My name is Aunt Lu, I am 56 years old and have been divorced for more than 20 years. Over the years, I did not choose to remarry, but lived alone. Approaching the age of 60, my friends and family are worried about me, worried that I will have no one to rely on in my old age.
But actually, I'm quite happy with my life plan. I own a small property, retired at the age of 55, and have a monthly pension of $4,500. In addition, I also write articles part-time online, which can increase my income by more than 1,000 yuan per month. Of course, I still have a deposit and have insurance for myself. If I can't take care of myself in the future, I can choose to stay in a nursing home or ask a nanny to take care of me.
Some people may ask: why have you been divorced for many years and not choose to remarry? The reason is that I can't have children. If I remarried when I was young, they might ask me to have children, but this is not the life I want. Therefore, I chose to live alone, which I felt more comfortable with.
My ex-husband was lazy and unwilling to work, and I realized this soon after we got married. I had expected him to change, but eight years of patience was only a disappointment. In the end, I decisively filed for divorce, and he agreed without much hesitation. However, he was unwilling to leave his son to me, and I had to compromise.
After the divorce, I supported my son financially until he got married. Although my son understood my situation as he grew up, I did not expect him to provide for me. Unless he voluntarily takes this responsibility, I will not force it.
As I got older, people around me began to worry about me and mentioned remarriage. At first, I didn't want to say yes, but I couldn't stand the pressure from relatives and friends, so I went to meet anyway. After all, this is just a meeting, and nothing is lost.
In my fifties, I experienced the first half of my life, and the children grew up and had their own lives. I originally thought that I could enjoy my old age with peace of mind, but by chance, I was introduced to go on a blind date.
A few days ago, my neighbor Aunt Zhang mentioned that she wanted to introduce me to someone. Although I didn't want it initially, considering my age, it would be nice to find a partner to spend the rest of my life with, and if I couldn't find it, I would have to accept fate. Therefore, this time I did not refuse and agreed to Aunt Zhang to go on a blind date.
According to the location provided by Aunt Zhang, I came to a hotel, and the other party was already waiting for me in the private room.
I knocked on the door and asked, "Are you the big brother Wang that Aunt Zhang introduced to me?" Brother Wang immediately stood up and replied, "Yes, yes." Then he enthusiastically pulled out my chair and invited me to sit down.
Brother Wang asked me to order, but I really didn't know what to order, so I handed him the menu. To my surprise, he was very attentive and first asked me about my tastes before starting to order, ordering everything I liked.
After a while, the food was served, and we talked and enjoyed the food. Brother Wang told me that his wife died five years ago and originally did not plan to find a partner again, but she was not willing to spend the rest of her life alone. After all, life is still very long, and living alone is too lonely.
Then, Brother Wang introduced his basic situation to me. He is 63 years old and has a monthly pension of 6,500 yuan. He has only one son, and his son and daughter-in-law work in the field. He did not want to live with his son, so he chose to spend his old age alone in his hometown.
Afterwards, Brother Wang asked me what I thought of him.
My first impression was good, and he immediately said he was happy with me. So, we left each other's phone numbers.
After a few pleasantries, he jumped straight into the subject and asked me why I wanted to find a partner again. I was stunned for a moment, the question was indeed a little embarrassing, but I answered him honestly. I said that I hope to have someone who cares about and accompanies each other for the rest of my life.
He listened to my answer, smiled, and then asked me: "Then what kind of relationship do you think can be called mutual care and companionship?" "I was a bit surprised by his question, I didn't expect him to ask such an in-depth question. I thought about it and replied, "I think that caring for each other means paying attention to each other's lives and sharing each other's joys, sorrows and sorrows; Accompanying each other means that no matter what difficulties you encounter, you can work together together. ”
He nodded in agreement, and then asked me: "What do you think is the most important thing about married life?" This question made me a little embarrassed, but I answered without hesitation: "Trust, respect and understanding." He smiled and said, "Good, I think so too." ”
We had a good conversation, but I could sense that he didn't seem to have any questions out of the question. Sure enough, he took a sip of coffee, looked at me, and said, "Actually, I have another question, this question may be a little embarrassing, but I want to know, can you accept it?" I nodded and motioned for him to ask.
He paused, then asked, "Can you accept married life?" I froze, the question was indeed awkward, but I answered honestly: "Can I accept married life?"
I said, "Brother Wang, this question is indeed a bit sudden, but I can understand your concern. In this regard, I promise that I will respect your needs and also handle my emotions and feelings properly. After all, relationships built on mutual understanding and respect last longer. ”
After hearing this, Big Brother Wang smiled slightly embarrassed, and continued: "I just want to find out, after all, this is an inevitable part of our lives. So let's move on and talk about other topics. ”
So, we started talking about the trivial things in life, from hobbies to life philosophies, and we had a good time. That night, we walked the park for an hour, getting to know each other better and finding each other more interesting.
When parting, Brother Wang said: "I am very happy to chat with you today, and I hope to have the opportunity to walk together in the future." I smiled and responded, "It definitely will." "Then we said goodbye to each other and went home separately.
Since then, our friendship has gradually deepened, cared for each other and grown together. In due course, we also took our relationship one step further, meeting each other's physical needs while also nourishing each other on a spiritual level. Our story continues in harmony and respect, becoming a beautiful story.
Although this blind date made me a little embarrassed, I think the communication between us was still very pleasant. I don't know how our story will unfold, but I'm willing to try, to get to know each other, to find someone who cares about each other and accompanies each other. #Emotional History##Strange Blind Date Experience#