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Deng Chao and Sun Li were rumored to have "changed their marriage" again.
The reason is that "Sun Li has been raised for 7 years", and some people dug out Deng Chao's suspected response:
"I'm disappointed in my daughter-in-law", "I want to run away from this house"...
This "model couple" finally can't go on?
In fact, Deng Chao and Sun Li are doing well.
Not long ago, the whole family also spent New Year's Eve together, which is the 12th year of their marriage.
This marriage, which was once not favored, is now the envy of countless people.
In 2005, Deng Chao and Sun Li fell in love because of the drama and came together after cooperating in "Happiness Like Flowers".
One is quiet, the other is moving; Deng Chao likes Sun Li to be not impetuous, and Sun Li likes Deng Chao's sunny warmth.
Complementary personalities allow each other to gain something new.
In 2006, the two were photographed traveling together in Sanya, and Sun Li nervously called Ji Ren for help.
Deng Chao, who saw this scene in his eyes, said: "She always said what to do at the time, she was very cute, and I especially wanted to protect her." ”
The two generously admitted their relationship, but it attracted many doubts.
At that time, Sun Li was in the rising period of her career and was the first sister of the company, while Deng Chao was still a tepid actor.
Before this, Deng Chao and Hao Lei had a sister-brother relationship and lived together for three years.
But Sun Li doesn't care, she just wants him to be good to her.
After getting married, Deng Chao said to Sun Li: "I have seen some full-time wives who are haunted by housework all day long, I hope you can be free and have Sun Li's own life." ”
He encouraged Sun Li to do what she loves and to pursue her goals.
is an actor and a director, and he worked hard in the last variety show. Work hard for your own career and work hard for him and her family.
There are frequent rumors of derailment in the outside world, but it does not affect the two to show affection.
After 10 years of marriage, they are still like a couple in love, and they have lived a quiet life.
In 2020, Sun Li was nominated for the 26th Magnolia Best Actress, but was not selected.
Deng Chao sent a bouquet of magnolias, which was both a comfort and a confession:
"Wait until you come home, my heroine."
Every year on Sun Li's birthday, Deng Chao will think of different tricks to surprise Sun Li.
For example, take a screenshot of the stuck time of the nine-square grid.
Sun Li is the same, and does not hesitate to express her love publicly.
Show affection generously;
Leave a cup of warm water for him who returns late;
Promote his show.
In the entertainment industry, they let us understand:
Marriage is not the grave of love.
There is a line in "The Age of Naked Marriage": "It took me 9 years to understand a truth: details defeat love." ”
What really kills marriage is the small details.
And the cheats to keep your marriage fresh are also small details.
The secret to a long-lasting marriage is to be able to support each other and keep yourself.
Not sacrificing each other, but fulfilling each other.
In 2011, Sun Li was on the rise in her career, and she made a major decision to get married and have children.
At that time, everyone was against it, they knew that the golden period of an actress's acting career was too precious, and a new generation of beautiful flowers emerged in an endless stream, and once they made a mistake, they would be easily eliminated by the market.
Even her agent, Guo Si, repeatedly advised her to think about it.
Faced with dissuasion from the outside world, Sun Li decided to "not please" anyone.
But the results were not as bad as the outside world thought.
A few months after she married Deng Chao, the starring "The Legend of Zhen Huan" became a big hit, and Sun Li became the "queen of domestic dramas".
Many years later, Sun Li looked back on the mental journey before marriage in an interview:
They weren't me, they only saw Sun Li outside. I don't want to worry too much, I just want to enjoy the best things in my life.
Choose a family in the rising period and converge your edge when it becomes popular. doesn't please others, doesn't wronged herself, she lives very transparently.
Sun Li's drama is a hot one, and her career and family are open at the same time, because she knows how to make trade-offs.
In 2018, Sun Li won the Feitian Award for "Best Actress" with "The Year the Flowers Bloomed and the Moon Was Full", she said:
I've acted in two TV series in the past four or five years, and I've actually spent my time with my children. Now that my children have grown up, I have more time to film, and I will act better and more seriously.
She loves children and acting.
So she used the low output of one drama a year in exchange for time with her family, but at the same time, she continued to polish her acting skills in each play, and used extraordinary self-discipline to knock herself to death.
She constantly adjusts the balance between family and career in the trade-offs, clarifies her pursuits, and gains while giving up.
Sun Li loves acting, Deng Chao loves to be a director, they fulfill each other, never compromise to please each other, and do not sacrifice their own pursuit because of their family.
The philosopher Immanuel Kant said that there is nothing more terrible than that one must submit to the will of another.
Many people are accustomed to pleasing others and are accustomed to going against the grain. In fact, it is to covet a familiar stability.
With obedience, compromise, to conform to marriage, to conform to parents, to conform to partners... But in the end, he abandoned his true self.
However, the more self-possessed people are, the more unwilling they are to please others, and they do not need others to please themselves.
The way of getting along between husband and wife is also very knowledgeable.
The essence of marriage is actually two like-minded people who decide to spend the rest of their lives together.
But life is mostly trivial, and everyone has their own edges and corners.
If you don't get along in the right way, then even if the previous relationship is close, living together can become an ordeal.
Deng Chao and Sun Li have been living together for 10 years, and of course there have been frictions and quarrels during this period.
But most of the time, they always adhere to the bottom line of mutual understanding and support.
I remember that there was such a hot search news in 2020, that is, Sun Li, who was nominated for Best Actress for "An Home", still failed to win the Magnolia Award.
Countless fans who were looking forward to it deeply regretted it, and Sun Li herself was inevitably hit.
At this time, Deng Chao immediately sent his comfort and encouragement.
He also carefully went to buy a bouquet of magnolia flowers that were not yet in that season, and took his child and daughter to pick up the only heroine in his heart home.
Sun Li also did something similar for Deng Chao.
For a while, the couple was labeled as "strong women and weak men".
Sun Li was very dissatisfied and publicly supported her husband, saying; "Deng Chao has long surpassed the actor in my heart, because he has long been a director in my heart."
They are like best friends.
Always believe in each other's strength, and also give comfort and support to each other when they need it most.
In front of him, she doesn't have to pretend to be strong, she can release her weakness at will.
And if he is lost, she will never tell useless truths, but will only tell the world in the loudest voice, "He is the best!" ”
The most comfortable couple relationship seems to be like this.
It is not only people who love each other deeply, but also the most tacit partner.
You can feel free to share your joys and troubles, and you will face the ups and downs and ups and downs of life together.
Marriage is far less complicated and difficult than it seems. Don't forget the original intention and manage with heart is always the most effective secret of emotional preservation.
I sincerely hope that Deng Chao and Sun Li can always be so happy.
May each of us reap the fruits of happiness like them.