Dictation: Zhang Yuanyuan
Author: Xiaoya
I am 29 years old, I got married three years ago, and I gave birth to a daughter half a year ago.
The reason why it is not good is because poor couples mourn everything. My husband and I both come from rural families, and our family conditions are average. My parents work odd jobs outside the home, and their income is unstable, but fortunately, I am an only child and can already support myself, and my mother has also bought pension insurance, and when I am old, I have an income, and the burden is not too big.
The situation here is not much better than mine, my in-laws were originally farmers who farmed for a living, and gave birth to a son and a daughter, and the eldest sister was three years older than my husband.
Because the money earned from farming is difficult to meet the needs of the family, 20 years ago, my in-laws had to leave their hometown to work, entrusting a pair of children to my husband's grandparents.
Now, my mother-in-law is taking care of my children, and my father-in-law is still working in the factory, saying that he wants to save more money for the elderly and reduce the burden on us.
As for not being bad, it means that my husband and in-laws are quite good to me. My husband graduated from 211 University and is currently working in a private company, with a monthly salary of about eight or nine thousand, I also graduated from 211 University, and the salary was quite high, but since I was pregnant, the company gave me small shoes, which made it difficult for me, and I couldn't stand the grievances and resigned in a fit of anger, and found a new job two months ago.
My mother-in-law was taking care of the children with me, and the two of us got along quite well and had a clear agreement. During the day, I go to work, and the children are under her control, so she has the final say on how to take her. When I come back from work in the evening, the children are in my charge, and I have the final say on how to take them.
Yesterday was Sunday, and I went to my colleague's house as a guest: "Yuanyuan, I see that you seem to be in a bad mood for the past two days, what's wrong?" Is it not going well at work? ”
I sighed and told her the truth: "I went shopping on a Friday night and met my ex-boyfriend. ”
Hearing this, my colleague asked me curiously: "Speaking of your ex-boyfriend, I was curious, but I was afraid that you would be sad, so I didn't ask you." You've been together for three years, why did you break up? I heard that your mother disagrees? ”
I nodded, I have been with my ex-boyfriend for three years, and I am in love with each other very deeply, but my mother does not agree to this family affair and strongly urges me to break up.
My mother's reason is just six words, the door is not the right one.
Hearing this, my colleague felt incomprehensible, after all, my family conditions are not good. I gave her a blank look: "My mom mean, I don't deserve him." ”
My ex-boyfriend is my college classmate, 11 years ago, I knew that only my own efforts can change my fate, not to repeat the fate of my parents, I was admitted to a 211 university through hard work, and I came to study in other provinces alone.
In the second semester of my freshman year, my classmate Lin Hui sent me a message: "Zhang Yuanyuan, I like you, can you give me a chance to be your boyfriend?" ”
Seeing this news, I thought that someone was joking with me at first, after all, I was not good-looking, I was dressed old-fashioned, and my family conditions were not good, so I never thought that love would come to me so soon.
I ignored him, and the next day, Lin Hui ran to the bottom of my dormitory building, holding flowers and confessing to me, saying that he was attracted by my temperament, and he was sincere to me, hoping that I could give him a chance.
When my classmates saw this scene, they coaxed, and my roommates shouted "promise him", and in the end, I accepted Lin Hui's confession with a red face, and the two of us became a pair of lovers.
We talked together for three years, and when we came to graduation, we decided to stay in the city where the university is located, and we discussed that we wanted to settle down here and break out of our own world.
Less than two months after graduation, our relationship was known to my parents, just because my mother didn't say hello to come to see me, and happened to meet me and Lin Hui together, so I naturally understood what happened.
At first, my mother didn't object to the relationship between the two of us, but when she talked to Lin Hui for most of the day, her face became ugly, which made me and Lin Hui feel very uneasy and didn't understand what was going on.
When my mother left, she asked me to send her, and on the way, my mother looked at me with a look of wanting to speak, I was anxious, and asked her what she was dissatisfied with Lin Hui.
"In terms of personal strength, he is my college classmate, he has found a job, his income is not low, and in terms of family conditions, he is much better than our family!"
My mother interrupted me: "It's the family conditions, his family is much better than ours, so I don't think I'm optimistic about you." Child, it's not that your mother is ruthless and wants to beat the mandarin ducks, but that you are not a circle of people, and you are the one who forcibly squeezes in and hurts you! ”
Hearing this, my best friend asked me what Lin Hui's family conditions were. I told him that Lin Hui was an only child from a second-tier provincial town, his father worked in a state-owned enterprise, and his mother was a middle school teacher.
The best friend nodded: "Mom is right, think about it, if my son is in this situation, I will never agree to the two of you being together, this is human nature." I guess his parents don't approve of you being together, right? ”
I nodded, at that time, I argued with my mother, saying that we really love each other, Lin Hui didn't mind my family conditions, and my mother couldn't do anything about me, so she asked me to meet Lin Hui's parents.
Before leaving, my mother gave me advice: "If his parents approve of this family business, then I have nothing to say, you can get married." If his parents don't agree, you break up quickly, I tell you, a marriage that is not favored by your parents cannot go to the end, and he can't protect you. ”
After I went back, I asked Lin Hui to go to see his parents with trepidation, and he agreed. A month later, we went to his hometown.
My mother said that although Lin Hui's parents warmly welcomed me, they were very polite and alienated from me, as if emphasizing that I was just Lin Hui's college classmate, not their daughter-in-law.
I left in a daze, before leaving, Lin Hui's mother stuffed me with a red envelope, I opened it and saw that it was 100 yuan and a note.
"Girl, maybe you are very good, but we are not people in the same circle, I am glad that my son has a friend like you, but you are not the daughter-in-law I want, please understand."
When Lin Hui saw it, he was very angry and wanted to call to question his mother, but I stopped him: "You tell me to calm down and think about it, okay?" ”
I went back to the rental room, cried all night, stayed awake all night, and after three days, I completely figured it out, as my mother said, the two of us are not in the same circle, we can't get along at all, and if this continues, I will only humiliate myself, so I gritted my teeth and broke up.
Lin Hui was unwilling to give up, so I had to ask him: "Can you get your parents and make them accept me from the bottom of their hearts?" ”
He was silent, and I understood what he meant, and in the end the two of us were gone.
On Friday night, I went shopping on the pedestrian street and ran into Lin Hui, but I was behind him and he didn't recognize me. I saw Lin Hui shopping with a woman, and the two of them each held a child, and I was stunned on the spot.
Soon, I was relieved, it seems that he has also found a suitable other half for himself, and he is very happy, so that's good.
He didn't let me down, but the two of us are really not suitable, destined to be inseparable, and now I can only wish him well, and hope he is happy.
My best friend also persuaded me, saying that people always have to look forward, and the past should be passed in time, only in this way can it be good for yourself and the people around you.
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