It's a nightmare for me to this day. Well, just the other day, my uncle's son, who is also my cousin Han Peng, got married.
As a token of my blessing, I decided to give my cousin a red envelope. Considering the importance of getting married, I withdrew 50,000 yuan from the bank.
After all, my cousin and I grew up together and had a deep relationship.
On that day, I dressed up as usual and went to the wedding. Seeing Han Peng wearing a suit and greeting the guests with a smile on his face, I still felt an inexplicable uneasiness.
It's my turn to go on stage to congratulate you. I handed Han Peng a thick red envelope, hoping that he could feel my blessing and care for him.
I suddenly felt embarrassed, and my heart was even more remorseful.
I heard my aunt say dissatisfiedly: "After so many years, don't you know that you should give some generous red envelopes at the wedding?" What kind of messy makeup was added, it cost 50,000 yuan, which is obviously too much.
At this time, the cousin hurriedly played a round: "Mom, cousin doesn't want to be nice to me, don't be angry." "When I heard my cousin's words, I felt a little comforted, and I also felt that my cousin understood and tolerated me.
The whole wedding atmosphere became a little awkward, and I decided to leave quickly. Later, I kept thinking about the events of that day, why was my aunt so dissatisfied with me? Am I doing something wrong? Maybe the red envelope I gave was not generous enough.
Although my cousin didn't say much, I knew that he was also a little uncomfortable. I would like to have a good chat with him and explain my confusion and contradictions.
It's just that I don't know how to speak. Perhaps, we need a sincere communication to get closer to each other's hearts and understand each other's hearts better.
A few days later, I received another upsetting phone call from my cousin, Xiao Ming. He told me that his wife, Xiaofang, was going to have a birthday party and he wanted to go in person, but he had been too busy with his work to take time off.
When I heard this request, I felt a sense of conflict in my heart. I know this is an important thing for my cousin, the couple has always been very busy, with a hectic pace of life, and they rarely have time to get together.
However, I have a lot of things to take care of myself, work and family need to be taken care of, and going to a birthday party is really a bit inconvenient for me.
On the day of the party, I bought a beautiful birthday present at my cousin's request. When I walked into the party, I saw Xiaofang smiling happily, and her face was full of happiness.
I sat quietly and watched everyone chatting and laughing. Suddenly, I felt someone walk up to me, it was Xiaoli, a relative of Xiaofang, and she whispered to me, "You know what? Xiaofang has been complaining about you lately, saying that you don't care enough about her and always don't show up when she needs it most.
When I heard these words, my heart was a little heavy. I didn't expect that Xiaofang would have such dissatisfaction and complaints about me.
I started to reflect on my actions and attitudes and felt like I was really not doing well enough.
I hurried to my cousin, hoping to learn more and help them resolve the conflict. My cousin told me that during this time, the communication between their husband and wife became less and less, and the misunderstanding and dissatisfaction between each other increased.
When I heard this, I felt very distressed. My cousin and sister-in-law are a happy family, and they have been silently dedicating themselves to the family, but they have gone further and further in such contradictions.
It's a difficult and complex task, and I know it takes a lot of effort to achieve. However, I am willing to work hard for the importance of family affection.
When I got home, I was immersed in the awkward atmosphere of the wedding reception for a long time. I realized that my aunt folded my red envelope not just because of the size of the amount, but more because she was unhappy with my "messy makeup" at my cousin's wedding.
I thought about it all night and even lost sleep all night. My aunt had high expectations of me, and she wanted me to be a capable and responsible person, not a mediocre person who wasted time and money.
The next day, I told my father what I thought. My father was an experienced man, and his words were always instructive to me.
My father was silent for a long time. Eventually, he looked at me deeply and said, "Son, you care what your aunt and cousin think, it's a sign of respect for family relationships, but you can't position yourself exactly according to their expectations.
In life, there will be expectations at any time, but you have to understand that what really matters is how you see yourself.
I was touched by these words. My father's words speak to my contradictions, that I should not lose myself completely in order to cater to others, that I should find balance in my family relationships.
On the same day, I found my aunt. She was drying her clothes in the yard, and hung up a piece of clothing with a solemn expression.
My aunt looked up at me with a hint of surprise in her eyes. She nodded and motioned for me to sit down.
My aunt listened to me quietly, then remained silent for a long time. Eventually, she sighed deeply and said, "I know that you are a capable and responsible person, and you are also a responsible cousin.
There was a smile of relief on my aunt's face, and she held my hand tightly: "Child, we are all family, and family affection is the most important thing.
I felt my aunt's kindness and understanding, as well as the importance of family relationships. This conversation gave us an opportunity to face each other more authentically and honestly, and to resolve conflicts and disputes.
So, I decided to find a chance to talk to my cousin alone. One night a few days later, I plucked up the courage to call my cousin.
"Hey, Han Peng, I have something to tell you." I tried to control my tone.
"What's the matter, cousin?" There was a hint of curiosity in my cousin's voice.
"Do you remember that red envelope at the wedding? I felt that my aunt was not very satisfied with the red envelope I gave. I asked hesitantly.
The cousin was silent for a while, and there was a hint of apology in his voice: "Cousin, I know this matter bothers you, and I don't know how to explain it.
I was confused by my cousin's answer, and I didn't understand why my aunt would be so sensitive to money.
"I'm sorry, cousin, I should have explained it to you in advance." There was a hint of apology in my cousin's voice.
"No, Han Peng, you're not wrong. It's because I don't know the rules of the family. I took a deep breath and tried to calm myself down.
Hearing me say this, there was a hint of comfort in my cousin's voice: "Cousin, I'm glad you think so. We are a family, and we should support and understand each other, rather than creating barriers because of some superficial things.
I was relieved by this conversation, and I knew we had a direction to solve the problem. Conflicts and disputes in the family are inevitable, but we must not allow these disputes to distort family relationships.
This question is not only about my relationship with my cousin, but also about the harmony of our family. I hope that through this conversation, we will be able to become closer and understand each other better.
While the family dispute between me and my cousin had not yet been resolved, something unexpected happened.
A few days later, I received a phone call from my aunt. There was nervousness and anxiety in her voice: "Cousin, I want to talk to you about Han Peng's marriage."
My heart sank, and I didn't know what my aunt wanted to say. I agreed to her request and went to my aunt's house at the appointed time.
I opened the envelope and inside was a lawyer's letter. I frowned and asked my aunt, "What's going on?" ”
The aunt explained with a wry smile: "This is sent by Han Peng's parents, and they ask me to return the 50,000 red envelopes you gave to Han Peng."
I felt angry and helpless, I didn't do anything wrong! The size of the cousin's wedding red envelope should not have caused controversy and disputes.
I decided to sit down with Han Peng's parents and have a good talk to clear up the dispute. I made an appointment to meet them at a café.
Han Peng's parents did not give up and insisted that I return the 50,000 yuan within three days. I had nothing to say but left the café in silence.
When I got home, I felt helpless and aggrieved. The former family affection and love have become so fragile on this red envelope.
I decided to keep the $50,000 while seeking legal assistance. I learned that according to the provisions of the law, the red envelope I gave was a gift exchange and there was nothing illegal.
Family affection is both a soft feather and a sharp sword. Our relationship is too complex to be separated.
In the future, there will be more choices and challenges waiting for me. I hope to find a way to resolve the conflict between family and family, so that the family can return to harmony and warmth.