happy and satisfying.
I often say to Aunt Li: "Auntie, with your company, I am really lucky in my old age." In the future, we must be together forever and care for each other like relatives!"
Aunt Li always smiled and nodded, saying that she would always be with me. Every now and then, I feel like life is so good.
In this way, my relationship with Aunt Li became extremely strong. We have completely put aside the misunderstandings of the past and cherish the harmony of the present.
One day at noon, we ate and chatted together in the courtyard. Aunt Li suddenly asked me, "Auntie, I heard you mention that you hired a male nanny before, why did you leave later?"
When I mentioned Zhang Xiaodong, I was still a little melancholy: "Alas, that was the first nanny I found, named Zhang Xiaodong." At first, he worked very hard, and I praised him. But then his attitude got worse and worse, and he was often lazy, so I got angry and drove him away. ”
"I see. Aunt Li nodded, "But I think maybe you can be a little more lenient with him." Anyone will be tired or bored at work, but that doesn't mean he's a lazy person. ”
I was a little surprised to hear it, because I had never thought about it from this perspective.
"Auntie, what you said makes sense. "My misconceptions about him at the time may have caused someone who could have been a good friend to leave my life." It's so unfair to him. ”
"Yes, people are not sages, and they are infallible. Aunt Li said, "Actually, Mr. Zhang must be very anxious in his heart, he is only temporarily depressed." If you can understand him, he may be able to regain his positive attitude. ”
After listening to Aunt Li's analysis, I was deeply moved. I shouldn't deny Zhang Xiaodong because of a few small mistakes, but I should take the initiative to care about his psychological state.
"Aunt Li, thank you for helping me broaden my horizons. You're right, I shouldn't dismiss a person easily, but learn to put myself in his shoes. I said gratefully.
"My old friend, no one is perfect, and we all need to be understanding and tolerant of each other. Aunt Li looked at me with a smile.
Through this conversation, I learned not to have preconceptions about others. Everyone may be in poor shape for a while, and I should give him time to recover.
The most precious thing between people is mutual understanding and forgiveness. I know I still have a long way to go, but with Aunt Li as a mentor and friend, I will definitely become wiser and more generous.
I learned a lot of valuable life lessons from her. I would like to thank God for allowing us to meet and get this best life coach. In the days to come, I will always remember her teachings and strive to be an empathetic and generous person.
After an in-depth exchange with Aunt Li, my view of life has been sublimated. I began to reflect on my previous misunderstanding of Zhang Xiaodong.
Maybe I should have taken the initiative to confide in Zhang Xiaodong to understand his true thoughts, instead of directly blaming him, so that our relationship might not break down.
I decided to go to Zhang Xiaodong to apologize and express my apologies. More than a year has passed, but I believe it is never too late to make a sincere apology.
With the help of Aunt Li, I finally found the place where Zhang Xiaodong is working now. I came up to him and bowed to him sincerely.
"Mr. Zhang, I'm Lin Lu. I am deeply sorry for the past, I should not blame you in the first place, and I hope you will forgive me for my mistakes. ”
Zhang Xiaodong was stunned for a moment, and then smiled: "Aunt Lin, you are polite." That's all in the past, and I don't mind anymore. ”
"No, I was wrong. You may only be temporarily upset, and I should understand you. Please also give me a chance to be a new person. I said sincerely.
"Okay, I understand you. Let's be friends again. Zhang Xiaodong said briskly.
I didn't expect Zhang Xiaodong to forgive me so quickly, and the barrier in my heart was finally removed. We chatted happily for a long time, telling our hearts and minds at that time, and clearing up all misunderstandings.
I sincerely apologized to Zhang Xiaodong, and he accepted my apology with tolerance. This time I reconciled, and it felt like our friendship had been sublimated to a new level.
It occurred to me that when I doubted Aunt Li at the beginning, she also forgave me so leniently. And now I've finally learned to forgive. These are all the teachings of Aunt Li that made me grow.
In life, I knew I couldn't be perfect. But as long as I remain humble and introspective, tolerant and kind, someone will always forgive me for my mistakes.
I want to be forever grateful to Aunt Li for this life lesson I have learned. I will work hard to have more opportunities to repay her in my later years.
From now on, I will look at everyone with a more tolerant and peaceful mind. The world is a better place because of love, and I would like to establish a relationship of mutual understanding and love with everyone. A fulfilling old age, I look forward to creating with you.