Text/End Xiaobei
When a relationship ends, most women will attribute the reason to the man, thinking that it is the man's reason, and the relationship will come to an end.
Xiaobei felt that this was unreasonable.
Because, in a relationship, a slap does not make a sound, if it is only a one-sided reason, then the relationship should not have started.
In other words, how can the other party be with you if they don't love you at all?
You may say that the other person is not in love after being together, but why is the other party like this?
In a relationship, love may not need a reason, but not love needs a reason, and it must be hurt in the relationship, or you don't know what will happen to the relationship in the end, so you do it.
At all times, you must know that in a relationship, if a woman knows how to do this, then she will definitely get more love from men, instead of pushing men farther and farther.
- Men help when they need it
Many women feel that men are omnipotent, they can withstand all kinds of pain, but in fact, this is not the case, men are also physical bodies, and they will also encounter painful things.
Once you encounter something painful, you hope that your beloved can comfort you, if at this time, you not only give him comfort, but also provide him with help, then how can he not love you?
If at this time, not only do you not help, but also laugh at him, even if he still loves you, I am afraid that he will stay away from you.
My friend Wang Yan has a deep understanding of this.
Wang Yan said that if the relationship can be renewed, she will never laugh at her boyfriend, but comfort him, give him encouragement, and help him get out of the trough of life.
Wang Yan and her boyfriend met online, and after chatting for a while, they found that the other party was good, and soon met offline and established a relationship.
After a year of dating, my boyfriend had problems at work, and he wanted to quit his job, but he didn't know what he would do if he quit. During that time, my boyfriend hesitated and didn't know what to do.
When her boyfriend asked Wang Yan for help, Wang Yan said that he was quite a big man, do you still need to consider such a trivial matter? Even if you are not satisfied with your work, you still have to do it if you can't find a better one.
After Wang Yan finished speaking, her boyfriend felt very uncomfortable, he didn't expect the person he loved. Will say something like that.
After continuing to maintain it for a while, the boyfriend still chose to resign.
After learning that her boyfriend resigned, Wang Yan was furious, she asked her boyfriend after he resigned, what would the two of them eat in the future, could it be expected that her meager salary?
After Wang Yan got angry, she originally thought that her boyfriend would think about it seriously, but she didn't expect her boyfriend to directly propose to break up.
Although Wang Yan did not agree to break up, her boyfriend was very resolute. No way, in the end, the two became familiar strangers.
When Wang Yan complained to me, I didn't comfort her, because all this was her fault, and I couldn't blame anyone.
When I saw such a sentence on the Internet, I was particularly touched: "In a relationship, you don't have to be an all-powerful person in everything, but you must at least be able to provide some help when men need you most." ”
Even if the help you give to a man is insignificant, then the man will be very happy, at least you are willing to share his worries.
- When you go out, give him some face
Compared with women, men especially want face.
When you are at home, he may not care about what you do, but outside, he especially wants you to give him face.
If you give him face, then he will work hard when he returns home, and if you don't give him face, then he may be very angry when he returns home, and it will even affect the relationship.
I watched a video and was particularly touched:
There is a couple who have a very good relationship, every time they return home, the man will take the initiative to take care of the housework, never complain, and the friend will learn from the woman, wondering why the man is like this.
When a friend asked herself, the woman didn't hide it, and directly said that the reason why her husband was like this was because she would give her husband face outside.
As long as he is outside, even if the man is wrong, even if he fights for three points unreasonably, the woman will try to give him face and will not lose her temper with him.
It's not that a man doesn't know that he's wrong, but he wants to save face and doesn't want others to know that he's a strict wife outside.
But if you can give him face outside, then how can he not give you face when you return home?
Xiaobei has heard such a very reasonable sentence: "A smart woman especially knows how to control the psychology of a man's love of face." No matter what they are at home, when they are away from home, they usually give enough face to men. ”
As a woman, if you want to get along with each other well, then please help the man when he needs help, and give him face when he is outside, if you can do it, he will definitely hurt you to the bone.